Babycatcher

People ask me regularly about the pros and cons of a big age difference (my DH is 11 yrs older than me, 35+46) and obviously there are both but we have been together nearly 14 years and we are still standing.
Wonder how it will feel when he is 60 and I am 49 It seems to generate less comments now that we are thirties and forties then it did when I was 22 and he was 33.
Anyway wondering what people think about age difference?
And is there a double standard - if I was older would that be less tolerated?
If I had been 33 and he was 22...think that would have been frowned apon. And is there an age gap that is too big? Either way round?
Anyway just wondering what you gorgeous people think

leweli

Is just over 11 years between me and my hubby too (me 38, him 50 this year). Would agree that there are definitely pros and cons on both sides. Saying that, couldn't be happier - meeting him is the best thing that's happened to me x.

NikiL

As far as the age gap being the other way around goes, all I can say is Demi Moore. The way round you have it, Catherine Zeta Jones.

Who gives, if it works for you, it works for you regardless of age. If everyone took age into account there would be less people in happy, successful relationships. If it works, it works, thats what matters, not age.

Babycatcher

yeh totally agree but it's funny how often it comes up in coverstion.

My sister told me recently she was having a 'thing' with a 25 yr old - she is 51....I was shocked, not in a judging way...she is happy that is all that matters. Haven't talked to her about how she feels about peoples attitude but I bet she gets some.
p.s. if I looked like Demi I might consider a younger man too!

NikiL

Don't forget the $220k surgery cost that goes with her

Vanessa

We have a number of friends where the woman is older than the man and they all seem to work. The biggest difference is one of our friends is 49 and his wife is 63 and they have been married for 27 years. When I look at all these relationships and other 'normal' ones, what seems to work is that they make each other laugh and generally have a good time, taking the bad/sad/difficult times as they come along and dealing with them.

Sheff_Sparky

doesnt matter.

there is 16 years between me and the OH. everyone was worried about the age difference but 8 years and 2 kids later have seen to that.

As long as you are both happy, who cares what others think?

dakota44

My OH is 23 years younger. Before we married about 15 months ago, I had relationships with even greater age differences. So, I have to say it doesn't matter. Happy is happy. Love is love.

Babycatcher

How lush.... hmmmmm maybe I should get a Toy Boy after all
Only kidding - We are happy and I don't give a monkey's what anyone thinks (never have) we are complete opposites and I know people don't get it so just as well I don't care. He is quiet and not very sociable, and sometimes a grumpy old git and I am quite gregarious, nearly always smiling and love to party but we make each other laugh and are always there for each other.... BTW our kids have decided we will be called 'Nana and Grumps' when we are grandparents LOL - think they have my sense of humour
Thanks guys...must remember to catch up with my sister and see how it's going

Donna&Neil

Hi I don't thing the number is the issue, its the people & their personalities. There is 16 years difference bewteen us & I've never been happier. Works for me

Donna

EvannTel

Doesnt matter
My OH is 10 years older than me. Coincidentally, 2 of our best friends are also 10 years apart (she the older) and within a couple of years of us. This way round does seem more unusual though.

Kooky.

I think, after a certain age, it really doesn't matter. What that age is I'm not really certain but I've previously said about 25 as I think you need to be adults.

There are far more important things to have in common than age - maturity (or immaturity!), where you are in your life, what you want from a relationship, etc.

My husband is ten years younger than me. We'd both been married before, were at similar places in our careers, earned similar money (i.e., were equals) and knew what we wanted from life.

The main thing that pisses me off about it all is when he thinks Westlife did the original...

leweli

The main thing that pisses me off about it all is when he thinks Westlife did the original...[/QUOTE]

My OH says the same thing about me x.

Gonnago

My OH says the same thing about me x.[/QUOTE]

LOL Me too

TeresaG

I don't think that age differences are important. As long as the two people in the relationship are happy, then it shouldn't matter how old they are.