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Message from a friend
On behalf of the poster who recently lost her husband in a drowning accident, I have been asked to post the following. First of all I would like to say a huge thank you to everyone for their kind words of support at this difficult time. I know that I only know a handful of you personally, but I have come to know so many people through these forums, that I feel I can call you friends. It just goes to show how wonderful people can be at a time like this – this also can be said of the local Police, who have shown so much compassion for me and my boys. I have to say that they were absolutely brilliant with regards to the tragedy; I wasn’t actually in the country and only found out when I was stopping over at Singapore. The police cared for my boys and the friends that were out with them that afternoon until our friends could go to collect them. The local community has also been fantastic, with neighbours dropping in with offers of help and sympathy; some of them I’ve only met once most of them only in passing when we go for bike rides or walks. My children have been brilliant although at this time they are preferring to not talk to me about what happened. My eldest has spoken to his girlfriend about the incident and both of them have coped in a very mature manner for twelve year olds. My youngest is being his usually bright self although a lot less chatty than he usually is. They have returned to school today as I felt that some normality to their routine would help them and they both wanted to be with their friends. The head teacher and whole school have been brilliant and have gone out of their way to help in anyway they can. I also have some family with me which is helping me a great deal; as you can imagine I have cried buckets of tears over our loss. I have also felt pretty angry with the whole situation and as much as I hate to admit I have also felt anger towards my husband for leaving us behind, although I know deep in my heart that anyone of us would have done exactly the same in that situation. It just goes to show you how precious life is and how much we all take for granted – we all do. I’m unsure what the future holds for us, our dream was Australia and my husband loved this place so much; he loved the outdoor lifestyle, the barbies, the community spirit that thrives here and it also has to be said he loved the beer! With love |
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Thankyou for posting that.
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Originally Posted by ProofReader
(Post 4369653)
On behalf of the poster who recently lost her husband in a drowning accident, I have been asked to post the following. All my love H |
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A very brave post and sending you support and hope for the future.
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Originally Posted by ProofReader
(Post 4369653)
On behalf of the poster who recently lost her husband in a drowning accident, I have been asked to post the following. But most important no matter how hectic life gets, take care of yourself and family. All of you are in our thoughts and prayers. |
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Seriously impressed you could be so together to say all that, really.
Wherever you choose to spend your life, I'm fairly convinced you'll do it with incredible aplomb. Thanks for posting. x |
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Bless you all. x
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Well done for holding it all together so well. Warmest wishes to you all.
Mx |
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Behind every great man (as your husband obviously was)
is an equally great woman! |
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Thank you so much for posting this to let us all know how you and your family are getting on .It sounds as though you have a very special family.
Its very humbling to read your words. Gillian (who arrived in Perth around the same time as you ) |
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A very brave letter, which must have taken a lot of courage to write. You sound like a strong family, and I'm sure you will be able to get through this together.
Remember we're all out here if you need anything :) And an extra thanks to PR for posting it :) |
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Thankyou so much PR for posting that...
Stay strong honey - my thoughts are with you. Cas x |
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our thoughts are with you - even though we are behind a computer screen we're still a community and can offer support if and when you need it.
Take care of yourself and take the time you need with your family, friends and boys. |
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I admire the inner strength that you have to be able to post to let us know how you are doing. Take one day at a time sweet heart. When you are ready for a chat you know where i am.
Take care Mandy |
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My heart goes out to you.
You are in my thoughts. God bless x |
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Originally Posted by Pollyana
(Post 4370020)
A very brave letter, which must have taken a lot of courage to write. You sound like a strong family, and I'm sure you will be able to get through this together.
Remember we're all out here if you need anything :) And an extra thanks to PR for posting it :) We are definately all here for you, when you're ready. Gill |
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Bought tears to me eyes that did!
It's never easy losing someone you love. When my ol' mum died a couple of years ago, I found huge comfort in this little verse which I keep in my wallet to this day: Death is nothing at all. I have only slipped away into the next room. I am I and you are you. Whatever we were to each other, that we still are. Call me by my old familiar name, speak to me in the easy way which you always used. Put no difference into your tone; wear no forced solemnity or sorrow. Laugh as we always laughed at the little jokes we enjoyed together. Play, smile, think of me, pray for me. Let my name be the household word that it always was. Let it be spoken without effort, without the ghost of a shadow in it. Life means all that it ever meant. It is the same that it ever was; why should I be out of your mind because I am out of your sight? I am waiting for you, for an interval, somewhere very near, just around the corner. All is well. :) |
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A brave,brave lady.
