what has been the most stressful?
Aug 31st 2004, 10:34 pm
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Re: what has been the most stressful?
come on everyone, need stimulation and info. BH sitting downstairs feeling that the world has come to an end, need yous lot to say that the best bits are on there way!
i'm trying constantly to say that all is well and not to worry! will bend over backwards to make BH smile! BH comes round for 10, then worries! is this normal?
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i'm trying constantly to say that all is well and not to worry! will bend over backwards to make BH smile! BH comes round for 10, then worries! is this normal?
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Aug 31st 2004, 11:46 pm
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Re: what has been the most stressful?
The wife here... 
Just had to reply to this one. The process of immigration is one of the most stressful things you will ever do I think. For us there were as many up days as there were down days. All the thoughts of "are we doing the right thing?" cannot be answered until you actually do it.
Letting go of those family members and dear friends is incredibly hard but we do have phones out here in Oz and I give ours a damn good bashing!!
We have met some great people since being here, obviously you cannot re-create those close friendships from the UK overnight, it'll take time and hard work. As for the homesickness, I'm feeling it badly at the moment but I'm hoping that it will ease with time, if it doesn't and after a year or two it's still there, then perhaps we'll look into going back. But if we do go back then I don't think we will ever say we regretted trying this.
So, good luck with the whole thing and remember, just because you emigrated to Australia it doesn't mean you can never move back to the UK if you feel you need to.
Just had to reply to this one. The process of immigration is one of the most stressful things you will ever do I think. For us there were as many up days as there were down days. All the thoughts of "are we doing the right thing?" cannot be answered until you actually do it.
Letting go of those family members and dear friends is incredibly hard but we do have phones out here in Oz and I give ours a damn good bashing!!
We have met some great people since being here, obviously you cannot re-create those close friendships from the UK overnight, it'll take time and hard work. As for the homesickness, I'm feeling it badly at the moment but I'm hoping that it will ease with time, if it doesn't and after a year or two it's still there, then perhaps we'll look into going back. But if we do go back then I don't think we will ever say we regretted trying this.
So, good luck with the whole thing and remember, just because you emigrated to Australia it doesn't mean you can never move back to the UK if you feel you need to.
Sep 1st 2004, 12:15 am
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Re: what has been the most stressful?
Originally Posted by holte end
The wife here...
Just had to reply to this one. The process of immigration is one of the most stressful things you will ever do I think. For us there were as many up days as there were down days. All the thoughts of "are we doing the right thing?" cannot be answered until you actually do it.
Letting go of those family members and dear friends is incredibly hard but we do have phones out here in Oz and I give ours a damn good bashing!!
We have met some great people since being here, obviously you cannot re-create those close friendships from the UK overnight, it'll take time and hard work. As for the homesickness, I'm feeling it badly at the moment but I'm hoping that it will ease with time, if it doesn't and after a year or two it's still there, then perhaps we'll look into going back. But if we do go back then I don't think we will ever say we regretted trying this.
So, good luck with the whole thing and remember, just because you emigrated to Australia it doesn't mean you can never move back to the UK if you feel you need to.
Just had to reply to this one. The process of immigration is one of the most stressful things you will ever do I think. For us there were as many up days as there were down days. All the thoughts of "are we doing the right thing?" cannot be answered until you actually do it.
Letting go of those family members and dear friends is incredibly hard but we do have phones out here in Oz and I give ours a damn good bashing!!
We have met some great people since being here, obviously you cannot re-create those close friendships from the UK overnight, it'll take time and hard work. As for the homesickness, I'm feeling it badly at the moment but I'm hoping that it will ease with time, if it doesn't and after a year or two it's still there, then perhaps we'll look into going back. But if we do go back then I don't think we will ever say we regretted trying this.
So, good luck with the whole thing and remember, just because you emigrated to Australia it doesn't mean you can never move back to the UK if you feel you need to.
Sep 1st 2004, 1:33 am
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Re: what has been the most stressful?
Most stressful thing? Saying goodbye at the airport.
Sep 1st 2004, 2:34 am
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Re: what has been the most stressful?
