Why do some settle better than others??
Jun 25th 2006, 8:53 pm
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Re: Why do some settle better than others??
Originally Posted by Pollyana
Hear hear. There are times when no amount of PMA helps. Circumstances of life can eventually drag you down no matter how positive you are, or how badly you want to love a place.
Jun 25th 2006, 9:17 pm
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Re: Why do some settle better than others??
Originally Posted by shiels
Reccie visits have to be the best way to at least give you an idea whether you might like it or not.....that's why both yourselves and we are both doing that in August...... C x
Jun 25th 2006, 9:21 pm
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Re: Why do some settle better than others??
Originally Posted by 232Bar
Isn't that more commonly known as PMS??
Almost wish I suffered from PMS, then I could whinge and get sympathy instead of whinging and getting frowned at
Jun 25th 2006, 9:24 pm
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Re: Why do some settle better than others??
Originally Posted by Pollyana
Comments like that and I'll make you read the Ladies thread.......
Almost wish I suffered from PMS, then I could whinge and get sympathy instead of whinging and getting frowned at
Almost wish I suffered from PMS, then I could whinge and get sympathy instead of whinging and getting frowned at
Jun 25th 2006, 9:24 pm
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Re: Why do some settle better than others??
Originally Posted by Pollyana
Comments like that and I'll make you read the Ladies thread.......
Almost wish I suffered from PMS, then I could whinge and get sympathy instead of whinging and getting frowned at
Almost wish I suffered from PMS, then I could whinge and get sympathy instead of whinging and getting frowned at
Jun 25th 2006, 9:25 pm
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Re: Why do some settle better than others??
Originally Posted by Pollyana
Comments like that and I'll make you read the Ladies thread.......
Almost wish I suffered from PMS, then I could whinge and get sympathy instead of whinging and getting frowned at
Almost wish I suffered from PMS, then I could whinge and get sympathy instead of whinging and getting frowned at
Go on make him read it
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Jun 25th 2006, 9:26 pm
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Re: Why do some settle better than others??
Originally Posted by Mummy
We've been here for just about 2 years now and were quite happy and settled here until about 6 months ago. Sometimes its just not about being settled or not - in our case it is about what we feel is the best thing to do for everyone concerned.
6 months ago we went back to the UK for a visit, and it was just eye-opening to see how our 2 year old son got on with his family, who he had only seen a handful of times before. We did not appreciate the value of our families before we came here. When we made the move our son was still a baby, and so it was just a case of us two leaving our families - we didn't have to worry about the emotional impact on our son of leaving his family because he was so young. Now that he is older and it clear to see the interaction between him and his grandparents/aunts/uncles and cousins, it is much easier to see the emotional impact that leaving his family after such a short visit has on him, and on those family members too. He has no concept of time yet, so how do we try to explain to him that no we can't go and see grandma and grandad, not for a very long time.
We have therefore made the decision to return to the UK so that he can know his family and vice versa - we have no family here in Australia, and none of our friends here can even come close to replacing the close relationships with several people that all children need. He goes to family day care 4 days a week, and so has become very close to his childminder, but that relationship will have to end if we are still here when he goes to school.
I am close to my family, but lived about a 5 hour drive from them when we were still living in the UK, and we only really saw them every 3-4 months or so. I did not think we would be amongst the people that post on here who are returning for family reasons, but we are. I just feel that our son needs to develop a close and continuing relationship with more than just me and his father. When we return, needless to say, we will be aiming to live much close to our family than before.
I really hope that this does not turn into another citizenship for returnees debate, but I will say that we are intending to gain our citizenship before we return because we would like to come back again in say 20 years time - and no doubt so will our son.
And finally, I'm sure for everyone making the move out here, for those who stay, it will be hardest for the first generation, and less so for the next.
