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Re: Loss on the other side of the world
So sorry,thinking of you,cant imagine what you're going through x
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Re: Loss on the other side of the world
Originally Posted by iwilldoit
(Post 7483835)
Hi Everyone,
I felt I had to write this, My mother died unexpectedly on Easter Friday, But was rushed into hospital after having a stroke a couple of days prior, My worst nightmare was becoming a reality, We had made no provisions for this even though we all no that this may occur, its just never gonna happen this year, so i was unable to rush to her side, we were lucky that my brother was able to go by borrowing the money, so was able to get to the hospital in time to say goodbye, and she waited for him to get there, he spent the day with her, even though she was unconscious, 10 min after he left to get something to eat, she passed away, just heartbreaking, I was unable to do the same, then i was told that my family had managed to raise the money for me and my daughter to go over for the funeral which takes place tonight australia time, I was so happy till i looked at my daughters passport and found it had expired july 08. Although she would get into the UK, she would be unable to return without a valid passport, and of course its still not easy as I had to get a signature from someone in a profession to state they had known her 2 years, we have only been here 15 months, so the bottom line was and is that I could not go, I felt I had to tell my story, so that all of those of you that read it, would realise that anything can happen at any time, my mother had never been ill, it was sudden, Money should be put away in case of an emergency, and all documentation should be up to date at all times. Sharon I'm sorry you have suffered so much additional heartache from your loss. It's very kind of you to share your experiences so as to spare others from the same heartache. But you mustn't beat yourself up about it. You loved your mum and your mum loved you and you both knew it, and that's all that matters really. I lost my mum three years ago, I live near London and she lived in Cape Town. She died young and suddenly - only a year after suffering the loss of her own dearly loved mum. If I think about it the only real regret that I have is not telling her how much I loved her and how special she was. But she still lives on in my heart and in my decisions. And I know that one day I will again be given the chance to tell her how much I love her. God bless! Paul |
Re: Loss on the other side of the world
Hi Sharon,
As with previous posters my thoughts are with you at his sad time. I lost my beautiful dad a few years ago, and I also couldnt get back to the UK in time. However please do not torture yourself over this as I did. I made myself very ill and depressed due to those feelings of 'guilt' in addition to grieveing over here in perth, without my family. All the very best to you xx |
Re: Loss on the other side of the world
I'm so sorry to hear of your loss and the extra difficulties at such a hard time.
My husband and I are just starting the process of moving to Melbourne and the thought of leaving my parents, who aren't getting any younger, is the one thing that is making it hard to finally decide to go. Such an exciting time for us, but such a hard decision to make. Thinking of you. |
Re: Loss on the other side of the world
Sharon, so sorry to hear of your loss and the difficulties you have faced in the aftermath. {{{hugs}}}
My parents always tell me not to bother going for their funeral but I am an only child and will be there, whether they like it or not, for the one who is left behind. Nothing beats a credit card with a high-ish credit limit IMHO - when the day comes, mine will be flashed out and I will deal with the payments when I have the time. I hope that things have sorted themselves out for you now. Look after yourself! |
Re: Loss on the other side of the world
So sorry to hear your sad news, don't be too hard on yourself though..
You've also pointed out some very good and practical advice.... Thankyou. |
Re: Loss on the other side of the world
Originally Posted by quoll
(Post 7491078)
Sharon, so sorry to hear of your loss and the difficulties you have faced in the aftermath. {{{hugs}}}
My parents always tell me not to bother going for their funeral but I am an only child and will be there, whether they like it or not, for the one who is left behind. Nothing beats a credit card with a high-ish credit limit IMHO - when the day comes, mine will be flashed out and I will deal with the payments when I have the time. I hope that things have sorted themselves out for you now. Look after yourself! |
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