Can you really 'forgive & forget'?
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I try to be a forgive and forget kind of person. It's not easy but it's not meant to be. You're not forgiving if you're not forgetting so I can't understand people saying that they forgive but won't forget. Not forgetting is still to harbour a grudge.
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Don't agree. Your brain holds too much info. It's impossible to forget stuff, regardless of whether you actually forgive the person or not. God believer people who have had family members murdered have forgiven the murderer because they believe that god wants them to. Doesn't mean they forget that the person has murdered their loved one.
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Don't agree. Your brain holds too much info. It's impossible to forget stuff, regardless of whether you actually forgive the person or not. God believer people who have had family members murdered have forgiven the murderer because they believe that god wants them to. Doesn't mean they forget that the person has murdered their loved one.
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I think men do forgive AND forget alot easier than women, who, supposedly forgive, but they definitely do not forget.
When it suits them they bring up the 'forgiven' misdemeanour as an argument for the current situation.
So as the Corrs would say, Forgiven, but not forgotten.
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For me it depends upon the seriousness of the wrong done against me. I never forget and most people get one free strike, as it were. Wrong me again and I don't forgive a second time.
I haven't spoken to (or seen) my brother in almost ten years because of several things he's done to me. I could quite happily (and intend to) go the rest of my life with seeing or speaking to him, too.
I haven't spoken to (or seen) my brother in almost ten years because of several things he's done to me. I could quite happily (and intend to) go the rest of my life with seeing or speaking to him, too.
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For me it depends upon the seriousness of the wrong done against me. I never forget and most people get one free strike, as it were. Wrong me again and I don't forgive a second time.
I haven't spoken to (or seen) my brother in almost ten years because of several things he's done to me. I could quite happily (and intend to) go the rest of my life with seeing or speaking to him, too.
I haven't spoken to (or seen) my brother in almost ten years because of several things he's done to me. I could quite happily (and intend to) go the rest of my life with seeing or speaking to him, too.
As I said, it all depends on what happened - some things really are unforgivable.
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