How would you feel?
Jul 19th 2006, 10:31 am
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How would you feel?
this may sound that I'm feeling sorry for myself - but I suppose I am:
okay here goes:
say you have a fairly large family - lots of nieces and nephews who you don't get to see very often as your family doesn't do many family things together and then you get an email asking you (all the family) to a day out THE WEEK AFTER YOU LEAVE FOR AUSTRALIA - do I feel gutted or what - peeed off as well as my family can't even be bothered to all go to the beach for a day out when I tried to organise one last year.
They are all off to Ascot for a family day at the races - bloody families.
Telll me I'm not the only one who feels like this.
okay here goes:
say you have a fairly large family - lots of nieces and nephews who you don't get to see very often as your family doesn't do many family things together and then you get an email asking you (all the family) to a day out THE WEEK AFTER YOU LEAVE FOR AUSTRALIA - do I feel gutted or what - peeed off as well as my family can't even be bothered to all go to the beach for a day out when I tried to organise one last year.
They are all off to Ascot for a family day at the races - bloody families.
Telll me I'm not the only one who feels like this.
Jul 19th 2006, 10:36 am
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Re: How would you feel?
Originally Posted by DebraH
this may sound that I'm feeling sorry for myself - but I suppose I am:
okay here goes:
say you have a fairly large family - lots of nieces and nephews who you don't get to see very often as your family doesn't do many family things together and then you get an email asking you (all the family) to a day out THE WEEK AFTER YOU LEAVE FOR AUSTRALIA - do I feel gutted or what - peeed off as well as my family can't even be bothered to all go to the beach for a day out when I tried to organise one last year.
They are all off to Ascot for a family day at the races - bloody families.
Telll me I'm not the only one who feels like this.
okay here goes:
say you have a fairly large family - lots of nieces and nephews who you don't get to see very often as your family doesn't do many family things together and then you get an email asking you (all the family) to a day out THE WEEK AFTER YOU LEAVE FOR AUSTRALIA - do I feel gutted or what - peeed off as well as my family can't even be bothered to all go to the beach for a day out when I tried to organise one last year.
They are all off to Ascot for a family day at the races - bloody families.
Telll me I'm not the only one who feels like this.
you arent the only one who feels llike this.
far from it ...
but i wouldnt take it as a snipe on you - id email everyone and ask if they could bring it forward as you are leaving the week before, hinting that it would be nice to see everyone prior to going.
THEN if they wont, take it personally and thank them sarcastically for their love and support and tell em to sod off!
hope it all works out for you.
sue x
Jul 19th 2006, 10:38 am
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Re: How would you feel?
Originally Posted by tiredwithtwins
you arent the only one who feels llike this.
far from it ...
but i wouldnt take it as a snipe on you - id email everyone and ask if they could bring it forward as you are leaving the week before, hinting that it would be nice to see everyone prior to going.
THEN if they wont, take it personally and thank them sarcastically for their love and support and tell em to sod off!
hope it all works out for you.
sue x
far from it ...
but i wouldnt take it as a snipe on you - id email everyone and ask if they could bring it forward as you are leaving the week before, hinting that it would be nice to see everyone prior to going.
THEN if they wont, take it personally and thank them sarcastically for their love and support and tell em to sod off!
hope it all works out for you.
sue x
they can't move it cos the family days are set days I think at the races - and besides they are all going on off hols in august.
i'll just have to make do with the leaving party
Jul 19th 2006, 12:25 pm
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Re: How would you feel?
Maybe the fact that you are leaving has made them realise that 'family' should mean more and they want to make an effort to see each other more.
*sounds good anyway*
I wouldn't take it as an offence to you, just plan a great party and send nasty emails to those that make excuses about not coming!
Sending some K to you
*sounds good anyway*
I wouldn't take it as an offence to you, just plan a great party and send nasty emails to those that make excuses about not coming!
Sending some K to you
Jul 19th 2006, 12:34 pm
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Re: How would you feel?
