caustic comments from home
Aug 7th 2007, 2:16 am
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caustic comments from home
My Mam met one of my best friend's sisters the other day. She's always been a bit of a cow anyway, so I don't know why I'm surprised. She asked after us and Mam said that we were having a great time, loving it in Australia, building our own home, kids were settled, etc., etc. (She would have said all of this to her anyway, even we were hating it here....!) In reply, she said words to the effect: "They might be having a great lifestyle there, but it wouldn't be for me, I'm more "into family" - suggesting to my poor Mother that our family isn't. Mam emailed me as she does every day and I'm still spitting feathers. My Mother misses us terribly still and she really doesn't need the likes of her to pass sarky comments like this. Needless to say, I decided to bend the cow's cyber ear and sent her a little email as follows:
Hello Ann
I wanted to write to let you know that next time you meet my Mother, have the good grace to keep your caustic comments to yourself. Apparently you said that “they might be having a great life there, but I couldn’t do that because I’m more into family” or words to that effect. How dare you infer that your family are better than ours because we have moved to Australia or that your family are “closer” because you all live a stone’s throw from Loughnane Terrace. I’m lucky that my parents raised me (and my brothers) to be independent and adventurous in life. I feel very lucky to have the privilege of living in this beautiful country beside my eldest brother and am as close to the rest of my family as ever, just in different ways. I know I’ll be glad at the end of my life that I have tried different things and not been in the same job or house for 30 or 40 years.
My Mother certainly does not need the likes of you making comments like that to her. She misses us, but is proud that we’re very happy here – the kids especially have a much better lifestyle than they would have had in Galway. Hope your Mother is as proud of you……..
I tried not to get too personal (it was very hard!), but didn't want to go down to her level. It's sent now - hope I did the right thing....
Hello Ann
I wanted to write to let you know that next time you meet my Mother, have the good grace to keep your caustic comments to yourself. Apparently you said that “they might be having a great life there, but I couldn’t do that because I’m more into family” or words to that effect. How dare you infer that your family are better than ours because we have moved to Australia or that your family are “closer” because you all live a stone’s throw from Loughnane Terrace. I’m lucky that my parents raised me (and my brothers) to be independent and adventurous in life. I feel very lucky to have the privilege of living in this beautiful country beside my eldest brother and am as close to the rest of my family as ever, just in different ways. I know I’ll be glad at the end of my life that I have tried different things and not been in the same job or house for 30 or 40 years.
My Mother certainly does not need the likes of you making comments like that to her. She misses us, but is proud that we’re very happy here – the kids especially have a much better lifestyle than they would have had in Galway. Hope your Mother is as proud of you……..
I tried not to get too personal (it was very hard!), but didn't want to go down to her level. It's sent now - hope I did the right thing....
Aug 7th 2007, 2:20 am
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Re: caustic comments from home
My Mam met one of my best friend's sisters the other day. She's always been a bit of a cow anyway, so I don't know why I'm surprised. She asked after us and Mam said that we were having a great time, loving it in Australia, building our own home, kids were settled, etc., etc. (She would have said all of this to her anyway, even we were hating it here....!) In reply, she said words to the effect: "They might be having a great lifestyle there, but it wouldn't be for me, I'm more "into family" - suggesting to my poor Mother that our family isn't. Mam emailed me as she does every day and I'm still spitting feathers. My Mother misses us terribly still and she really doesn't need the likes of her to pass sarky comments like this. Needless to say, I decided to bend the cow's cyber ear and sent her a little email as follows:
Hello Ann
I wanted to write to let you know that next time you meet my Mother, have the good grace to keep your caustic comments to yourself. Apparently you said that “they might be having a great life there, but I couldn’t do that because I’m more into family” or words to that effect. How dare you infer that your family are better than ours because we have moved to Australia or that your family are “closer” because you all live a stone’s throw from Loughnane Terrace. I’m lucky that my parents raised me (and my brothers) to be independent and adventurous in life. I feel very lucky to have the privilege of living in this beautiful country beside my eldest brother and am as close to the rest of my family as ever, just in different ways. I know I’ll be glad at the end of my life that I have tried different things and not been in the same job or house for 30 or 40 years.
My Mother certainly does not need the likes of you making comments like that to her. She misses us, but is proud that we’re very happy here – the kids especially have a much better lifestyle than they would have had in Galway. Hope your Mother is as proud of you……..
