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Old Jun 12th 2008, 3:27 pm
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Originally Posted by Ozzidoc
There's an ancestry visa, and that's how I came to the UK. My granny was born in England. However, it seems that it's only for Commonwealth citizens.

http://www.ukvisas.gov.uk/en/howtoap...inf9ukancestry
Yeah, I was looking into it since my grandmother was born in Canada (both of her parents were born in the UK) but that wasn't feasible. Then our focus changed when we decided it was best for DH to move here, rather than me go to the UK.


Maybe someday, if we become very rich, we'll be able to live 6 months there and 6 months here. I am not holding my breath on this one though
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Yeah, I was looking into it since my grandmother was born in Canada (both of her parents were born in the UK) but that wasn't feasible. Then our focus changed when we decided it was best for DH to move here, rather than me go to the UK.


Maybe someday, if we become very rich, we'll be able to live 6 months there and 6 months here. I am not holding my breath on this one though

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Originally Posted by Ozzidoc
There's an ancestry visa, and that's how I came to the UK. My granny was born in England. However, it seems that it's only for Commonwealth citizens.

http://www.ukvisas.gov.uk/en/howtoap...inf9ukancestry
Ah yes, there it is in black-and-white. Thank you for the link. I was looking at a different site, which I thought was the official one, that did not lay it out so clearly.

Do you think a highly skilled immigration lawyer would be able to argue that the US is just a very rebellious Commonwealth country?
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Originally Posted by auntie_wolf
Ah yes, there it is in black-and-white. Thank you for the link. I was looking at a different site, which I thought was the official one, that did not lay it out so clearly.

Do you think a highly skilled immigration lawyer would be able to argue that the US is just a very rebellious Commonwealth country?
Not an American one.

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Interesting reading this thread. I have read many thread on this very subject.

It all comes down to what you prefer in life and how you see the country where you reside.

I am a British expat living in Northern California. I left the UK after 27 years and move here. I stayed for 3 years and had real issues with the change of life. So much so that my American wife and I decided to move back the UK in 2006.

The first 6 months back in the UK was very exciting and we was treated like film stars. The only downside that sucked was looking for work and convincing employers that we was going to stay in the UK. I guess it took 4 to 6 weeks to get jobs we both really wanted.
I found it exciting showing my wife where I had grown up etc and the things that has moulded me into what I am now. This became very important to our relationship. She really understands where I come from and how, why and the things I do and say and my attitude etc. This was all a plus.

My wife loved that she had 25 days vacation. She loved that healthcare was free - something she was stunned about.

Anyway, after the excitement had died down we got into the groove of normal living. This is where the trouble started for me. I started comparing everything to the way life was in California. I could not appreicate being back. I kept missing things about California. In my mind I wanted to leave again and so I would start picking holes in everything and started to get really worked up about England, people, their attitudes toward life and work etc. It was if I was always looking to complain to someone about something and anything. This was all happening while I was trying to get my Green Card resolved. So playing the waiting game with the US embassy made it more frustrating. Damn I was just angry all the time. Maybe I felt guilty and ashamed bringing my American wife to the UK. It's all hard to explain and very unsettling. I, more than her wanted to leave again.

After 14 months in the UK we left. We came back to California, purchased a house, a dog, a cat and now live 20 minutes from the beach in a quite little town that has Redwood trees and river. It's the most beautiful place. We have a hot tub in our back garden. It's amazing. The houses are so cheap and the lifestyle is so laid back. Wonderful!

But....now after 16 months of being back here I am missing the UK again. WTF???? I feel like I want to move back. What pisses me off about the US? Well I have no healthcare(I am contracting). At first I would say to people that I am not bothered about having no vacation time here. I treated every weekend as a holiday as we have the beach so close. But, Americans here work like dogs. I have had 2 days vacation in a year. Everyone works all the time...all the time. Whats the deal with this? I generally feel run down, stressed and tired all the time. We will this ever stop.
I speak to Australians, Kiwis and other Brits here who all feel the same way. They tell me they often think about going back home. I guess us Europeans are spoiled with holiday. But hey, you only live once so why not enjoy it.

The transport in California sucks. It's all big trucks on the freeway and no easy to use trains. Infact there are no trains anywhere I live. You have to drive 2 hours by car to get to a train here.

I am planing to visit the UK soon for a week. I want to see how I feel again about life back there. Sometimes I wish I never left. The grass maybe green on the other side, but if you don't look then maybe you dont really need to know.

If you a very smart, lucky and work hard in America then you might be lucky enough to have a big home and relax (millionares). For the rest of us it's just work work work for 40 hrs per week for 50 weeks a year to pay for Healthcare and a home..... So that's nice.
I see it that no matter where you live in the world, you still have to work and pay the bills. But who wants to work all the time until you are about 70 years old just so you can save enough money to pay for your healthcare etc.

Life isn't perfect but I am considering breaking the news to my wife that I feel home sick and want to go home. I keep it quite most of the time as I think it may pass.