Originally Posted by ElshaUK
Maybe the fact that you are leaving has made them realise that 'family' should mean more and they want to make an effort to see each other more.
*sounds good anyway*
I wouldn't take it as an offence to you, just plan a great party and send nasty emails to those that make excuses about not coming!
Sending some K to you
*sounds good anyway*
I wouldn't take it as an offence to you, just plan a great party and send nasty emails to those that make excuses about not coming!
Sending some K to you
you could be right about them realising about the family and how much it means
i think half of it is - is that they just don't think
Jul 19th 2006, 1:10 pm
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Re: How would you feel?
Originally Posted by DebraH
this may sound that I'm feeling sorry for myself - but I suppose I am:
okay here goes:
say you have a fairly large family - lots of nieces and nephews who you don't get to see very often as your family doesn't do many family things together and then you get an email asking you (all the family) to a day out THE WEEK AFTER YOU LEAVE FOR AUSTRALIA - do I feel gutted or what - peeed off as well as my family can't even be bothered to all go to the beach for a day out when I tried to organise one last year.
They are all off to Ascot for a family day at the races - bloody families.
Telll me I'm not the only one who feels like this.
okay here goes:
say you have a fairly large family - lots of nieces and nephews who you don't get to see very often as your family doesn't do many family things together and then you get an email asking you (all the family) to a day out THE WEEK AFTER YOU LEAVE FOR AUSTRALIA - do I feel gutted or what - peeed off as well as my family can't even be bothered to all go to the beach for a day out when I tried to organise one last year.
They are all off to Ascot for a family day at the races - bloody families.
Telll me I'm not the only one who feels like this.
Jul 19th 2006, 1:19 pm
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Re: How would you feel?
Sorry to hear that Deb.......I like Sue's idea - it would make them think at least.
Jul 19th 2006, 1:54 pm
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Re: How would you feel?
This peed me off too.
I too have a big un (family!) and it seems since we came to Oz they're all getting married, having babies, adopting babies, big birthday parties you name it!
I said to them you waited for us to buggar off didn't you cos it's all happening now!
Honestly, it was like pulling teeth to get everyone together for a night out etc. when we were there. So yes, I did take it personally, at first.
Now I realise it's just time and their age. It was bound to happen and us coming out here is our choice and we are missing stuff that would have happened anyway in the time frame. So it's our loss!!
Have a fab leaving do and give them the guilt trip about their day out! You know the thing, ooh we would have loved to go to Ascot, never mind don't worry about me........
I too have a big un (family!) and it seems since we came to Oz they're all getting married, having babies, adopting babies, big birthday parties you name it!
I said to them you waited for us to buggar off didn't you cos it's all happening now!
Honestly, it was like pulling teeth to get everyone together for a night out etc. when we were there. So yes, I did take it personally, at first.
Now I realise it's just time and their age. It was bound to happen and us coming out here is our choice and we are missing stuff that would have happened anyway in the time frame. So it's our loss!!
Have a fab leaving do and give them the guilt trip about their day out! You know the thing, ooh we would have loved to go to Ascot, never mind don't worry about me........
Originally Posted by DebraH
this may sound that I'm feeling sorry for myself - but I suppose I am:
okay here goes:
say you have a fairly large family - lots of nieces and nephews who you don't get to see very often as your family doesn't do many family things together and then you get an email asking you (all the family) to a day out THE WEEK AFTER YOU LEAVE FOR AUSTRALIA - do I feel gutted or what - peeed off as well as my family can't even be bothered to all go to the beach for a day out when I tried to organise one last year.
They are all off to Ascot for a family day at the races - bloody families.
Telll me I'm not the only one who feels like this.
okay here goes:
say you have a fairly large family - lots of nieces and nephews who you don't get to see very often as your family doesn't do many family things together and then you get an email asking you (all the family) to a day out THE WEEK AFTER YOU LEAVE FOR AUSTRALIA - do I feel gutted or what - peeed off as well as my family can't even be bothered to all go to the beach for a day out when I tried to organise one last year.
They are all off to Ascot for a family day at the races - bloody families.