I tried not to get too personal (it was very hard!), but didn't want to go down to her level. It's sent now - hope I did the right thing....
Hello Ann
I wanted to write to let you know that next time you meet my Mother, have the good grace to keep your caustic comments to yourself. Apparently you said that “they might be having a great life there, but I couldn’t do that because I’m more into family” or words to that effect. How dare you infer that your family are better than ours because we have moved to Australia or that your family are “closer” because you all live a stone’s throw from Loughnane Terrace. I’m lucky that my parents raised me (and my brothers) to be independent and adventurous in life. I feel very lucky to have the privilege of living in this beautiful country beside my eldest brother and am as close to the rest of my family as ever, just in different ways. I know I’ll be glad at the end of my life that I have tried different things and not been in the same job or house for 30 or 40 years.
My Mother certainly does not need the likes of you making comments like that to her. She misses us, but is proud that we’re very happy here – the kids especially have a much better lifestyle than they would have had in Galway. Hope your Mother is as proud of you……..
I tried not to get too personal (it was very hard!), but didn't want to go down to her level. It's sent now - hope I did the right thing....
Aug 7th 2007, 2:21 am
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Go Girl - kick ass
She is more than likely jealous and said it to try and hurt your mum and make herself feel better.
She is more than likely jealous and said it to try and hurt your mum and make herself feel better.
Aug 7th 2007, 4:23 am
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Re: caustic comments from home
My Mam met one of my best friend's sisters the other day. She's always been a bit of a cow anyway, so I don't know why I'm surprised. She asked after us and Mam said that we were having a great time, loving it in Australia, building our own home, kids were settled, etc., etc. (She would have said all of this to her anyway, even we were hating it here....!) In reply, she said words to the effect: "They might be having a great lifestyle there, but it wouldn't be for me, I'm more "into family" - suggesting to my poor Mother that our family isn't. Mam emailed me as she does every day and I'm still spitting feathers. My Mother misses us terribly still and she really doesn't need the likes of her to pass sarky comments like this. Needless to say, I decided to bend the cow's cyber ear and sent her a little email as follows:
Hello Ann
I wanted to write to let you know that next time you meet my Mother, have the good grace to keep your caustic comments to yourself. Apparently you said that “they might be having a great life there, but I couldn’t do that because I’m more into family” or words to that effect. How dare you infer that your family are better than ours because we have moved to Australia or that your family are “closer” because you all live a stone’s throw from Loughnane Terrace. I’m lucky that my parents raised me (and my brothers) to be independent and adventurous in life. I feel very lucky to have the privilege of living in this beautiful country beside my eldest brother and am as close to the rest of my family as ever, just in different ways. I know I’ll be glad at the end of my life that I have tried different things and not been in the same job or house for 30 or 40 years.
My Mother certainly does not need the likes of you making comments like that to her. She misses us, but is proud that we’re very happy here – the kids especially have a much better lifestyle than they would have had in Galway. Hope your Mother is as proud of you……..
I tried not to get too personal (it was very hard!), but didn't want to go down to her level. It's sent now - hope I did the right thing....
Hello Ann
I wanted to write to let you know that next time you meet my Mother, have the good grace to keep your caustic comments to yourself. Apparently you said that “they might be having a great life there, but I couldn’t do that because I’m more into family” or words to that effect. How dare you infer that your family are better than ours because we have moved to Australia or that your family are “closer” because you all live a stone’s throw from Loughnane Terrace. I’m lucky that my parents raised me (and my brothers) to be independent and adventurous in life. I feel very lucky to have the privilege of living in this beautiful country beside my eldest brother and am as close to the rest of my family as ever, just in different ways. I know I’ll be glad at the end of my life that I have tried different things and not been in the same job or house for 30 or 40 years.
My Mother certainly does not need the likes of you making comments like that to her. She misses us, but is proud that we’re very happy here – the kids especially have a much better lifestyle than they would have had in Galway. Hope your Mother is as proud of you……..
I tried not to get too personal (it was very hard!), but didn't want to go down to her level. It's sent now - hope I did the right thing....
Aug 7th 2007, 5:04 am
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Re: caustic comments from home
Michelle, she does have a point
I dont know this lady , maybe she was just being a bitch and having a dig.)
