One Year In as a returning single parent
#1
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One Year In as a returning single parent
Hi everyone
Sorry I don't tend to come on here very often now. Can't believe a whole year has come and gone. As you know I returned after my ex had a 'mid life crisis', I won't go into details on here but relations remain 'strained'. To be honest I don't think he believed I would leave all my worldly goods behind.
In the last year I have accomplished:
A job
A secondary school place for my daughter (after appeal)
Reconnecting with family and friends
Made some new friends (both myself and my daughter)
Bought a car
Bought a house
Enjoyed a holiday to Majorca
Been on a £9.50 Sun holiday!
Realised what great friends I have
Realised that I can't do it all and be a bit more kind to myself
Eaten fish and chips of the pier
Walk more
Days out in London
Still to be finalise:
A busier social life
Making a garden
More holidays
Helping daughter continue to catch up by paying for extra tuition.
There have been days where I have said to myself I should have stayed in Canada especially if the 'ex' is being childish and demanding and it would be easier to deal with him.
Although he has all our worldly goods alongside his mid-life crisis sports car and endless gadgets I am still 'richer' than him.
At the end of the day we all return for different reasons, crystal balls are not usually available when we make the decision to leave the UK.
All I am saying is that anything is possible if you really want it.
Good luck everyone.
Sorry I don't tend to come on here very often now. Can't believe a whole year has come and gone. As you know I returned after my ex had a 'mid life crisis', I won't go into details on here but relations remain 'strained'. To be honest I don't think he believed I would leave all my worldly goods behind.
In the last year I have accomplished:
A job
A secondary school place for my daughter (after appeal)
Reconnecting with family and friends
Made some new friends (both myself and my daughter)
Bought a car
Bought a house
Enjoyed a holiday to Majorca
Been on a £9.50 Sun holiday!
Realised what great friends I have
Realised that I can't do it all and be a bit more kind to myself
Eaten fish and chips of the pier
Walk more
Days out in London
Still to be finalise:
A busier social life
Making a garden
More holidays
Helping daughter continue to catch up by paying for extra tuition.
There have been days where I have said to myself I should have stayed in Canada especially if the 'ex' is being childish and demanding and it would be easier to deal with him.
Although he has all our worldly goods alongside his mid-life crisis sports car and endless gadgets I am still 'richer' than him.
At the end of the day we all return for different reasons, crystal balls are not usually available when we make the decision to leave the UK.
All I am saying is that anything is possible if you really want it.
Good luck everyone.
#2
Re: One Year In as a returning single parent
Congrats on your return home and the successful integration of your daughter in school and you with a social life. Reading ur post made me smile. You've accomplished a lot in a year. Cheers to a busier social life, more holidays, a garden and everything else on your list
#3
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Re: One Year In as a returning single parent
Can I ask why there were problems in getting a school place for your daughter ?
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Back2Blighty - you've done amazing things in that short twelve months! I too know what it's like to start again, and although it can be hard, you have the satisfaction of looking around you, at your settled daughter, your house, your job - and you can say 'I did all that on my own'. Thanks for your update and may things keep getting better and better for you
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Re: One Year In as a returning single parent
It sounds like you've had a lot on your plate (before moving too) so congratulations for making such incredible headway and all the best to you towards completing your list. Good luck!!
#6
Re: One Year In as a returning single parent
Sounds like you got the better end of things, and he got a lot of "stuff"
#7
Re: One Year In as a returning single parent
Congratulations, what a journey. You are definitely 'winning'!
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Re: One Year In as a returning single parent
Thanks for the update. It certainly sounds like you had a lot to contend with but have done a really good job of it! You are definitely "richer" ! Glad life is good and wishing you all the best.
#9
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Re: One Year In as a returning single parent
Hi everyone
Sorry I don't tend to come on here very often now. Can't believe a whole year has come and gone. As you know I returned after my ex had a 'mid life crisis', I won't go into details on here but relations remain 'strained'. To be honest I don't think he believed I would leave all my worldly goods behind.
In the last year I have accomplished:
A job
A secondary school place for my daughter (after appeal)
Reconnecting with family and friends
Made some new friends (both myself and my daughter)
Bought a car
Bought a house
Enjoyed a holiday to Majorca
Been on a £9.50 Sun holiday!
Realised what great friends I have
Realised that I can't do it all and be a bit more kind to myself
Eaten fish and chips of the pier
Walk more
Days out in London
Still to be finalise:
A busier social life
Making a garden
More holidays
Helping daughter continue to catch up by paying for extra tuition.
There have been days where I have said to myself I should have stayed in Canada especially if the 'ex' is being childish and demanding and it would be easier to deal with him.
Although he has all our worldly goods alongside his mid-life crisis sports car and endless gadgets I am still 'richer' than him.
At the end of the day we all return for different reasons, crystal balls are not usually available when we make the decision to leave the UK.
All I am saying is that anything is possible if you really want it.
Good luck everyone.
Sorry I don't tend to come on here very often now. Can't believe a whole year has come and gone. As you know I returned after my ex had a 'mid life crisis', I won't go into details on here but relations remain 'strained'. To be honest I don't think he believed I would leave all my worldly goods behind.
In the last year I have accomplished:
A job
A secondary school place for my daughter (after appeal)
Reconnecting with family and friends
Made some new friends (both myself and my daughter)
Bought a car
Bought a house
Enjoyed a holiday to Majorca
Been on a £9.50 Sun holiday!
Realised what great friends I have
Realised that I can't do it all and be a bit more kind to myself
Eaten fish and chips of the pier
Walk more
Days out in London
Still to be finalise:
A busier social life
Making a garden
More holidays
Helping daughter continue to catch up by paying for extra tuition.
There have been days where I have said to myself I should have stayed in Canada especially if the 'ex' is being childish and demanding and it would be easier to deal with him.
Although he has all our worldly goods alongside his mid-life crisis sports car and endless gadgets I am still 'richer' than him.
At the end of the day we all return for different reasons, crystal balls are not usually available when we make the decision to leave the UK.
All I am saying is that anything is possible if you really want it.
Good luck everyone.
And how on earth did you manage a holiday for £9.50???
#11
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Location: NS, Canada 2007-2013. Now....England!
Posts: 2,211
Re: One Year In as a returning single parent
'The Sun' newspaper does them. You collect coupons or something and get a holiday in Britain
#12
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Re: One Year In as a returning single parent
WOW your story is so similar to mine. I left all my worldly belongings behind also and started from scratch after 23 years but like you I'm way richer and happier today than I've ever been!
Well done on accomplishing so much!!
Well done on accomplishing so much!!
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Re: One Year In as a returning single parent
Wish you the best for the future!
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Re: One Year In as a returning single parent
Thank you all for your good wishes. As I said before I don't tend to come on here much now but I will keep you updated in another 6 months.
Best wishes to all returning Brits. Believe me it can be done.
Take care everyone.
Best wishes to all returning Brits. Believe me it can be done.
Take care everyone.