brissybee

I read an article a while back, supposedly well researched, which suggested one in eight married men are secretly gay (or at least bi-sexual).

I thought this was quite an amazingly high figure, though looking around, I do often see married men who might pop up on a gaydar.

I am one who, many years ago, was blind in love to what in hindsight was kind of suspicious.

But what do other BE's think?

Could 8 per cent of us really be married to men who bat for both sides?

How would a wife ever really know?

sonlymewalter

One in 8 is 12.5%

iamthecreaturefromuranus

Not enough room in my closet.

Perthbum

Yep, I can understand this, I have been sexually attracted to men in my past but have never tried to do anything about it as the pull of a women is stronger.

carolinephillips

My OH has a feminine side to his brain, but is definitely all man.

Turban Explorer

I've had a couple of bisexual boyfriends in the past. I was pretty surprised when they told me of their encounters. I've always thought I'd quite like to be a gay bloke with a stylish lifestyle. May be I should have a sex change.

TiddlyPom

Totally right I would think. I'd also think that the other way... women being bi, might be higher.

An ex bfriend was bi, much to my astonishment when he told me.
He explained it as 'Any port in a storm'

Pollyana

I've always had a lot of gay friends, male and female, and several of them have been married at some point in their lives. Some of the spouses knew, some didn't. I'd say its a very believable figure.

ukecadet

I think that you'd get a stronger pull off a man, as rule they have more strength in the wrist.

Broad Shoulders

Here is a list of men I know of on this forum

KPorte
Soapy
Iamthecreaturefromuranus
Renth
Deadvim
Bix
Cresta

and finally Bernieboy, which means being the eighth one, he has to be the closet homosexual

Pollyana

Not an image I wanted, thanks

IvanM

The Mrs says the state of my closet is a sign I am not gay. The numbers do not surprise me and the rate in my family is higher than that.

What is the estimated rate of women who are not purely hetero?

Burbage

Well, I'm not married, so it's not me.

Broad Shoulders

But does she constantly catch you playing hide-and-seek in there, is the real question?

eddie007

Yup... TOTALLY Unsurprising...

One of the gay blokes I shared a house with as a student ...last reports ... Happily married with two kids... Which is probably why he doesnt stay in touch with any of the housemates...

Or maybe his homosexuality was political, he is ambiguous and during the late eighties it was uber trendy and he really wasnt....

Dont think the gay scene in the uk was ever as "extreme" as it was in other countries at the time... A lot of the gay men I know went through the Public school system, so kept it quiet for their future civil service /banking/political/ staying in the firm aspirations....

there was always a tradition in certain "classes" for being seen to do the right thing.. Suppression of self expression for the greater good... Not many lads come from family money where there was enough and strongly enough settled on them to be flambouyantly "out" with risking disinheritence.... The ones who could...They were the lucky ones... The rest did what they did on the side and maintained that air of respectability...

Lots of reasons why men who are gay work so hard at maintaining heterosexual relationships.... Even today....