I dreamed of owning a home in California with all the trimmings. Now that we have that, it's not enough anymore for me personally. Life is short and it can't stop here.

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Originally Posted by britishfoodusa
After 14 months in the UK we left. .
Believe me, things have only gotten worse since 2006. Unless you are seriously ill and need free healthcare I would seriously consider the ramifications of moving back. Especially as you have already done this once before and it didn't work out that time either.

See if you can last out until 2010 and then go back to pick up some cheap property The same thing that happened in the early 90's will be repeating itself again in the next 2 years.
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You could be right about picking up a bargain home. Plus now is not a good time to sell.

Maybe I should atleast stay another 2 years to get my US Citizenship sorted. Alteast then I will have a choice to come and go much easier.

Hmmmmm

Maybe I just need to give it a little more time.
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Originally Posted by oldbag
I'm just wondering why you left the UK in the first place, and why you went back.....you say your return was for "personal reasons"....that could be anything from a failed relationship to running out of money. Both are personal.....but you sound very angry! Did you return to take advantage of the education system? And when (if) you qualify, where will you go then?

I think this might answer that question

"Although I left New Jersey a little prematurely (as far as I'm concerned) for personal reasons (yes, that means you -whore!)"

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I think this might answer that question

"Although I left New Jersey a little prematurely (as far as I'm concerned) for personal reasons (yes, that means you -whore!)"

I think I wanted him to be a little more explicit than he was..........
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Originally Posted by britishfoodusa
Interesting reading this thread. I have read many thread on this very subject.

It all comes down to what you prefer in life and how you see the country where you reside.

I am a British expat living in Northern California. I left the UK after 27 years and move here. I stayed for 3 years and had real issues with the change of life. So much so that my American wife and I decided to move back the UK in 2006.

The first 6 months back in the UK was very exciting and we was treated like film stars. The only downside that sucked was looking for work and convincing employers that we was going to stay in the UK. I guess it took 4 to 6 weeks to get jobs we both really wanted.
I found it exciting showing my wife where I had grown up etc and the things that has moulded me into what I am now. This became very important to our relationship. She really understands where I come from and how, why and the things I do and say and my attitude etc. This was all a plus.

My wife loved that she had 25 days vacation. She loved that healthcare was free - something she was stunned about.

Anyway, after the excitement had died down we got into the groove of normal living. This is where the trouble started for me. I started comparing everything to the way life was in California. I could not appreicate being back. I kept missing things about California. In my mind I wanted to leave again and so I would start picking holes in everything and started to get really worked up about England, people, their attitudes toward life and work etc. It was if I was always looking to complain to someone about something and anything. This was all happening while I was trying to get my Green Card resolved. So playing the waiting game with the US embassy made it more frustrating. Damn I was just angry all the time. Maybe I felt guilty and ashamed bringing my American wife to the UK. It's all hard to explain and very unsettling. I, more than her wanted to leave again.

After 14 months in the UK we left. We came back to California, purchased a house, a dog, a cat and now live 20 minutes from the beach in a quite little town that has Redwood trees and river. It's the most beautiful place. We have a hot tub in our back garden. It's amazing. The houses are so cheap and the lifestyle is so laid back. Wonderful!

But....now after 16 months of being back here I am missing the UK again. WTF???? I feel like I want to move back. What pisses me off about the US? Well I have no healthcare(I am contracting). At first I would say to people that I am not bothered about having no vacation time here. I treated every weekend as a holiday as we have the beach so close. But, Americans here work like dogs. I have had 2 days vacation in a year. Everyone works all the time...all the time. Whats the deal with this? I generally feel run down, stressed and tired all the time. We will this ever stop.
I speak to Australians, Kiwis and other Brits here who all feel the same way. They tell me they often think about going back home. I guess us Europeans are spoiled with holiday. But hey, you only live once so why not enjoy it.

The transport in California sucks. It's all big trucks on the freeway and no easy to use trains. Infact there are no trains anywhere I live. You have to drive 2 hours by car to get to a train here.

I am planing to visit the UK soon for a week. I want to see how I feel again about life back there. Sometimes I wish I never left. The grass maybe green on the other side, but if you don't look then maybe you dont really need to know.

If you a very smart, lucky and work hard in America then you might be lucky enough to have a big home and relax (millionares). For the rest of us it's just work work work for 40 hrs per week for 50 weeks a year to pay for Healthcare and a home..... So that's nice.
I see it that no matter where you live in the world, you still have to work and pay the bills. But who wants to work all the time until you are about 70 years old just so you can save enough money to pay for your healthcare etc.

Life isn't perfect but I am considering breaking the news to my wife that I feel home sick and want to go home. I keep it quite most of the time as I think it may pass.

I dreamed of owning a home in California with all the trimmings. Now that we have that, it's not enough anymore for me personally. Life is short and it can't stop here.

Goodness gracious, what in heaven is your wife thinking about all this? You must be driving her bonkers!
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Originally Posted by britishfoodusa
Interesting reading this thread. I have read many thread on this very subject.

It all comes down to what you prefer in life and how you see the country where you reside.

