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Re: Visitors!
Originally Posted by little bear
(Post 7118605)
I would have loved for my mum or steptwat to offered to help in some way, not necessarily financialy but any other way would have been great, in a bid to try and get them out and about on their own to look around Perth (in order to try and give us all some space) i offered them the use of our car but that was no use either.
We were all fully aware that my steptwat is and always has been an incredibly difficult person, if its not his way then its not right as far as he is concerned and my mum waits on him hand and foot, we still believe that the reason he was even more of a nightmare than normal was to get back at us for leaving him to pick up the pieces after we left the UK (obviously my mum found it hard even though she supported our move) and jealousy that we had done something (emigrated to oz) that he had said for many years that he wanted to do, but to be perfectly honest it wasnt so much the waiting and serving them that did it, it was the snidy comments and remarks that were said. hope your time with your visitors goes well little bear x I have always been quite lucky with the people that have stayed with me.. unless it was early in my marriage and then my inlaws coming was horrible as they would come and critize me and then slag me off to everyone as soon as they had gone.. but that was a long time ago now and we have managed to find a happy medium (I bite my lip.. she lets me get on with doing things my way and now my MIL is older and not quite well she is more understanding of others)... I do *do* all the cooking etc when I have people to stay.. I was actually thinking that I might fill up the freezer with chilli con carnes and spag bols and loads of bbq foods etc etc and anything else I can think off.. specially if I people coming for 2 weeks... I did also think that we would eat out a lot as that is sometimes loads cheaper than me going to the supermarket and forking out a couple of hundred dollars in foods... if we eat out we tend to either take it in turns in paying or we split the bill... Met an English couple in WA... they were telling me that they had friends over and these friends would take their car and bring it back with no petrol in it.. or sit around the pool and wait for lunch to be made, then eat it and not offer to clear up... personally I think that these people are just plain rude or totally thick.. not sure any of my friends would be this insensitive, but I suppose you never know until they come and stay.. My bro & sis in law are hopefully coming out.. but I have stayed in Ireland with them for 2 weeks before and we just fell into a rule of that we take it in turns in paying for the weekly shop.. unless it was really expensive then we split it.. she is exceptionally clean and usually vacs and mops before I get out of bed.. in retaliation I usually do the cooking... when she gets all embarrassed I merely point out that she bltized the kitchen/lounge up that morning.. then when she is cleaning and *I* get embarrassed she points out that I cooked the evening before... we trot along very well!! My friends that spoilt us rotton this spring hopefuly will come out to see us.. they live in WA... then I can get a chance to spoil them too! I suppose.. in reflection, I am pretty lucky ! The only one who is a pain is the MIL and she is too poorly to come out, so even if she made it over here, coz she is ill, I'd prob turn a blind eye!... If she takes the piss too much, my husband usually tells her to wind her neck in! I am, as I type, counting my blessings! :) Em x |
Re: Visitors!
Originally Posted by emelems
(Post 7118466)
I am getting cold feet now :( My parents are coming over for 3 whole months... I've always had a brilliant relationship with them, and to be fair, if I am working she does the housework and the dinners.. (tho she isnt as good as getting dinners together now as she worries that my hubby and kids wont like them)... Dad is great at cutting lawns and generally helping out....
Re the friends, I think I am going to put a 3 week limit on anyone coming over.. I think 3 weeks is enough.. Can I point out a different view tho??? When I went and stayed with friends, they were brilliant, they cooked for us all each and every night.. poured wine for us.. took us everywhere.. helped us so much we can never ever really repay them... I tried to cook/clean and do stuff but I always felt very much in the way.. this wasnt the 1st time I tried to do this with friends I was staying with... they just didnt want me to do it.. felt like they had to do it.. so we made sure that we regularly filled up the wine rack and when they asked us to pick up stuff from the shops that we paid for it (AND THEN SHE TRIED TO GIVE ME MONEY! I TOLD HER TO F OFF! :lol:!) .. we did hire a car so we didnt impose and we did take them out for a slapup dinner before we left... but I still think that they did way way too much for us.. I am not complaining, dont get me wrong, but as the "host" sometimes you should back off and let the guests get on with it, no? Just some food for thought... sometimes we are so busy doing what is "right" we don't realise that we are taking over.. Em x |
Visitors!
We had a sister-in-law who came over business class for 4 weeks with $500 spending money. Needless to say we paid for absolutely everything, the lot, stock and barrel. A vague estimate of the month was about $3000, almost the price of a business class ticket to the UK, so in effect she did not pay for a thing, at all!
I was positively livid as I can still hear her voice saying down the 'phone "Great news! I'm coming over for a month!" So even self-invited. I recall coming home from work one day to be greeted with "You're home early! Why's that?" Obviously my response was through gritted teeth "Because I bloody live here!" It's the third time we have taken advantage of and a 'friend' contacted me to say she, her husband and young child would be coming over. I wrote a very long list (much of it mentioned here) about what we expect from them and what they can expect from us...............never heard from them again! So a result......well yes.......but there goes another friend down the river. Odd thing is if either myself or Mrs Nice Guy were to self-invite to their houses we would be told no room in the inn! Sad to say but events such as visitors just hardens one up to the meanness of people. |
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