Thinking of you xxx |
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Originally Posted by Ransi
(Post 4372545)
A brave,brave lady.
Thinking of you xxx xxxx |
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God bless darlin.
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Our hearts reach out to you. Our thoughts are with you.
x |
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Your post brought tears to my eyes.. I am really sorry about your loss, my thoughts and prayers are with you..
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Originally Posted by anabella
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Your post brought tears to my eyes.. I am really sorry about your loss, my thoughts and prayers are with you..
xx |
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Originally Posted by ProofReader
(Post 4369653)
On behalf of the poster who recently lost her husband in a drowning accident, I have been asked to post the following. Ginny x |
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Originally Posted by willmore
(Post 4369701)
Your message brought tears to my eyes as I read it. Stay strong love, and take each and every day as it comes. Lean on those closeby and far away that love you.
But most important no matter how hectic life gets, take care of yourself and family. All of you are in our thoughts and prayers. god bless you all at this difficult time xx |
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Originally Posted by poppets
(Post 4373381)
ditto
god bless you all at this difficult time xx |
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What a great lady, very brave and honest, best of luck to you and your family. I wish there was a hug smiley.
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Originally Posted by poppets
(Post 4373381)
ditto
god bless you all at this difficult time xx Ditto the above, take care xx |
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I just cant find words, thinking of you in this difficult time.
Kay xx |
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Originally Posted by ProofReader
(Post 4369653)
On behalf of the poster who recently lost her husband in a drowning accident, I have been asked to post the following. There is nothing I can do to make him come back There are no words I can say that can replace his worlds you long to hear There are no answers I can give that will satisfy your questions There is not another soul I can introduce you to that will ever replace his, And, there is no love I can offer that will ever replace the love you shared I cannot promise your broken heart will ever be complete I will not say it could have been worse I will not deny it was a tragedy I will not lie and tell you he will come back He never really left I do promise he hears you when you speak I will say he loves you no matter the distance I will not deny he is in a better place And, I will not lie, he is waiting to greet you someday He is every step you take He is in everything you do He is the air you breathe He is every beat of your heart He is like the wind. You cannot see him, but you will always feel him God Bless |
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Originally Posted by FluffyTheCampfireSlayer
(Post 4371124)
Bought tears to me eyes that did!
It's never easy losing someone you love. When my ol' mum died a couple of years ago, I found huge comfort in this little verse which I keep in my wallet to this day: Death is nothing at all. I have only slipped away into the next room. I am I and you are you. Whatever we were to each other, that we still are. Call me by my old familiar name, speak to me in the easy way which you always used. Put no difference into your tone; wear no forced solemnity or sorrow. Laugh as we always laughed at the little jokes we enjoyed together. Play, smile, think of me, pray for me. Let my name be the household word that it always was. Let it be spoken without effort, without the ghost of a shadow in it. Life means all that it ever meant. It is the same that it ever was; why should I be out of your mind because I am out of your sight? I am waiting for you, for an interval, somewhere very near, just around the corner. All is well. :) I have been out of the loop for several weeks due to comp failure i have been in contact through a mutual friend of the lady concerned, just wanted to let her know, that she and her boys have and continue to be in my thoughts (actually both our thoughts) at this tragic time! And the above words are still stuck to my fridge from when my dad passed away 8 years ago on the 16th Feb, they certainly bring it into some sort of focus!! Hope they bring you some comfort at this time. |
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Originally Posted by samnsam
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There is nothing I can do to make him come back There are no words I can say that can replace his worlds you long to hear There are no answers I can give that will satisfy your questions There is not another soul I can introduce you to that will ever replace his, And, there is no love I can offer that will ever replace the love you shared I cannot promise your broken heart will ever be complete I will not say it could have been worse I will not deny it was a tragedy I will not lie and tell you he will come back He never really left I do promise he hears you when you speak I will say he loves you no matter the distance I will not deny he is in a better place And, I will not lie, he is waiting to greet you someday He is every step you take He is in everything you do He is the air you breathe He is every beat of your heart He is like the wind. You cannot see him, but you will always feel him God Bless Our thoughts and prayers are still with you in this difficult time and may you get stronger as a family in time to come. Tracey, John & Ryan xxxxxxxxxxxx |
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It just goes to show you how precious life is and how much we all take for granted – we all do. my thoughts have been with you since i heard of this C |
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Our thoughts are with you, take care of yourself and your family.xx
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I truly admire your strength. Your entire family is incredible.
