|
Re: Last say
Originally Posted by curly
(Post 5989220)
I really feel for you Jan, it must be so hard to try to carry on with your life normally. Is your son still staying in the house a lot?
|
Re: Last say
Originally Posted by midgetjan
(Post 5989236)
Well normally I am a bubbly person who takes life in her stride but I can honestly say that since New Year it's been all stress. I have had one illness after another (and I am never ever sick usually).
Unfortunately when I'm stressed I eat to settle the acid in my belly. I'm gaining weight and it's making me more stressed. My kids want to go back to the UK and I am constantly fighting with OH who doesn't want to pay mortgage for 4 bedroomed house for just the 2 of us..... Really Jan, you must try take some time out for yourself, you need a break, this is making you poorly. |
Re: Last say
From time to time I explode and tell them all that they are being selfish but it doesn't make things any better.
I think back to the end of October when my eldest was coming over and everyone was settled...... I live in hope that my girls will leave their partners and come/stay in Oz and then my hubby and son will settle. My OH keeps saying that he didn't come here to rip our family apart. All I can do is hope that things work out as I have no control over anything. |
Re: Last say
Originally Posted by midgetjan
(Post 5989236)
Well normally I am a bubbly person who takes life in her stride but I can honestly say that since New Year it's been all stress. I have had one illness after another (and I am never ever sick usually).
Unfortunately when I'm stressed I eat to settle the acid in my belly. I'm gaining weight and it's making me more stressed. My kids want to go back to the UK and I am constantly fighting with OH who doesn't want to pay mortgage for 4 bedroomed house for just the 2 of us.....
Originally Posted by midgetjan
(Post 5989242)
Son NEVER leaves the house.
Originally Posted by midgetjan
(Post 5989266)
From time to time I explode and tell them all that they are being selfish but it doesn't make things any better.
I think back to the end of October when my eldest was coming over and everyone was settled...... I live in hope that my girls will leave their partners and come/stay in Oz and then my hubby and son will settle. My OH keeps saying that he didn't come here to rip our family apart. All I can do is hope that things work out as I have no control over anything. |
Re: Last say
Originally Posted by midgetjan
(Post 5989266)
From time to time I explode and tell them all that they are being selfish but it doesn't make things any better.
I think back to the end of October when my eldest was coming over and everyone was settled...... I live in hope that my girls will leave their partners and come/stay in Oz and then my hubby and son will settle. My OH keeps saying that he didn't come here to rip our family apart. All I can do is hope that things work out as I have no control over anything. |
Re: Last say
I still have hopes and dreams.
I also have a big mortgage so need to get up and go to work every day. OH and son not working and the bills still need paying. That is when I explode. Australia was our dream - but dreams only come true if you are willing to work for them. They no longer want the dream and have no incentive to work. I said that even if they want to go back to UK mortgage will need to be paid 'til house sells and they need to work. I've tried explaining that if I did what they were doing our house would be repossessed and we wouldn't be able to afford flights back to UK. |
Re: Last say
Originally Posted by midgetjan
(Post 5989315)
I still have hopes and dreams.
I also have a big mortgage so need to get up and go to work every day. OH and son not working and the bills still need paying. That is when I explode. Australia was our dream - but dreams only come true if you are willing to work for them. They no longer want the dream and have no incentive to work. I said that even if they want to go back to UK mortgage will need to be paid 'til house sells and they need to work. I've tried explaining that if I did what they were doing our house would be repossessed and we wouldn't be able to afford flights back to UK. |
Re: Last say
Originally Posted by midgetjan
(Post 5989315)
I still have hopes and dreams.
I also have a big mortgage so need to get up and go to work every day. OH and son not working and the bills still need paying. That is when I explode. Australia was our dream - but dreams only come true if you are willing to work for them. They no longer want the dream and have no incentive to work. I said that even if they want to go back to UK mortgage will need to be paid 'til house sells and they need to work. I've tried explaining that if I did what they were doing our house would be repossessed and we wouldn't be able to afford flights back to UK. |
Re: Last say
He was working when we first came over - before I was. He worked for his cousin's hubby (a mad Croatian).
I told him to leave the job though as it was too stressful (try not to laugh now). He decided to go self employed and give our son a start. I thought this was a great idea as he was self employed for 20 years in the UK and was very well liked by his customers. He is a good worker and does a great job for a very fair price. (He is a slater and tiler - roofer). He advertised locally and found that the locals he got work from all wanted work done for nothing. He's lost heart. |
Re: Last say
Originally Posted by midgetjan
(Post 5989358)
He was working when we first came over - before I was. He worked for his cousin's hubby (a mad Croatian).
I told him to leave the job though as it was too stressful (try not to laugh now). He decided to go self employed and give our son a start. I thought this was a great idea as he was self employed for 20 years in the UK and was very well liked by his customers. He is a good worker and does a great job for a very fair price. (He is a slater and tiler - roofer). He advertised locally and found that the locals he got work from all wanted work done for nothing. He's lost heart. |
Re: Last say
I think he's depressed about the kids not wanting to be here.
|
Re: Last say
Originally Posted by midgetjan
(Post 5989383)
I think he's depressed about the kids not wanting to be here.
|
Re: Last say
It would be good as when they are at home they run the aircon. My electric bill was $500
|
Re: Last say
Originally Posted by midgetjan
(Post 5989397)
It would be good as when they are at home they run the aircon. My electric bill was $500
|
Re: Last say
Originally Posted by midgetjan
(Post 5989397)
It would be good as when they are at home they run the aircon. My electric bill was $500
Oh Jan, get the job paper for him! Circle the ads, put the phone to his ear :eek: |
| All times are GMT -12. The time now is 1:19 am. |
Powered by vBulletin: ©2000 - 2026, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.
Copyright © 2026 MH Sub I, LLC dba Internet Brands. All rights reserved. Use of this site indicates your consent to the Terms of Use.