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Re: My brain will explode Nz or Oz Help!!!!!!
Originally Posted by dave.and.lisa
(Post 5635095)
Thank you everyone for your comments this is been the hardest part of the process so far (AND WE HOUGHT THE TRA WAS HELLISH!!!) I blame my husband (which always works for me). He went off to the other side of the world in the sun lapping up the culture, while I was stuck at home with 3 kids 4 and under with a tummy bugs and head lice YUCK!!! He was suppose to come back with all the answers and all he brought back with him apart from lots of nice things for the kids and me was QUESTIONS!!! And now he tells me I have to help with coming to a joint decision were to go, He was suppose to tell me! do you think he may be worried of me saying the immortal words of 'It's all you fault you brought us all here'! lol. we are half way through our oz visa app and did that because we knew we could live in nz with it. I am now swaying towards Melbourne but my best friend and family are on there way to Welly.. but like the old saying 'money is,nt everything but it does pay the bills!'
Any way hope it wont get to the coin flip because if it does he is flipping!!!(the coin) thanks lisa |
Re: My brain will explode Nz or Oz Help!!!!!!
Originally Posted by moneypen20
(Post 5635116)
OK - big advice here. Don't necessarily go where best mate goes. If they hate it and you're not too sure, they go back and you are left unhappy. Go somewhere else and both have cheap holidays to each others home.
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Re: My brain will explode Nz or Oz Help!!!!!!
Originally Posted by dave.and.lisa
(Post 5635095)
Thank you everyone for your comments this is been the hardest part of the process so far (AND WE HOUGHT THE TRA WAS HELLISH!!!) I blame my husband (which always works for me). He went off to the other side of the world in the sun lapping up the culture, while I was stuck at home with 3 kids 4 and under with a tummy bugs and head lice YUCK!!! He was suppose to come back with all the answers and all he brought back with him apart from lots of nice things for the kids and me was QUESTIONS!!! And now he tells me I have to help with coming to a joint decision were to go, He was suppose to tell me! do you think he may be worried of me saying the immortal words of 'It's all you fault you brought us all here'! lol. we are half way through our oz visa app and did that because we knew we could live in nz with it. I am now swaying towards Melbourne but my best friend and family are on there way to Welly.. but like the old saying 'money is,nt everything but it does pay the bills!'
Any way hope it wont get to the coin flip because if it does he is flipping!!!(the coin) thanks lisa |
Re: My brain will explode Nz or Oz Help!!!!!!
Hi!
Only my opinion, but, if you have any doubts, I'd try Melbourne first. It's a beautiful city, has plenty to do, and plenty to offer. New Zealand is very beautiful, but it's also very boring, and very isolated, and VERY long drives between one town and another. I'd rather go back to Scotland than go live in NZ. Same beautiful scenery, just shorter drives to see it. As I said, only my opinion. Maggie ;)
Originally Posted by dave.and.lisa
(Post 5625730)
My other half has recently been on a recce to Nz and Oz, He went to Blenheim nz loved it wide open spaces, beautiful scenery, very family friendly and definite ethos about work to live not live to work and would work shorter days with no commute more time with the kids (as works really hard here and we see too little of him), got a job offer and very distant family there who helped sooooo much and would if we moved got a great gut feeling abut the place!! down side wages rubbish cost of living a little high. Went to Adelaide not for us so no probs.
Then went to Melbourne also loved it for very different reasons, everything you could need on your doorstep, great shops, affordable housing on new build sites looked at point cook and sanctuary lakes sooo impressed. But large built up city ?more keeping up with the jones and after talking to a few people they all seemed to work long hours about 60hrs a week on average which was expected by employers so less time with kids and half way around the world so not a big a social network with three kids 4 and under.......... Not got any of those rose tinted specs on and knew there would be pro's and con's whatever the decision but the trouble is making one... One day we do our pro's and con's list and say yes NZ definitely for us and no sooner have we uttered the words it follows by well Melbourne has got loads going for it what about when the kids are older will the open space and outdoor life be better than theater, shopping and good restaurants etc... Has anyone else been through a similar experience after a recce or is it just us? I do think I will go mad before long I only told a friend today 'no we have definitely decided it's NZ' and now I write this any thought's may be very helpful!!!! cheers lisa |
Re: My brain will explode Nz or Oz Help!!!!!!
Originally Posted by Wendy
(Post 5635278)
Your turn for a holiday? :sneaky: I'll buy you coffee :D
Maggie ;) |
Re: My brain will explode Nz or Oz Help!!!!!!
Originally Posted by TiddlyPom
(Post 5635193)
And trust your gut feeling... not everyone elses.
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Re: My brain will explode Nz or Oz Help!!!!!!