Originally Posted by stinky pete
hello everyone,
what if you never have those kind of mates again, it's what we talk about, when really contemplating it?
what if you never have those kind of mates again, it's what we talk about, when really contemplating it?
We've found a few friends here in 6 months, and can already see the seeds of a few good relationships growing. It just takes a lot of effort on your part to get there. Don't expect people to come knocking at your door, they probably think you're busy / doing fine. Get out there and do stuff, meet people, socialise in whatever way you like to.
Sep 1st 2004, 2:47 am
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Re: what has been the most stressful?
Leaving friends is hard. Leaving family is harder.
This was especially so for Jules. In the run up to leaving, we spent so much time with her family. Although I knew it would make the final goodbyes worse, I wouldn't have changed it.
It doesn't get any easier this far in (6 months), especially with constant reminders of home.
For me it felt easier. Family not so close, but that not to say I wanted to move away from them. We lived the expat life for 10 years while I was growing up, and I guess I hardened to the fact that you will leave people behind that you love.
My folks have just emigrated to N Cyprus, and I kind of feel that I'm not going to see them at all any more. That's hard to take in.
Still, I've made my choice, and them theirs. Wouldn't expect any different.
This was especially so for Jules. In the run up to leaving, we spent so much time with her family. Although I knew it would make the final goodbyes worse, I wouldn't have changed it.
It doesn't get any easier this far in (6 months), especially with constant reminders of home.
For me it felt easier. Family not so close, but that not to say I wanted to move away from them. We lived the expat life for 10 years while I was growing up, and I guess I hardened to the fact that you will leave people behind that you love.
My folks have just emigrated to N Cyprus, and I kind of feel that I'm not going to see them at all any more. That's hard to take in.
Still, I've made my choice, and them theirs. Wouldn't expect any different.
Sep 1st 2004, 6:15 am
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Re: what has been the most stressful?
Originally Posted by steandleigh
As one who is about to go ( ), i can say that, with hindsight, the most stressful thing, by far, is the goodbyes to family members.
The friends thing is not a problem to either of us as we seem to be lucky, in the fact, that we can make friends wherever we go. That isn't to say that we have never had best friends ( outside of each other ), but practically, and i'm afraid thats what we are, we are each others best friends, so we have what we need.
i am yet to report on 'the other side' and i guess it could throw up some stresses maybe, but i doubt it.
goodbyes = yuk!!!!
), i can say that, with hindsight, the most stressful thing, by far, is the goodbyes to family members.The friends thing is not a problem to either of us as we seem to be lucky, in the fact, that we can make friends wherever we go. That isn't to say that we have never had best friends ( outside of each other ), but practically, and i'm afraid thats what we are, we are each others best friends, so we have what we need.
i am yet to report on 'the other side' and i guess it could throw up some stresses maybe, but i doubt it.
goodbyes = yuk!!!!
A little list of stressful things:
Selling the house
Doing the meds
Waiting for visas
Saying goodbyes
Leaving work
Children leaving school
Teenage anxiety
The list goes on
We're off in 16 days and have a big leaving doo booked, seemed like a good idea at the time but now really not looking forward to it. Mrs and I feel totally drained but I'm sure it will be worth it in the long run. Then the stress will all start again on the other side looking for work, jobs , schools etc etc.
Would I do it again? Bloody right!!
Walla
Sep 1st 2004, 7:46 am
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Re: what has been the most stressful?
There were two main stressful bits for me:
1) Selling the house, don't underestimate the hassle and heartache this can cause!
2) Saying goodbye.
I can't say I have made any close friends yet, but we have made friends with more couples here that we socialise with, than we had in the UK! People are friendly and if you make an effort hopefully good friends will be made.
1) Selling the house, don't underestimate the hassle and heartache this can cause!
2) Saying goodbye.
I can't say I have made any close friends yet, but we have made friends with more couples here that we socialise with, than we had in the UK! People are friendly and if you make an effort hopefully good friends will be made.
Sep 1st 2004, 8:12 am
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Re: what has been the most stressful?
Originally Posted by renth
Most stressful thing? Saying goodbye at the airport.
