Connection with expat divorcees and lonely
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Connection with expat divorcees and lonely
hi
not sure if Iam in the correct thread
I divorced 7 years ago.
And my adult children have chosen the money and power side.
I have no no family now. I went back to reckindle my birth family but too many 35 years makes us aliens
Thanks π
not sure if Iam in the correct thread
I divorced 7 years ago.
And my adult children have chosen the money and power side.
I have no no family now. I went back to reckindle my birth family but too many 35 years makes us aliens
Thanks π
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Re: Connection with expat divorcees and lonely
Hi Yorkey, and welcome
I would say you're in as good a place as any, and I can relate to your situation totally. My wife and I separated just 5 months ago. I posted a long message here, a combination of woe is me/I deserve a slap/please help and got lots and lots of lovely supportive replies. Just like any social media, I got some of the other side too, e.g. "can't blame her for leaving" etc..... but that's fine, all part of the fun of social media. In a way, the negative responses helped me in a different way - either hard truths that I needed to hear, or opinions that empowered me in another way, like "actually, no I'm not [that] or [whatever]".
The point is, on here at least, you're not alone. Tell as much or as little as you want. The moderators will let you know if you break any forum rules!
The forum can be a little quiet at times though, so don't ever take a lack of replies personally
I would say you're in as good a place as any, and I can relate to your situation totally. My wife and I separated just 5 months ago. I posted a long message here, a combination of woe is me/I deserve a slap/please help and got lots and lots of lovely supportive replies. Just like any social media, I got some of the other side too, e.g. "can't blame her for leaving" etc..... but that's fine, all part of the fun of social media. In a way, the negative responses helped me in a different way - either hard truths that I needed to hear, or opinions that empowered me in another way, like "actually, no I'm not [that] or [whatever]".
The point is, on here at least, you're not alone. Tell as much or as little as you want. The moderators will let you know if you break any forum rules!
The forum can be a little quiet at times though, so don't ever take a lack of replies personally
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Re: Connection with expat divorcees and lonely
Thanks heaps for your reply.
It is a confusing time. As adventurous people. Only want to do whatβs best for there families
i guess we we are a bit selfless. Always wanting to do more and better.
God bless you.
Your doing ok
It is a confusing time. As adventurous people. Only want to do whatβs best for there families
i guess we we are a bit selfless. Always wanting to do more and better.
God bless you.
Your doing ok
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I also recommend Bumble and a new one I have just found called Hinge
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Hey Polly yep doing good thanks. Lifes been busy but good. Just moved into my own new build (painful process )
Leah has just finished university and is about to become a social worker. Niall has his own business as well as a couple of small jobs.
Flynn is a teenager now and taller than Hevs (not hard ) hard to believe after all the trials and tribulations of 2006.
Hows things with you?
Leah has just finished university and is about to become a social worker. Niall has his own business as well as a couple of small jobs.
Flynn is a teenager now and taller than Hevs (not hard ) hard to believe after all the trials and tribulations of 2006.
Hows things with you?
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Re: Connection with expat divorcees and lonely
Hey Polly yep doing good thanks. Lifes been busy but good. Just moved into my own new build (painful process )
Leah has just finished university and is about to become a social worker. Niall has his own business as well as a couple of small jobs.
Flynn is a teenager now and taller than Hevs (not hard ) hard to believe after all the trials and tribulations of 2006.
Hows things with you?
Leah has just finished university and is about to become a social worker. Niall has his own business as well as a couple of small jobs.
Flynn is a teenager now and taller than Hevs (not hard ) hard to believe after all the trials and tribulations of 2006.
Hows things with you?
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Re: Connection with expat divorcees and lonely
Hey Polly yep doing good thanks. Lifes been busy but good. Just moved into my own new build (painful process )
Leah has just finished university and is about to become a social worker. Niall has his own business as well as a couple of small jobs.
Flynn is a teenager now and taller than Hevs (not hard ) hard to believe after all the trials and tribulations of 2006.
Hows things with you?
Leah has just finished university and is about to become a social worker. Niall has his own business as well as a couple of small jobs.
Flynn is a teenager now and taller than Hevs (not hard ) hard to believe after all the trials and tribulations of 2006.
Hows things with you?
How are you HUP, you really went through it back in the day.
I moved out in 2003 with Mark to Sassafras and came back to the UK after a break down in our marriage. Now I'm remarried and moving back to Aus π (if the girls will come)
Why are you moving back Pollyanna?
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Re: Connection with expat divorcees and lonely
yep, not hard to be taller then Hevs! Its quite weird to think of them so grown up! Glad life is treating you well, apart from the pain of a new build of course. I'm old free and single, and happy to stay that way, working for Qld emergency services still - 15 years with them now so I shall stick it out till I retire then leg it back to the UK .
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Re: Connection with expat divorcees and lonely
After 16 years I know that every day I am here I feel a little more of an alien.
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All my family and almost all my friends are in the UK. TBH when I stop work I will have nothing to keep me here. I don't own property, live in a tatty rented flat, rarely go out and HATE the climate, which is slowly killing me. I'd rather get old(er) watching the waves on pebbly Brighton beach than sandy Gold Coast.
After 16 years I know that every day I am here I feel a little more of an alien.
After 16 years I know that every day I am here I feel a little more of an alien.
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Re: Connection with expat divorcees and lonely
All my family and almost all my friends are in the UK. TBH when I stop work I will have nothing to keep me here. I don't own property, live in a tatty rented flat, rarely go out and HATE the climate, which is slowly killing me. I'd rather get old(er) watching the waves on pebbly Brighton beach than sandy Gold Coast.
After 16 years I know that every day I am here I feel a little more of an alien.
After 16 years I know that every day I am here I feel a little more of an alien.
I love England for its ease of travel to other countries and I will miss popping over to Europe for short breaks. I'm not going to miss the traffic though π
My girls have made a good life in the UK and have some really good friends from school and Uni. The middle one is staying here as she feels employment opportunities are better for her here. Both countries are great it's just a matter of which one fits best.