I am a British expat living in Northern California. I left the UK after 27 years and move here. I stayed for 3 years and had real issues with the change of life. So much so that my American wife and I decided to move back the UK in 2006.

The first 6 months back in the UK was very exciting and we was treated like film stars. The only downside that sucked was looking for work and convincing employers that we was going to stay in the UK. I guess it took 4 to 6 weeks to get jobs we both really wanted.
I found it exciting showing my wife where I had grown up etc and the things that has moulded me into what I am now. This became very important to our relationship. She really understands where I come from and how, why and the things I do and say and my attitude etc. This was all a plus.

My wife loved that she had 25 days vacation. She loved that healthcare was free - something she was stunned about.

Anyway, after the excitement had died down we got into the groove of normal living. This is where the trouble started for me. I started comparing everything to the way life was in California. I could not appreicate being back. I kept missing things about California. In my mind I wanted to leave again and so I would start picking holes in everything and started to get really worked up about England, people, their attitudes toward life and work etc. It was if I was always looking to complain to someone about something and anything. This was all happening while I was trying to get my Green Card resolved. So playing the waiting game with the US embassy made it more frustrating. Damn I was just angry all the time. Maybe I felt guilty and ashamed bringing my American wife to the UK. It's all hard to explain and very unsettling. I, more than her wanted to leave again.

After 14 months in the UK we left. We came back to California, purchased a house, a dog, a cat and now live 20 minutes from the beach in a quite little town that has Redwood trees and river. It's the most beautiful place. We have a hot tub in our back garden. It's amazing. The houses are so cheap and the lifestyle is so laid back. Wonderful!

But....now after 16 months of being back here I am missing the UK again. WTF???? I feel like I want to move back. What pisses me off about the US? Well I have no healthcare(I am contracting). At first I would say to people that I am not bothered about having no vacation time here. I treated every weekend as a holiday as we have the beach so close. But, Americans here work like dogs. I have had 2 days vacation in a year. Everyone works all the time...all the time. Whats the deal with this? I generally feel run down, stressed and tired all the time. We will this ever stop.
I speak to Australians, Kiwis and other Brits here who all feel the same way. They tell me they often think about going back home. I guess us Europeans are spoiled with holiday. But hey, you only live once so why not enjoy it.

The transport in California sucks. It's all big trucks on the freeway and no easy to use trains. Infact there are no trains anywhere I live. You have to drive 2 hours by car to get to a train here.

I am planing to visit the UK soon for a week. I want to see how I feel again about life back there. Sometimes I wish I never left. The grass maybe green on the other side, but if you don't look then maybe you dont really need to know.

If you a very smart, lucky and work hard in America then you might be lucky enough to have a big home and relax (millionares). For the rest of us it's just work work work for 40 hrs per week for 50 weeks a year to pay for Healthcare and a home..... So that's nice.
I see it that no matter where you live in the world, you still have to work and pay the bills. But who wants to work all the time until you are about 70 years old just so you can save enough money to pay for your healthcare etc.

Life isn't perfect but I am considering breaking the news to my wife that I feel home sick and want to go home. I keep it quite most of the time as I think it may pass.

I dreamed of owning a home in California with all the trimmings. Now that we have that, it's not enough anymore for me personally. Life is short and it can't stop here.

What a horrid situation to be in....I really hope you can get things sorted. If living there is bearable I would try and hold out for citizenship..esp as your wife is American..you will both then have more freedom to go between the two. Does your wife hold british citizenship aswell? Once its through can you maybe go back for a year before selling up as a trial run...don't think of your stay there as 'forever' take the pressure off yourself and talk it through with your wife, she may even feel the same??? goodluck..
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See if you can last out until 2010 and then go back to pick up some cheap property The same thing that happened in the early 90's will be repeating itself again in the next 2 years.
Thats what we're doing-might as well take advantage of a bad situation as there's nothing that can be done about it!
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This forum makes me laugh, all the homesick vultures who haven't lived in the UK for years are waiting for their prey. In this case a bloke who gives *his* honest opinion on what *he* dislikes about his first year back and you are all blaming it on his mental state.

But it's OK to send Karma to Flea when only after her first few hours back in the UK she starts a post about how great Britain is.

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I have been back in the UK for nearly three years after living abroad. When I was getting ready to move back I was excited but I soon realized I had built up the UK in my mind too much because I had not visited for so long. There are many things I do not like but most of all they are

- tasteless expensive food
- the consistently in your face growing government
- the weather
- public transportation
- too many taxes
- people don't wear deodorant
- health system is poor
- english people have terrible, terrible teeth

I hope this helps.
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I have been back in the UK for nearly three years after living abroad. When I was getting ready to move back I was excited but I soon realized I had built up the UK in my mind too much because I had not visited for so long. There are many things I do not like but most of all they are

- tasteless expensive food
- the consistently in your face growing government
- the weather
- public transportation
- too many taxes
- people don't wear deodorant
- health system is poor
- english people have terrible, terrible teeth

I hope this helps.
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