sharon45

I have just spent the afternoon with my Niece and her two young kids. abigail 19mths and rebecca 4 months, got big hugs and kisses as they went out the door and a tear in my eye ,
Thats the goodbyes started and i am not looking forward to tommorrow saying goodbye to one of my best friends who has just recently split from her hubby.
We fly 13th feb for the gold coast and every sleep now seems to be restless!!! i know we are doing the right thing but is still hard. Cant think about the day we leave and say goobye to our daughter cheryl 21 as she is staying here.
I feel like bubbling now as i type this

sharon

Sally Simpson

Big hugs Sharon!
Am afraid it will be hard but you will survive it & you have sooo much to look forward to. Try & enjoy it if you can.
Best wishes

mancfamily

Aw, I can't begin to imagine what I'm going to be like when the time comes for us to say our goodbyes...especially to my Grandad who'll be turning 80 this year.

I've got 4 nieces, and a nephew and another niece or nephew on the way, and it sounds silly but at least the others will know who their Auntie Laura is, I get upset thinking that this new addition (due in April), won't know me as we won't get to spend much time together

Let them tears flow...no point holding them back, and keep thinking of why you're making this life changing move.

Cheetah7

Tell me about it.

I seem to be fighting with everyone at the moment.

I have so far, fought with:

1. LA Fitness - took them to Trading Standards and won

2. Sky - billed for porn movies not ordered, never ordered them as I could write far better erotic fiction than they could show. Managed to prove my innocence by demonstrating that while they thought the movies were ordered by a landline, we had no landline in Xmas 2006, letter of apology.

3. BT - demanding to know where I will live when I get to Australia, I told them that its none of their business and as Im disconnecting in 2 weeks, the bill will be paid.

4. British Gas - for the same reasons as BT.

5. Paypal - whose system failed last night when I tried to lift the limits on the account, they said now I have to write a letter explaining why I want the money, what I want it for and when I want it, along with utility bills and a list of phone numbers should they need to contact me. Plus it takes 5 days to transfer the money so they reckon it will be at least two weeks before I get it. So now I cant remove the remaining couple of hundred for Gordons account.

6. The fat monkeypigmenopausalpigbitch at work whom I completely lost my rag with yesterday, bully bitch got the sticky end of my wicket yesterday - serves her right for being the office bully.

Funnily enough I have discovered that at the moment I am being very blunt and the people that previously 'dished' it, cannot take it back.

I am on a short fuse, have low tolerance to wankerdom, prone to bursting into tears and feel that at the moment, everyone wants a piece of me.

Even m sister is saying 'Oh you have to say over at your leaving party' - never mind that I have to clean the flat and get sorted, oh no, that doesnt matter.

Paypal have received a nasty letter - their system failed and it is not my fault. I hate, loathe and detest their automated American robotic methods of discussion, sounding like a ladyboy who is 'halfway there' with their voicebox.

Seriously, the next one to mess with my mojo is seriously going to get a kick.

Funnily enough the packing is no longer getting to me, its the other shit Im finding hard to deal with.

Ordinarily I would say sorry for such a rant and use the symbol, but tonight I dont care, I wanted that rant, needed that rant and wont say sorry for it.

Anyone else care to add to the stresses of migration, purely to make us all feel better of course

Dazza49

Hi Sharon,
I know its the worst part of the journey saying goodbye to friends and family. I have also left 3 children behind as they didn't want to come
(daughter 21, twin sons 22 and 2 grandchildren 3+18mths) and it was the hardest thing I had to do but they have their lives to lead and your daughter can also follow you out here later on down the line.
Technology these days is a wonderful thing, what with email, Skype and cheap calls to uk, there will be no excuse to feel distant from the people you love. I see and speak more to my family and friends now through skype than I did in the uk.They can also fly out for a holiday, we've only been here since Nov 07 and my daughter is coming over for a holiday for 3 weeks at the end of Feb. I found it a little easier not to drag the goodbyes out, I found it helped myself and also the person I was saying goodbye to.
It will be ok, just keep telling yourself your starting on a new adventure/chapter of your life and appreciate how lucky you are to have the opportunity, there are so many people who aren't so lucky.
Wish you all the best and hope all goes well.When you do arrive there are alot of Expats who get together for girlie nights out and also family meet ups at the beach the 2nd Saturday of every month , so you will soon have a good circle of new friends.

