Lost the Desire To Go
 

Hi All

Dont know why it is but I feel like I am losing the desire to make the big move.

I know everyone will say it will all be worth it in the end but we are struggling now we cant sell the house and working just to make ends meet, therefore no money for flights etc.

I guess its because of the above, but am just wondering if it is worth the bother now that it has taken so long to get here. Had the visa since last June and validated a year ago. Its supposed to be exciting but at the moment it seems like a chore.

Has anybody else just lost the urge or is it just me.

Cheers

Mick

Re: Lost the Desire To Go
 

Know how you feel so many highs and lows. But you have your visa and it's all there waiting for you. Keep your spirits up and I'm sure it'll all work out for you in the end. It' not easy uprooting to the other side of the world but I'm sure it will all be worth it :D

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I lost the desire a few days ago, and we are only thinking of going lol! So I can imagine I'll feel the same as you in your situation.

I think Id just keep reminding myself that it was never going to be easy, but it is worth a go - Id regret it in a few years time if I didnt try.

Try to take a break from thinking about it for a few days and then re-assess when you have the energy:)

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It's a feeling most people feel at some point......should we or shouldn't we go?
I'm totally petrified of giving up everything I call mine......and my family, friends, etc.
New places, new faces, new job, new money, new doctor etc......everything will be new.........and it's the unknown that is scaring me to death right now.
We have just had a fab job offer in Oz.......and still haven't sold our house after 9 months on the market :unsure:
So.......after the hell we went through just to get our visa....we have decided not to give up on the very last hurdle. We will sell to one of those cash buyer property companies and get enough to pay the mortgage off........then book the flights to Oz.
We have 4 children in tow.....so hope our sheer determination will keep us going :thumbsup:
I'd much rather be waking up to a sunny day in Oz than this rainy, windy weather we're having today in the UK.
One life you've got...........only you know where you'd rather be to live the rest of it.
Hope everything works out for you though,
Beth x x :wub:

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I lost the desire to move just before xmas but we were having problems with hubbies meds and then other issues surrounding eldest sons application, it all got to much and felt like I had, had enough.

Now I cant wait I have the urge to go to Australia back. I think it all just gets overwhelming that we are living in this limbo land.

I agree with Ozzydreamer take a break from it all dont come on the forums and do something different do something complertely different.

Over xmas we spent time away from our house, the visa business everything sure enough I rediscovered the reasons for wanting to go.

good luck with whatever decision you make.

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Feeling much the same at the moment, our house has been on the market for the last 8 months and we're just thinking it will never sell. We had a viewing last night and one on Sunday and each time we're keeping our fingers and toes crossed.

We have our visa's and need to fly out before September, as soon as we have sold the house we're going. We need to sell the house before we can go - for the money. Otherwise we'll have to go over for a holiday, which is going to cost. Either way we feel we can't move forward until the house is sold.

But we know we are doing the right thing by going, and we'll regret it if we don't do it. So we are trying to stay positive and keep sane as much as possible. We know it'll all come good in the end!!!

Claire :thumbsup:

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I haven’t lost the desire to go, but I have totally lost the desire to go through the visa process! It’s my OH who’ll really have to do most of the work and as he’s stressed to the eyeballs most of the time I feel very guilty for asking more of him, and so much. We haven’t even done the skills assessment yet and we’re over it already!!

So, think about everything you’ve been through to get this far..the whole visa process and you’ve made it through and come out the other end. Focus on saving and getting ready but try not to focus on it 100% and think about nothing else. You’ve done the really hard part in one way. It only takes on right person to buy your house so it WILL happen and then you’ll be on your way. Once you’re sitting on a beach somewhere blissed up to the eyeballs it’ll all have been worth it. At least, that’s what I'm banking on!!

All the best,

Thérèse :)

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If you have validated your visa and it is a permanent one then don't you have 5 years before you have to live in Oz?

Not sure of exact timescales here, but you should have enough time to take a year out and have a proper break from it all.

Just forget about it all. Get on with your life here and if in a year's time it is still on your mind, then get on with it then.

I think the pressure of it all puts you off. we had a year out between getting DH's skills assessed till we applied for the Visa. Now we're more than ready.

Good Luck.

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Hi Mick

Time is on your side you'll have around 4 years to make your mind up or hope things are right for you to go, Aus isn't going anywhere and if you decide it's not for you or it's too much like hard work then take our time and decide if it's in the best interests of you & your family.
Others saying Aus us worth the hassle are not in your circumstances and have little insight to your motivation & reasons. Make your own decisions as you have to live with them, not others.

Good luck ;)

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This is a very common feeling from what I can gather - i'm in the same place at the moment, (winter blues) - but I know i'll feel better in a few weeks when the days get longer etc.

keep your chin up!

:)

Nx

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Thanks for all the wise words, I guess that things will sort themselves out in the end, but its strange that your feelings can change so quickly when things dont quite go to plan.

I guess its the old adage of `thats what life throws at you` and you just gotta work through it.

Good luck to everyone else in teh same boat, things certainly aint easy and I know others have gone through much worse, so had better just get on with it.

Cheers

Mick:)

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i think this is a natural feeling, probably wondering subconsciously if you're doing the right thing and when everything's going against you can almost lose the will to live!

if it's any consolation, my mum hasn't dealt with me moving very well and is taking it very personally, and that and applying for visa and trying to sell our flat (which we can't sell either!) there have been times where it's all gotten too much and i've felt like giving up!

but i can say it will be worth it, don't give up! i'm from australia originally but been in uk 15 years and know the lifestyle is worth the hassle to get there! :thumbup:

and by the way, my surname is agnew too!! :D

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It's the old 'Limbo' feeling rearing it's head. I hated it, makes you feel like someone has turned the light off at the end of the tunnel. But it's still there, and eventually you will reach it. Just got to hang in there.


I suggest taking a break from it too, this site I mean - it does make it seem worse when you're at that stage. :)

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That's exactly the right word, LIMBO!! Sums it up completely, neither here nor there! :lol:

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Yep, I feel in limbo too at the mo. Weve had our visas since June last year and are waiting a while cus Mark has a teenage son from previous relationship. I think the longer you have to think about things the more the doubts creep in. Im mad keen to go but sometimes panic that we wont get jobs, have enough money to live on etc but then think of all the reasons we started this in the first place. We know our little man will have a better quality of life, even if that means that he can play outside more on his bike.

Im sure what you are feeling is normal. Have time out and get on with every day life and know that you are not alone.

All the best

Joexxx