Is it wrong to speak to your ex girlfriends?boyfriends? a mAte of mine asked me to ask

Depends what sort of conversation you're having! One of my ex-boyfriends flirts with me constantly on facebook, as he's 12,000 miles away I know there's nowt in it. His wife keeps deleting the friendship though, can't understand why..... she nicked him off me when we were 17, maybe she thinks I'm planning to get my own back

You should all be on jeremy vile

says Mr Sweet and Innocent over there He's the only one of my ex's I'm in touch with, he's good for my ego
Very glad I never married him though, very respectable he is now, accountant, nice semi-detached house, 2 lovely kids, very much Mr Normal

I have several ex boyfriends on facebook... partly coz I got about a bit when I was younger but Mainly coz I'm grown up enough to be able to maintain a friendship with blokes who are good people who have loving families and happy lives now but wren't who I was going to spend my life with and we recognised it ... Equally importantly HE (after 22 years and 4 kids) doesnt feel in anyway threatened

I often have late night facebook chats with a bloke now living in NSW who I snogged behind the bikesheds when I was 12... i have no intention of snogging him again... But we can still share a lot .... one of my ex's is still one of OUR best friends and is Godfather to our Kevin and looks after the grey nomads for me... i lived with him for nearly three years before I met HIM...

life is too short and too interesting and too good to not care about people you cared about very much, people who are good and kind,


Which reminds me, I'm not ignoring you anymore... Not that you're an ex... Not an ex boyfriend anyway...

As Pol said, it depends on what sort of convo you're having.

It also depends on how long you've known/knew them, what sort of split you had (nasty, civilised etc) and how your current other half (if you have one) feels about the situation.

I'm facebook friends with my ex hubby plus a couple of old boyfriends and whilst hubby is not on facebook he is still in touch with an old ex girlfriend of his. Neither of us have a problem with the other being in touch with ex's. In fact current hubby and ex hubby probably speak to each other at least as much if not more than ex and I do.

I think if you are confident in yourself and your currently relationship, keeping friendship with significant ex's shouldnt be a problem for either party.

I've got a lot of ex boyfriends on my friends list (I got about a bit in my teens ) & most of them were friends before they were boyfriends & continued to be friends afterwards.

I love knowing how their lives have panned out. My first boyfriend & one other who lasted a while both have boys with the same name as my second eldest which always seems a bit spooky to me. Can't put it down to popular names either as they are all completely different ages & one of them lives in the states.

Having them on my friends list is no different to having general male friends in my opinion plus they all live so far away now anyway

There is however no way ever, ever, EVER would I be friends with my ex husband (on or off of facebook) & I think he'd be about the only one that my hubby would have a problem with.

Alison x

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Love this line... "I have several ex boyfriends on facebook... partly coz I got about a bit when I was younger ". Class.

I think it would be great fun to talk to ex girlfriends boyfriends. I would probably start by saying that when she was with me she only had one boyfriend. Then move on to ask if they found that she still snored.

You're right - it would never have worked

Facebook has not been good to me recently. Recently I found out that a friend (with benefits) died of breat cancer 5 years ago. Yesterday, I also found out on FB that another friend died suddenly a few weeks ago - at the tender age of 48.

Deepest sympathy.
Its not a good way to find out is it

I have met up with him once, just before I left England in 2003, I can still see what attracted me in the first place, but the thought of me as a suburban wife and mum, which was obviously what he always wanted.....its just I look at pics of him with Her at all these posh company do's and think - he may have been good when I was 17 but she's welcome to him now!!!

My first real boyfriend is a FB friend and all I can think of now is "holy shit - lucky escape there". He's a lovely bloke, married with 6 kids working the same job he had in 1978 when we broke up and still wearing the same mullet he had in 1978.