SW3105

Hi all!

So we're wanting to move to Perth, and I am so excited! Even though there is absolutely no certainty in this yet (OH has to do a whole RPL thing) but no matter, I'm still dead excited!

BUT I CAN'T TELL ANYONE!! It's not fair!

I've told my family, and that's no problem, they're cool with it. But we can't tell his Mother, she's much older (63) we can't take her with us - she would fail a medical with all her ailments and it's not that I want to be callous but my childs life is more important. OH has told his sister and brother but sworn them not to say anything - if we leave, then she will be on her own and I do feel terribly awful for that, but she does have the chance to be family sponsored out to NZ where OH's brother lives.

I can't talk about it at work, OH and I work for the same place, a condition of this visa application is that he has to stay in his current employment for the duration of the application, our company is really horrible and if they get a sniff that anyone wants to leave, they find a way to oust them. It's not fair.

I AM SO EXCITED AND CAN'T SAY A THING!!

That's it ... just needed to get that off my chest and share it with someone who probably is suffering just like I am!

Is there *anyone* I can talk to?

hereshoping

yeah talk to us...

good luck with the application, hope it all goes smoothly for you guys.

suesk

Good luck guys im sure you can keep it away from your company. If they see u grinning uncontrollably tell them u have bought a piece of land to build your dream house they dont av to know where the new house is gonna be do they.

Suexx

Racht70

Good luck with the process and just come on here when you feel like you wanna talk about it.

Welcome to BE btw.

mark 'n' joe

Welcome to BE. You can talk to us. Think I would have gone mad if i hadnt found this site. None of our families have been particularly helpful or interested in what we are doing. We work at the same place too but they have been great with refs etc. Hope all goes well with your application.

Joex

helena39

Hi Joe,

Know what you mean about family not being interested. Any time we have brought it up with the family around they just change the subject But as I said to OH, I will not let them take away from our excitement. They have said unfair things to our 2 kids, like, we'll never see you again if you move to Oz or what if you don't like it you won't be able to come home :curse: This makes me mad :curse:
BTW, welcome to the OP

Helena

SW3105

Thank you! Too right I'll come and chat here! I'm quite a forum lover anyway - that's why OH has put me on the job of finding out bits and pieces.

Is anyone else taking little people? Our daughter is 1 (just turned one on Tuesday!) We're looking at going in around 18 months provided everything goes right, so she'll be 2 and a half. When we get there, we plan on settling us all down for about a year and then trying for our next baby.

Fly Away

Welcome to BE.

Feel free to tell us all how excited you are - we know how you are feeling.

We went through a period of not being able to say anything and it was very tough. So I sympathise with you.

Have fun on BE.

smiling4

welcome and good luck - everyone's great on here!
Ems x

SW3105

Thanks everyone! I think what is making it much worse is the usual mothers guilt about going back to work (she has only just turned 1) and hating where I'm working but knowing that I'm paid a decent salary and only work 3 days a week ..

Not talking about it is really hard. OH is going to start looking at the RPL next weekend, he's going to be away for the next 3 nights for work, so I might sneak a little look at the forms, see if there is anythign I can do - I doubt it, but I might be able to help him when it comes to it.

Fly Away

Can I just prepare you a little. The RPL is possibly one of the hardest skills assessments and to complete it properly takes quite a long time. Try not to stress if it takes your OH weeks or months to do it. It is better to complete it carefully and make sure that all his abilities and experience are highlighted, rather than rush it and risk failing, just because you didn't put everything down. I know this is frustrating and depressing, but honestly, it is worth it.

Good luck.

Babycatcher

Ditto I know what you mean I won't mention it at work either in case I don't get on any courses to improve my skills etc HO HUM but I love BE and all the LUSH people out there keeping the dream alive x x x

Machiavelli

It took ages, (2 years and 7 months to be exact) for us to get our visa.

We mentioned it to our families in the beginning and they were "whatever, you'll never do it"

In the end we just got on with it, and I felt like a liar as time went on because we were doing things that our friends and family didn't know about.

When I told one of my best friends about a year into the process, she stopped talking to me, so we didn't bother telling anyone else. Maybe I'm wrong, but I always think that some of our friends were just plain jealous that we took the chance and got away with it. Maybe there are more people who would like to do it but who just don't have the guts to say, "well, I'll give it a go, all I can do is fail". There was always the chance that we'd fail ... anyway, luckily, we didn't.

When the visa came, and we'd to tell people, they were gobsmacked! We booked flights to validate and then got the chance of employment and took it so at the end everything was very rushed.

We've never looked back, it was the best thing we could have done. I don't love every day here, but I do love the life we have here.

It's all worth it in the end.

M

Off2Oz

Welcome to BE.

You'll get some fantastic advice off people from this forum. Both professionally and personally.

I know how you feel about the family. Mine are a nightmare.

Sparky wife

Welcome to BE, this is a great place to come and chat with like-minded people when you feel like you are going crazy!!!