Telll me I'm not the only one who feels like this.
Jul 19th 2006, 3:36 pm
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Re: How would you feel?
Originally Posted by remmie1
This peed me off too.
I too have a big un (family!) and it seems since we came to Oz they're all getting married, having babies, adopting babies, big birthday parties you name it!
I said to them you waited for us to buggar off didn't you cos it's all happening now!
Honestly, it was like pulling teeth to get everyone together for a night out etc. when we were there. So yes, I did take it personally, at first.
Now I realise it's just time and their age. It was bound to happen and us coming out here is our choice and we are missing stuff that would have happened anyway in the time frame. So it's our loss!!
Have a fab leaving do and give them the guilt trip about their day out! You know the thing, ooh we would have loved to go to Ascot, never mind don't worry about me........
I too have a big un (family!) and it seems since we came to Oz they're all getting married, having babies, adopting babies, big birthday parties you name it!
I said to them you waited for us to buggar off didn't you cos it's all happening now!
Honestly, it was like pulling teeth to get everyone together for a night out etc. when we were there. So yes, I did take it personally, at first.
Now I realise it's just time and their age. It was bound to happen and us coming out here is our choice and we are missing stuff that would have happened anyway in the time frame. So it's our loss!!
Have a fab leaving do and give them the guilt trip about their day out! You know the thing, ooh we would have loved to go to Ascot, never mind don't worry about me........
....but it would be like water off a ducks ar*e to them
oh well - i'll be in australia starting my new life and I wonder how long it wil be before they suddenly want to come out for hols
(god I could be so cruel if i wanted to - but that's not me 
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Jul 19th 2006, 3:50 pm
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Re: How would you feel?
Originally Posted by DebraH
yeah I'm gonna lay it on really thick......
....but it would be like water off a ducks ar*e to them
oh well - i'll be in australia starting my new life and I wonder how long it wil be before they suddenly want to come out for hols (god I could be so cruel if i wanted to - but that's not me )
....but it would be like water off a ducks ar*e to them
oh well - i'll be in australia starting my new life and I wonder how long it wil be before they suddenly want to come out for hols
(god I could be so cruel if i wanted to - but that's not me )I know it makes you feel awful not being included in their day out.
But just think of all the nice days out you can have in oz. some of it may be plain jelousy. on your families part.
Mandy
Jul 19th 2006, 3:56 pm
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Re: How would you feel?
Originally Posted by geordie mandy
I know it makes you feel awful not being included in their day out.
But just think of all the nice days out you can have in oz. some of it may be plain jelousy. on your families part.
Mandy
But just think of all the nice days out you can have in oz. some of it may be plain jelousy. on your families part.
Mandy
anyway I'll be Oz soon - I'm actually getting quite excited about it now, but found out today that OH isn't on the same flight as me and the boys - still trying to get that one sorted - i'll let you know about that
Jul 20th 2006, 3:31 am
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Re: How would you feel?
i just went back to the UK after 6 months here...
2 weeks after i gave my dad the dates, he booked a holiday for himself and his dodgy russian wife in italy for exactly the same time i was in UK,
then step sister (who had been complaining that she hadn't seen me for 6 months) booked flights to lanzarote 5 days before I left.
but it's ok because it was MY fault for coming back when THEY wanted to go on holiday!!
my old work organised shift cover for all the regulars and had a huge company night out for me coming back to visit, and the MD put a couple of hundred £££ in drinks kitty... says it all really!!!!!
families..... bah humbug!
2 weeks after i gave my dad the dates, he booked a holiday for himself and his dodgy russian wife in italy for exactly the same time i was in UK,
then step sister (who had been complaining that she hadn't seen me for 6 months) booked flights to lanzarote 5 days before I left.
but it's ok because it was MY fault for coming back when THEY wanted to go on holiday!!
my old work organised shift cover for all the regulars and had a huge company night out for me coming back to visit, and the MD put a couple of hundred £££ in drinks kitty... says it all really!!!!!
families..... bah humbug!