6 months ago we went back to the UK for a visit, and it was just eye-opening to see how our 2 year old son got on with his family, who he had only seen a handful of times before. We did not appreciate the value of our families before we came here. When we made the move our son was still a baby, and so it was just a case of us two leaving our families - we didn't have to worry about the emotional impact on our son of leaving his family because he was so young. Now that he is older and it clear to see the interaction between him and his grandparents/aunts/uncles and cousins, it is much easier to see the emotional impact that leaving his family after such a short visit has on him, and on those family members too. He has no concept of time yet, so how do we try to explain to him that no we can't go and see grandma and grandad, not for a very long time.
We have therefore made the decision to return to the UK so that he can know his family and vice versa - we have no family here in Australia, and none of our friends here can even come close to replacing the close relationships with several people that all children need. He goes to family day care 4 days a week, and so has become very close to his childminder, but that relationship will have to end if we are still here when he goes to school.
I am close to my family, but lived about a 5 hour drive from them when we were still living in the UK, and we only really saw them every 3-4 months or so. I did not think we would be amongst the people that post on here who are returning for family reasons, but we are. I just feel that our son needs to develop a close and continuing relationship with more than just me and his father. When we return, needless to say, we will be aiming to live much close to our family than before.
I really hope that this does not turn into another citizenship for returnees debate, but I will say that we are intending to gain our citizenship before we return because we would like to come back again in say 20 years time - and no doubt so will our son.
And finally, I'm sure for everyone making the move out here, for those who stay, it will be hardest for the first generation, and less so for the next.
In other words , dont get your hopes high. be realistic.
Jun 25th 2006, 9:31 pm
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Re: Why do some settle better than others??
Originally Posted by Hutch
Please miss! Please miss! I've read that thread!
Jun 25th 2006, 9:32 pm
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Re: Why do some settle better than others??
Originally Posted by geordie mandy
i agree with what you say. Im not in oz yet but that is what our attitude is.
We are lucky to some extent that we are coming over at 2 seperate times to have a look at different areas.
Saying that i would still feel happy just going for it with out a look at the place.
As we are going the army route we wont really know where we will be living for quite a while yet.
Part of the appeal of going down this route is we will hopefully be given a chance to sample many different places in Australia.
Life is certainly what you make it.
i have lived in some really strange places in my life and with some of the worst places i always managed to find something positive about where i was.
Any one who has been part of the army system for a long time will understand what it is like to move somewhere frequently . you learn to be adaptable and just get on with life, no matter what the condition of the of the house is.
Mandy
We are lucky to some extent that we are coming over at 2 seperate times to have a look at different areas.
Saying that i would still feel happy just going for it with out a look at the place.
As we are going the army route we wont really know where we will be living for quite a while yet.
Part of the appeal of going down this route is we will hopefully be given a chance to sample many different places in Australia.
Life is certainly what you make it.
i have lived in some really strange places in my life and with some of the worst places i always managed to find something positive about where i was.
Any one who has been part of the army system for a long time will understand what it is like to move somewhere frequently . you learn to be adaptable and just get on with life, no matter what the condition of the of the house is.
Mandy
Does that go for Bordon!!! Think I would struggle with that place! But agree with you, it's what you make of it as army wives well know.
Jun 25th 2006, 9:32 pm
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Re: Why do some settle better than others??
Originally Posted by 232Bar
READ IT??? - she bloody started it!!! :scared:
Jun 25th 2006, 9:36 pm
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Re: Why do some settle better than others??
Originally Posted by Pollyana
At least we can be fairly thats one thread you didn't contribute to while logged in as her!
Jun 25th 2006, 9:40 pm
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Re: Why do some settle better than others??
Originally Posted by Mummy
We've been here for just about 2 years now and were quite happy and settled here until about 6 months ago. Sometimes its just not about being settled or not - in our case it is about what we feel is the best thing to do for everyone concerned.