We have a great lifestyle here, but it has been at the expense of 'family', and we have been here for 20 years. My kids have missed being involved with their cousins and aunts, uncles and grandparents, they are both grown up now and will have Aussie families of their own, but the first generation that come here do miss out I think. I love my life here, and wouldnt change it, but I do think I have missed out on having close family around me, in many ways.
I dont know this lady , maybe she was just being a bitch and having a dig.)We have a great lifestyle here, but it has been at the expense of 'family', and we have been here for 20 years. My kids have missed being involved with their cousins and aunts, uncles and grandparents, they are both grown up now and will have Aussie families of their own, but the first generation that come here do miss out I think. I love my life here, and wouldnt change it, but I do think I have missed out on having close family around me, in many ways.
Aug 7th 2007, 5:09 am
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I don't think I'd have given her the satisfaction of letting her know it had got to me. I'd have just ignored the silly woman 
Aug 7th 2007, 5:45 am
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Well done you!! Let us know if you get a reply
Aug 7th 2007, 5:49 am
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My Mam met one of my best friend's sisters the other day. She's always been a bit of a cow anyway, so I don't know why I'm surprised. She asked after us and Mam said that we were having a great time, loving it in Australia, building our own home, kids were settled, etc., etc. (She would have said all of this to her anyway, even we were hating it here....!) In reply, she said words to the effect: "They might be having a great lifestyle there, but it wouldn't be for me, I'm more "into family" - suggesting to my poor Mother that our family isn't. Mam emailed me as she does every day and I'm still spitting feathers. My Mother misses us terribly still and she really doesn't need the likes of her to pass sarky comments like this. Needless to say, I decided to bend the cow's cyber ear and sent her a little email as follows:
Hello Ann
I wanted to write to let you know that next time you meet my Mother, have the good grace to keep your caustic comments to yourself. Apparently you said that “they might be having a great life there, but I couldn’t do that because I’m more into family” or words to that effect. How dare you infer that your family are better than ours because we have moved to Australia or that your family are “closer” because you all live a stone’s throw from Loughnane Terrace. I’m lucky that my parents raised me (and my brothers) to be independent and adventurous in life. I feel very lucky to have the privilege of living in this beautiful country beside my eldest brother and am as close to the rest of my family as ever, just in different ways. I know I’ll be glad at the end of my life that I have tried different things and not been in the same job or house for 30 or 40 years.
My Mother certainly does not need the likes of you making comments like that to her. She misses us, but is proud that we’re very happy here – the kids especially have a much better lifestyle than they would have had in Galway. Hope your Mother is as proud of you……..
I tried not to get too personal (it was very hard!), but didn't want to go down to her level. It's sent now - hope I did the right thing....
Hello Ann
I wanted to write to let you know that next time you meet my Mother, have the good grace to keep your caustic comments to yourself. Apparently you said that “they might be having a great life there, but I couldn’t do that because I’m more into family” or words to that effect. How dare you infer that your family are better than ours because we have moved to Australia or that your family are “closer” because you all live a stone’s throw from Loughnane Terrace. I’m lucky that my parents raised me (and my brothers) to be independent and adventurous in life. I feel very lucky to have the privilege of living in this beautiful country beside my eldest brother and am as close to the rest of my family as ever, just in different ways. I know I’ll be glad at the end of my life that I have tried different things and not been in the same job or house for 30 or 40 years.
My Mother certainly does not need the likes of you making comments like that to her. She misses us, but is proud that we’re very happy here – the kids especially have a much better lifestyle than they would have had in Galway. Hope your Mother is as proud of you……..
I tried not to get too personal (it was very hard!), but didn't want to go down to her level. It's sent now - hope I did the right thing....
Aug 7th 2007, 5:57 am
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Re: caustic comments from home
Daily communication between family & friends. How often does this happen when in the same town or village. Food for thought
"but it wouldn't be for me, I'm more "into family"."
Does this mean we all have to live in the same street, village or country? Maybe for some who have nothing else worth living for???
Who need a sense of control over immediate family or
Making excuses for a family that would not be able to make a move (thinking legal constraints / black sheep stuck in prison)
"but it wouldn't be for me, I'm more "into family"."
Does this mean we all have to live in the same street, village or country? Maybe for some who have nothing else worth living for???
