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sj oldfield May 6th 2009 12:03 am

Got to have a moan!
 
I had both my boys baptized when they were tiny, and quite clearly recall the 'proud' godparents standing around the font making their 'promises; to both the child and to god.
Now I know you may think I am being petty, but last Friday my 'baby' turned 18 years (wow, how fast those years ago)....................and not one of toe buggers that made those promises all those years ago bothered to wish him a happy birthday.................or drop a card in the post!!!:frown:

steve`o May 6th 2009 1:10 am

Re: Got to have a moan!
 

Originally Posted by sj oldfield (Post 7545693)
I had both my boys baptized when they were tiny, and quite clearly recall the 'proud' godparents standing around the font making their 'promises; to both the child and to god.
Now I know you may think I am being petty, but last Friday my 'baby' turned 18 years (wow, how fast those years ago)....................and not one of toe buggers that made those promises all those years ago bothered to wish him a happy birthday.................or drop a card in the post!!!:frown:

what do they say ??
you can choose your friends but not your family

i`d politely remind them
by saying ( in your loudest voice )
oi tossers its XXXXXXXXXXXXXX birthday
granted you wont win rellie of the year
but boy will it feel good ;)

stalybridge May 6th 2009 12:00 pm

Re: Got to have a moan!
 

Originally Posted by sj oldfield (Post 7545693)
I had both my boys baptized when they were tiny, and quite clearly recall the 'proud' godparents standing around the font making their 'promises; to both the child and to god.
Now I know you may think I am being petty, but last Friday my 'baby' turned 18 years (wow, how fast those years ago)....................and not one of toe buggers that made those promises all those years ago bothered to wish him a happy birthday.................or drop a card in the post!!!:frown:

thats terrible :frown:

why not send them a thank you card for their presents

make em feel shitty :rofl:

Tooterelli May 6th 2009 12:32 pm

Re: Got to have a moan!
 
Maybe you have a horrible child they don't like. (It happens)

Perthforme May 6th 2009 1:56 pm

Re: Got to have a moan!
 

Originally Posted by Tooterelli (Post 7547806)
Maybe you have a horrible child they don't like. (It happens)

speaking from experience ? now play nice :sneaky:

donna May 6th 2009 2:45 pm

Re: Got to have a moan!
 
Ive been guilty of that.I was the best thing since sliced bread when birthday/xmas presents represented a load of cash,but when that stopped i didnt hold the same appeal.
Two sides to every story
(i never got a thankyou either)

scottishcelts May 6th 2009 3:11 pm

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Originally Posted by donna (Post 7548049)
Ive been guilty of that.I was the best thing since sliced bread when birthday/xmas presents represented a load of cash,but when that stopped i didnt hold the same appeal.
Two sides to every story
(i never got a thankyou either)

Ah, now that's a very good point to make donna!

Not saying that that is the issue here.

Maybe they just plain forgot, especially if they live in the UK. I'd say nothing, then mention it the next time they ask how everyone is etc.

paulry May 6th 2009 3:32 pm

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Originally Posted by donna (Post 7548049)
Ive been guilty of that.I was the best thing since sliced bread when birthday/xmas presents represented a load of cash,but when that stopped i didnt hold the same appeal.
Two sides to every story
(i never got a thankyou either)

The acknowlegement of help, support, things given and deeds done in the form of a simple "Thank you" is indeed important. Failure to do so makes the giver feel disillusioned and taken for granted.

"Please" and "Thank you" are perfect examples of those things in life that are both great and free. :cool:

PS: I'm not suggesting that this is the cause of the OP's issue.

northernlights May 6th 2009 4:24 pm

Re: Got to have a moan!
 
Are you religious and do you take your faith seriously?

If yes, then it’s a damn shame that your son’s God parents don’t participate in their role and respect your beliefs.

If no, then perhaps they feel the whole God parenting thing is a sham and won’t subscribe to it.

ozhappy981 May 6th 2009 4:50 pm

Re: Got to have a moan!
 
We've each got a god-child. Both are in their twenties now. They don't know each other - from different sides of the family. One we send birthday card and gift and he always sends a "thank you" email. The other one never sends a "thank you". I've stopped sending that one anything since she turned 21.

We also have two nephews (brothers). Also in their twenties now. One sends "thank you" emails for birthday and Christmas gifts and also drops us the odd email during the year to tell us what he is up to (and we always write back).- We haven't heard from his brother for two years now and have decided from now on not to send the brother anything for birthdays and Christmas.

It's a two-way street and once they are "adults" the ought to know that.

Burbage May 6th 2009 4:50 pm

Re: Got to have a moan!
 
There's no such thing as god, ergo there's no such thing as a godparent.

Hope this explains everything.

carolinephillips May 6th 2009 4:54 pm

Re: Got to have a moan!
 
I sent my godson a card and money till he turned 18- I just send a card now as he is a grown up soldier earning his own wages. Mind you this year it will be late as I should have sent it yesterday but I'm trying to move house and things are very hectic....sitting waiting for that phone call to say it's mine atm. Biting nails as it is getting on.

jad n rich May 6th 2009 4:55 pm

Re: Got to have a moan!
 

Originally Posted by sj oldfield (Post 7545693)
I had both my boys baptized when they were tiny, and quite clearly recall the 'proud' godparents standing around the font making their 'promises; to both the child and to god.
Now I know you may think I am being petty, but last Friday my 'baby' turned 18 years (wow, how fast those years ago)....................and not one of toe buggers that made those promises all those years ago bothered to wish him a happy birthday.................or drop a card in the post!!!:frown:


My 2 youngest had a massive brawl over their godparents, one GP has since became stinking rich and famous, I couldnt even remember which kid he was GP to:lol:, finally we found baptism certificates and lets just say an all in brawl broke out after they had a huge discussion how how much money one might inherit:rofl:

Perthforme May 6th 2009 9:03 pm

Re: Got to have a moan!
 

Originally Posted by northernlights (Post 7548240)
Are you religious and do you take your faith seriously?

If yes, then it’s a damn shame that your son’s God parents don’t participate in their role and respect your beliefs.

If no, then perhaps they feel the whole God parenting thing is a sham and won’t subscribe to it.

It's obvious that since the op had her kids baptised then religion may be taking some role in this .:blink:

Hebe May 6th 2009 9:14 pm

Re: Got to have a moan!
 

Originally Posted by Perthforme (Post 7548727)
It's obvious that since the op had her kids baptised then religion may be taking some role in this .:blink:

I disagree - a lot of people get their children baptised without any thought of the religious consequences - I am a god mother to a few children in fact I can't even remember who some of them are!!! At the time I said that I wasn't religious but they still wanted me so I did it


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