Originally Posted by dave.and.lisa
(Post 5635306)
This is the prob TiddlyPom(love that name) I am a missive believer in gut feeling and his gut said NZ NZ NZ!!! But then he showed me the footage he shot I thought OMG I'll be so bored but he assured me as out and about with family there would be loads to do did some reading around Welly and Christchurch and thought ok (apart from the bit I read on earthquakes but that another issue!!!) Then he showed me Melbourne and I said WOW but of cousre I was'nt there and all this was on film, we are very similar people and if his gut said Nz then that's it??. but can't get those Melbourne images out of my head it really looked fab. So this is why we are sooooooo torn. One thing he said was what ever we decide to do leaving the area we live in the uk is the right thing to do where ever that will be!!!!
Maggie ;) |
Re: My brain will explode Nz or Oz Help!!!!!!
Originally Posted by MaggieM
(Post 5635311)
I think Tiddlypom said "trust your gut feeling"
Maggie ;) |
Re: My brain will explode Nz or Oz Help!!!!!!
Originally Posted by dave.and.lisa
(Post 5635335)
Mine is saying Melbourne OMG that is'nt the start of a decision is it, think we are suffering from decisionoverload is there such a thing? I eat sleep and breath it all right now and so hard to stop!!!
We only ended up in Brisbane because OH was offered a job we couldn't afford to turn down. I wouldn't like to end up here permanently, but it's good for us for the moment. Sydney is too, too busy for us. We've been down to visit relatives there. But Melbourne is beautiful, been down there to visit friends, and has loads to do whatever age you are. Again, I'd say that NZ is very isolated, and very expensive, from what we saw, and from what No. 1 Son says. He lives 30 minutes outside Wellington at the moment. If you're used to "busy", I'd definately choose Melbourne over anywhere in NZ. Again, this is only MY opinion. All the best for whatever decision you make, Maggie ;) |
Re: My brain will explode Nz or Oz Help!!!!!!
We lived and worked in Welly for a few months. It was grey, windy and parochial. We had 3 earthquakes (rattle the shelves sort) and there will be a bigger one some day - the geology is for real.
We thought it would be just the place for us - but turned down permanent job offers after 3 months. It's too detached from the world. It IS a photographer's paradise. We love Oz. |
Re: My brain will explode Nz or Oz Help!!!!!!
Originally Posted by MaggieM
(Post 5635354)
For what it's worth, Melbourne is a better starting point, (in my opinion), than anywhere else in Australia.
We only ended up in Brisbane because OH was offered a job we couldn't afford to turn down. I wouldn't like to end up here permanently, but it's good for us for the moment. Sydney is too, too busy for us. We've been down to visit relatives there. But Melbourne is beautiful, been down there to visit friends, and has loads to do whatever age you are. Again, I'd say that NZ is very isolated, and very expensive, from what we saw, and from what No. 1 Son says. He lives 30 minutes outside Wellington at the moment. If you're used to "busy", I'd definately choose Melbourne over anywhere in NZ. Again, this is only MY opinion. All the best for whatever decision you make, Maggie ;) |
Re: My brain will explode Nz or Oz Help!!!!!!
Originally Posted by dave.and.lisa
(Post 5635335)
Mine is saying Melbourne OMG that is'nt the start of a decision is it, think we are suffering from decisionoverload is there such a thing? I eat sleep and breath it all right now and so hard to stop!!!
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Re: My brain will explode Nz or Oz Help!!!!!!
Do you want your kids to grow up with a NZ icksint??????
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Re: My brain will explode Nz or Oz Help!!!!!!
Do you have to make the decision now? Can you not move over, spend a couple of weeks in Mellie then go to NZ and see the set up there? It's a big ask to decide when you're 12,000 miles away. We thought we knew where we were going to settle and ended up 40 minutes away. That's nothing compared to your decision but if we'd decided on the first place, we'd have been so unhappy.
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Re: My brain will explode Nz or Oz Help!!!!!!
Originally Posted by dave.and.lisa
(Post 5635384)
Thanks for that I think so too if I am totally honest but GOT to ask how long has No 1 son been in Wellington and is he enjoying it???
No 1 Son would have rather stayed in Lake Wanaka, but the NZs couldn't wrap their head around the fact that "Computer Geeks" can work remotely. He moved to Wellington solely because work prospects were better there. He has V high security clearance and works on specialist stuff, and would earn more here in Oz, but couldn't handle the heat. He loved Wanaka, he loves where he is outside of Wellington, BUT, he is a country boy at heart. He grew up in the country in Yorkshire and Scotland and that's how he likes to live now. Personally, I don't think I could handle it, but I am a city girl at heart. Again, I'd advise, start off in a bigger, "more to offer" place. After 3 years in NZ you will become a citizen and be able to live, work, and buy property in Oz. Depending on your visa, given recent changes, you will become in citizen in Oz, in either 2, or 5 years, and have the same priviledges in NZ. I'd personally rather spend my time in Oz. It's a bigger country, has more to see, more variations/permutations of things to do. The one thing you have to remember is, this is YOUR life, you have to make the decisions that are best, (at the time you make them), for your own family. What Pollyanna says is right. You have to go with your own gut feeling. The rest of us are here. We're making the most of the decisions we've made. It's a tough one, but only you can decide for yourself. All the very best, Maggie ;) |
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