Who need a sense of control over immediate family or
Making excuses for a family that would not be able to make a move (thinking legal constraints / black sheep stuck in prison)
Aug 7th 2007, 5:59 am
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Are there any other kind 
Aug 7th 2007, 8:05 am
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Good for you girl !!! let us know if she replys!!
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Aug 7th 2007, 8:09 am
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Oh good on ya. I think it was bitchery and shameful that she was trying to upset your mum.
I'm getting pretty annoyed at my BIL these days as we can hardly talk about Australia now before he quips sarcastically, "oh, yes, everything is better in Australia, didn't you know"?
Yawn, yawn.
I'm getting pretty annoyed at my BIL these days as we can hardly talk about Australia now before he quips sarcastically, "oh, yes, everything is better in Australia, didn't you know"?
Yawn, yawn.
Aug 7th 2007, 8:21 am
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My Mam met one of my best friend's sisters the other day. She's always been a bit of a cow anyway, so I don't know why I'm surprised. She asked after us and Mam said that we were having a great time, loving it in Australia, building our own home, kids were settled, etc., etc. (She would have said all of this to her anyway, even we were hating it here....!) In reply, she said words to the effect: "They might be having a great lifestyle there, but it wouldn't be for me, I'm more "into family" - suggesting to my poor Mother that our family isn't. Mam emailed me as she does every day and I'm still spitting feathers. My Mother misses us terribly still and she really doesn't need the likes of her to pass sarky comments like this. Needless to say, I decided to bend the cow's cyber ear and sent her a little email as follows:
Hello Ann
I wanted to write to let you know that next time you meet my Mother, have the good grace to keep your caustic comments to yourself. Apparently you said that “they might be having a great life there, but I couldn’t do that because I’m more into family” or words to that effect. How dare you infer that your family are better than ours because we have moved to Australia or that your family are “closer” because you all live a stone’s throw from Loughnane Terrace. I’m lucky that my parents raised me (and my brothers) to be independent and adventurous in life. I feel very lucky to have the privilege of living in this beautiful country beside my eldest brother and am as close to the rest of my family as ever, just in different ways. I know I’ll be glad at the end of my life that I have tried different things and not been in the same job or house for 30 or 40 years.
My Mother certainly does not need the likes of you making comments like that to her. She misses us, but is proud that we’re very happy here – the kids especially have a much better lifestyle than they would have had in Galway. Hope your Mother is as proud of you……..
I tried not to get too personal (it was very hard!), but didn't want to go down to her level. It's sent now - hope I did the right thing....
Hello Ann
I wanted to write to let you know that next time you meet my Mother, have the good grace to keep your caustic comments to yourself. Apparently you said that “they might be having a great life there, but I couldn’t do that because I’m more into family” or words to that effect. How dare you infer that your family are better than ours because we have moved to Australia or that your family are “closer” because you all live a stone’s throw from Loughnane Terrace. I’m lucky that my parents raised me (and my brothers) to be independent and adventurous in life. I feel very lucky to have the privilege of living in this beautiful country beside my eldest brother and am as close to the rest of my family as ever, just in different ways. I know I’ll be glad at the end of my life that I have tried different things and not been in the same job or house for 30 or 40 years.
My Mother certainly does not need the likes of you making comments like that to her. She misses us, but is proud that we’re very happy here – the kids especially have a much better lifestyle than they would have had in Galway. Hope your Mother is as proud of you……..
I tried not to get too personal (it was very hard!), but didn't want to go down to her level. It's sent now - hope I did the right thing....
Aug 7th 2007, 9:00 am
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did you get a reply???????
Aug 7th 2007, 9:07 am
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Well done you. Sometimes it's good to show people for what they are, jealous and nasty.
I had my sister down for the first time since we decided to emigrate. And she opened with a sarcastic comment of I don't know why you are going, ready to launch into how wonderful she thought her life was, then her son, bless him, said, but mum you wanted to emigrate two years ago. Cue the silence, and big smile on my face.
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I had my sister down for the first time since we decided to emigrate. And she opened with a sarcastic comment of I don't know why you are going, ready to launch into how wonderful she thought her life was, then her son, bless him, said, but mum you wanted to emigrate two years ago. Cue the silence, and big smile on my face.
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