Still thinking of you with tears in my eyes. Take care. B x |
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Firstly I want to thank everyone, I've ummmed and arghhhed over whether to post on here or not, but decided to just to let you all know how we are. Obviously we are all in a state of shock, but we are getting by. I have my family still here and more are going to come out at a later date. Friends have been brilliant and I'm completely overwhelmed by the support I have from the community here in Mandurah.
The funeral is on Monday and I am also planning a memorial service for Paul in the UK. This will be late March - I will be going back for a short time to do this for him and to also let the boys have some much needed time with our families. To be honest I'm not sure what the future holds for us - I'd love to stay and live out the dream that Paul and I wanted so much for us and the boys, but eventually reality will set in and it may be that at some time in the future I will decide to return back to the UK - but these decisions need to be made a few months down the line and not right now. Once again I want to say a huge thank you to everyone Take care Debbie xxxx |
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Originally Posted by DebraH
(Post 4384652)
Firstly I want to thank everyone, I've ummmed and arghhhed over whether to post on here or not, but decided to just to let you all know how we are. Obviously we are all in a state of shock, but we are getting by. I have my family still here and more are going to come out at a later date. Friends have been brilliant and I'm completely overwhelmed by the support I have from the community here in Mandurah.
The funeral is on Monday and I am also planning a memorial service for Paul in the UK. This will be late March - I will be going back for a short time to do this for him and to also let the boys have some much needed time with our families. To be honest I'm not sure what the future holds for us - I'd love to stay and live out the dream that Paul and I wanted so much for us and the boys, but eventually reality will set in and it may be that at some time in the future I will decide to return back to the UK - but these decisions need to be made a few months down the line and not right now. Once again I want to say a huge thank you to everyone Take care Debbie xxxx Good to hear from you - thanks for taking the time to let us know how you're doing. Whatever you choose, I wish you the absolute best of everything, for you and your boys. x |
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Originally Posted by DebraH
(Post 4384652)
Firstly I want to thank everyone, I've ummmed and arghhhed over whether to post on here or not, but decided to just to let you all know how we are. Obviously we are all in a state of shock, but we are getting by. I have my family still here and more are going to come out at a later date. Friends have been brilliant and I'm completely overwhelmed by the support I have from the community here in Mandurah.
The funeral is on Monday and I am also planning a memorial service for Paul in the UK. This will be late March - I will be going back for a short time to do this for him and to also let the boys have some much needed time with our families. To be honest I'm not sure what the future holds for us - I'd love to stay and live out the dream that Paul and I wanted so much for us and the boys, but eventually reality will set in and it may be that at some time in the future I will decide to return back to the UK - but these decisions need to be made a few months down the line and not right now. Once again I want to say a huge thank you to everyone Take care Debbie xxxx |
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Originally Posted by DebraH
(Post 4384652)
Firstly I want to thank everyone, I've ummmed and arghhhed over whether to post on here or not, but decided to just to let you all know how we are. Obviously we are all in a state of shock, but we are getting by. I have my family still here and more are going to come out at a later date. Friends have been brilliant and I'm completely overwhelmed by the support I have from the community here in Mandurah.
The funeral is on Monday and I am also planning a memorial service for Paul in the UK. This will be late March - I will be going back for a short time to do this for him and to also let the boys have some much needed time with our families. To be honest I'm not sure what the future holds for us - I'd love to stay and live out the dream that Paul and I wanted so much for us and the boys, but eventually reality will set in and it may be that at some time in the future I will decide to return back to the UK - but these decisions need to be made a few months down the line and not right now. Once again I want to say a huge thank you to everyone Take care Debbie xxxx xxx |
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Originally Posted by DebraH
(Post 4384652)
Firstly I want to thank everyone, I've ummmed and arghhhed over whether to post on here or not, but decided to just to let you all know how we are. Obviously we are all in a state of shock, but we are getting by. I have my family still here and more are going to come out at a later date. Friends have been brilliant and I'm completely overwhelmed by the support I have from the community here in Mandurah.
The funeral is on Monday and I am also planning a memorial service for Paul in the UK. This will be late March - I will be going back for a short time to do this for him and to also let the boys have some much needed time with our families. To be honest I'm not sure what the future holds for us - I'd love to stay and live out the dream that Paul and I wanted so much for us and the boys, but eventually reality will set in and it may be that at some time in the future I will decide to return back to the UK - but these decisions need to be made a few months down the line and not right now. Once again I want to say a huge thank you to everyone Take care Debbie xxxx Take care Kath xxx |
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