jazzys

Hi all, I recieved what must be every expats worst nightmare last night.
That dreaded phone call from England telling them that a loved one has died.

In my case its the lady my son knew as his grandma, not strictly his grandma but to him its irrelevant.

How do I tell him?

Jazzys

flowergal

Sorry to hear your news Jazzys, Yeah its hard to tell a child a loved one has past, the best thing is to sit them down and just tell them that they have passed away, and just answer any Qs they have as kindly as you can, and just be there for their upset, Good luck mate its not the nicest job in the world just be strong for you and your boy.
Sending you hugs

Amanda

jazzys

Thanks amanda, not sure if its better or worse that we're on the other side of the planet.

Jazzys

jad n rich

How olds your son, depends on age, maturity, personality, had to tell ours this news when youngest was 7 and again, albiet a much less close person last year. Were a very open honest family, used the correct terms, explained the illness without being too graphic. Easier with the teenage ones they were kinda prepared for it, took it with that teenage kind of resiliance and a rather cutting comment about 'moving ta other side of world'.

flowergal

From what you ve said Jazzys hes a gutsy kid, moving to the other side of the world with you, he ll take it in his stride, your a top Dad I know you can handel this.

Hugs again Amanda

soapy©

good advice this and something like what i would have said.

its a hard one Jazzy

camel1

its a hard one. my kids (6 and 10) gran died last year. i just had to be straight with them and told them outright, lots of tears etc. but to be honest kids bounce back very quickly. my husband was in scotland at the time so was just left to me, good luck with it, i dont envy u one bit


el

jazzys

I've just told him, he's OK. Sad obviously and he'll probably have a few tears at bed time. He's 12 by the way.

I didn't think it would do him any good to prepare him for a few days telling him she was getting worse and worse and eventually telling him she had died.

We are gunna make a sympathy card this afternoon and send it off to his mam and sister who are very upset.

We are gunna colour it in all bright colours with birds and flowers and sunshine on it.

Thanks for the advice.

Jazzys

soapy©

more good advice, but you were too late

soapy©

best just kep him busy for the next few day so he doesnt dwell on it

jazzys

My pals had a brand new hummer delivered today. I have a feeling that will take his mind off it.

Thanks for all the help guys

Jazzys

flowergal

That will do the trick !!!!

Glad he took it well, just keep an eye on him for a few days, he ll be fine with you to look out for him .

Amanda

jazzys

I know he'll be fine now. I was worried about how he might take it but we gave each other a hug and he patted me on the back as if to say "its OK dad, I'm here if you need me" and then he told me he'd scored in basketball this afternoon at school.

He's my hero, what a top top kid.

Jazzys

flowergal

Just like his top Dad

jazzys

Thanks Flowergal, so kind.
All was fine until we jumped in the car to go and see my mates new Hummer.
See new thread entitled "My god them huntsmans are fast"

Jazzys