Originally Posted by MissBetty (Post 11317824)

Hello everyone and wow, thanks again for all the good wishes you awesome people xx

Ok well I went to see him and it was just awful, I hardly recognise him and I know now there is nothing anyone can do. He's still got the old spark though, he told me he was fed up and he wanted to come home. The hospice staff were so amazing but we had a good chat and I said I could cope, I've got no kids, medical knowledge and time so they said ok, his face just lit up bless him! He refused to wait for an ambulance so we got him into my sister's car and off we went humming the tune from The Great Escape!

He's now home and Mum, my sister and I are taking it in turns to do 'night duty'. The support we have had is unreal - I never knew how much help was available. Within two days we have a special bed, mattress to prevent pressure sores, a commode, district nurses and a carer who comes in once a day. I have lot of drugs from the hospice so I'm doing all his meds plus fluids as he struggles to eat or drink. They even gave me oro-morphine in the take home pack, which I was surprised at, but it's great as I just give him a small amount when he needs it, he gets pain free rest and he looks so peaceful.

All my Dad wants is to die peacefully at home with dignity cared for by his family and that is what he shall have, he's been an amazing Dad so it's the least I could do.



Thanks again everyone :-) xx

Originally Posted by BEVS (Post 11317864)

Hey there from someone who has been exactly there with this 5 years ago. Just me and my Dad though. We were given the exact same amazing care , service & facilities , except it was just me so a Marie Curie nurse would have been put in place to help me. The bed was 25th century to me.


All the very best to you, as you all ease your Dad and yourselves into his final days or weeks.
It is a good thing you do. I have never ever regretted doing this , despite all the odds against it.


He is your lovely Dad & I simply wish you all a little, teeny bit of quality time if possible and to see him comfy and peaceful.

Originally Posted by MissBetty (Post 11319665)

Hi everyone just to let you know my awesome Dad died last night. It was just us here, Mum my sister and I held him, told him we loved him and he just slipped away, it was very peaceful and dignified.

I'm still in shock but I do take comfort that I was here and carried out his wishes as I know a lot of people never get that chance.

Thank you for all your kind messages I'm very grateful xx

Originally Posted by MissBetty (Post 11319665)

Hi everyone just to let you know my awesome Dad died last night. It was just us here, Mum my sister and I held him, told him we loved him and he just slipped away, it was very peaceful and dignified.

I'm still in shock but I do take comfort that I was here and carried out his wishes as I know a lot of people never get that chance.

Thank you for all your kind messages I'm very grateful xx