I am sick of the hassle right now between my step daughter, me and OH - I have reached a breaking point where I have said 'no more' I am just so fed up of being piggy in the middle and her abusing the trust - kids eh! can't kill em' (well you can but that's murder!)

There is only so much a sane person can take. Not sure how you can back out though because you will still need to be there for hubby and so want to mediate. Give her a slap but don't tell anyone I told you to.

Pour a bottle of Evening Primrose oil down her throat.

Big hug

LOL how riht you are - I love OH to bits and am so sick of everything - luckily he sees my point of view

sorry to hear this is still going on for you all, I would suggest for your own sanity to take a step back and let your oh deal with her for a while no matter what the outcome of that will be, she has to learn to accept the consequenses of her actions and control what comes out of her mouth. She will mature at some point and then you can all move on.
S xx

That is exatly what I have done tonight - told him I have had it literally! From now on for the immediate future he delas with her. I love her and care about her but am not putting myself in the firing line or in the middle any mre - I will go mad otherwise.

Feel better tbh - she has realoly run rings around me (and I suppose with all the other baggage with other daughter) she has taken advantage - but I don't think me allowing her to et away with stuff is going to benefit her in the long run - so -boundary well and truly met and pushed and pushed back

Is her mother still coming over at Christmas?

yes on 5th December

oh dear, does she not realise what you have done for her and her 'Mum', if it's not sorted by then I suggest you stay out of the way and remind her it's all her doing. Good luck Sas, just remember she is only young and thinks the world does actually revolve around her, hopefully she'll realise and be very embarrassed by her behaviour in the near future.
S xx