Ally

annkc

Hiya sharon am from arbroath and going in May, like u my daughter will be getting left behind temporarily. But she is coming out to validate her visa and hopefully she will come out for good in november. But still we havent been apart for more than 10days ever. so i am dreading the day when i've to leave her behind.
anyway goodluck to u all
annkc

no longer in scotland

Hi saying goodbye is hard but remember its not really goodbye as that is final, its see you later as you know at some point you will.!!
That was how we delt with it i dont do goodbyes, i know hard faced bitch but its the only way i could stop myself bursting into tears every two minutes.

I have been here 7 months now and for the first 6 weeks its like being on holiday, its not till you find somewhere to live perm, that you realise your not going home and then you start to miss people, but with msn and skype beleive me you wont get time to miss anyone, in fact youwill get to the point of not going on line so you can avoid talking to them !!!!!!

7 months and they still dont get the time difference !!

So take it easy and less stress, take a step back and calm down, have a glass of wine or 5 and go to bed. When you get up the next day all will seem better.


Hope all goes well for all on there way to such a great life.

Hannah

NikiL

When shit is going on, and your priorities are you and yours, f**k everyone else. Your inate self preservation system kicks in, and the bullsh*t detector goes into overdrive. Thats when you start taking less shit from other people. You don't need it, your system can't really deal with it so God help the people who deal it out. Having seen some of your revenge options posts, I really do mean God help them


Don't worry about it, its your stress mechanism coping. If they deserve it, then who gives if they get it back.


Not long & it will all be over & well worth it

chris and farideh

Hi Sharon

Once you are on that plane, things feel a little better, once you land things become so exciting, because once you land your brain is so numb with the jet lag, that you are not thinking about anything else except for a good night sleep.
Wishing you all the best with your journey, which part of GC are you staying in?
keep in touch when you get here.

{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}}}}}

Farideh x

mancfamily

You go girl! Good for you for dealing with the office bully....the bitch deserved it

We've not got our visa yet, so I suppose all our stresses will come then!
at the minute we are in the worrying stages that the visa won't be granted.

Clippy

Aww just read some of these posts and it's so how I was before I went. Can only speak for myself here obviously but I can tell you that for me it seems like years ago when I was all wound up and stressed. It's so much more chilled now and I've only been here a month

First week can be stressful getting everything done and you do seem to be running around at 100mph but once all the fiddly bits are dealt with it's time to relax

See you all in the sunshine

framac

Greet as much as you want coz it wont get any easier for a while but you'll get by it and go on to greater experiences than you could imagine. All the best.

nicolamoon

Hi Sharon, We fly a week today and im tearful all the bloody time. Final leaving party tonight for family, friends workmates, im guna take my mascara with me Chin up
xxx

ElaineG

Wait until you wake up and realise every day is sunny!! (ignore the rain we've had for the last 2 months, it's still averaging 27 degrees and the rain is gone before you know it! and the Gold Coast doesn't have water restrictions - don't know what I'm talking about, you will soon, you will get sick of hearing about how much water they have in the dams!??>!). YOU are going to have fun, fun, fun and what on earth is your daughter thinking of staying in dismal, grey old England - get her over here as fast as you can - she doesn't know what she's missing!!! Good luck - you won't regret it .... and don't forget to have a trip back in about 6 months, just to remind yourself why you left!

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it doesnt seem like 5 minutes ago nothing was happening and there was no visa in sight ... and now look - when do you leave blighty??