6 months ago we went back to the UK for a visit, and it was just eye-opening to see how our 2 year old son got on with his family, who he had only seen a handful of times before. We did not appreciate the value of our families before we came here. When we made the move our son was still a baby, and so it was just a case of us two leaving our families - we didn't have to worry about the emotional impact on our son of leaving his family because he was so young. Now that he is older and it clear to see the interaction between him and his grandparents/aunts/uncles and cousins, it is much easier to see the emotional impact that leaving his family after such a short visit has on him, and on those family members too. He has no concept of time yet, so how do we try to explain to him that no we can't go and see grandma and grandad, not for a very long time.
We have therefore made the decision to return to the UK so that he can know his family and vice versa - we have no family here in Australia, and none of our friends here can even come close to replacing the close relationships with several people that all children need. He goes to family day care 4 days a week, and so has become very close to his childminder, but that relationship will have to end if we are still here when he goes to school.
I am close to my family, but lived about a 5 hour drive from them when we were still living in the UK, and we only really saw them every 3-4 months or so. I did not think we would be amongst the people that post on here who are returning for family reasons, but we are. I just feel that our son needs to develop a close and continuing relationship with more than just me and his father. When we return, needless to say, we will be aiming to live much close to our family than before.
I really hope that this does not turn into another citizenship for returnees debate, but I will say that we are intending to gain our citizenship before we return because we would like to come back again in say 20 years time - and no doubt so will our son.
And finally, I'm sure for everyone making the move out here, for those who stay, it will be hardest for the first generation, and less so for the next.
6 months ago we went back to the UK for a visit, and it was just eye-opening to see how our 2 year old son got on with his family, who he had only seen a handful of times before. We did not appreciate the value of our families before we came here. When we made the move our son was still a baby, and so it was just a case of us two leaving our families - we didn't have to worry about the emotional impact on our son of leaving his family because he was so young. Now that he is older and it clear to see the interaction between him and his grandparents/aunts/uncles and cousins, it is much easier to see the emotional impact that leaving his family after such a short visit has on him, and on those family members too. He has no concept of time yet, so how do we try to explain to him that no we can't go and see grandma and grandad, not for a very long time.
We have therefore made the decision to return to the UK so that he can know his family and vice versa - we have no family here in Australia, and none of our friends here can even come close to replacing the close relationships with several people that all children need. He goes to family day care 4 days a week, and so has become very close to his childminder, but that relationship will have to end if we are still here when he goes to school.
I am close to my family, but lived about a 5 hour drive from them when we were still living in the UK, and we only really saw them every 3-4 months or so. I did not think we would be amongst the people that post on here who are returning for family reasons, but we are. I just feel that our son needs to develop a close and continuing relationship with more than just me and his father. When we return, needless to say, we will be aiming to live much close to our family than before.
I really hope that this does not turn into another citizenship for returnees debate, but I will say that we are intending to gain our citizenship before we return because we would like to come back again in say 20 years time - and no doubt so will our son.
And finally, I'm sure for everyone making the move out here, for those who stay, it will be hardest for the first generation, and less so for the next.
Jun 25th 2006, 9:47 pm
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Re: Why do some settle better than others??
Originally Posted by cresta57
Are you sure?
I have to fly tomorrow, I don't want to be il!
Jun 25th 2006, 9:51 pm
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Re: Why do some settle better than others??
Originally Posted by Pollyana
No no no - I don't WANT an image of him trying to do some of the things on that thread I have to fly tomorrow, I don't want to be il!
I have to fly tomorrow, I don't want to be il!
Jun 25th 2006, 9:59 pm
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Re: Why do some settle better than others??
Originally Posted by geordiekaz
Hi Mandy
Does that go for Bordon!!! Think I would struggle with that place! But agree with you, it's what you make of it as army wives well know.
Does that go for Bordon!!! Think I would struggle with that place! But agree with you, it's what you make of it as army wives well know.
That took some doing being positive about that place. i used to enjoy taking my son to the parent and toddler swim session.
I also earned £120 a night doing night duty. so even in a place i disliked i managed to be sort of positive.
Mandy
