Originally Posted by handbagmad (Post 5470049)

I knew I would receive great advice from BE, thank you all so much for caring enough to reply. We all know our parents are going to die eventually, but no one can prepare you for the grief you feel. I'm angry today as one sibling is quibbling over the final breakdown of the bill we all have to pay, and he never came to see Mum for 2years, and he only lived 2 miles away! My OH said to let my other brother Keith sort it out with him, but Keith is grieving badly too. We could do without this - families eh!

My Dad is coping remarkably well with keeping the bungalow clean, learnt how to use the washing machine, ironing, shopping, drove his car again this week, having pride in his appearance - it is just emotionally he has to deal with, and only time can heal that.


TJUK - my OH was also a pongo for 7 years before he joined RN 10 yrs ago as a submariner.

Thanks again

Originally Posted by fartso (Post 5807112)

Sorry to hear about your loss.I will hate it if my Dad past away.
Take your time to get over it,and im sure your doing the right thing.

Im hoping to go to OZ very soon and i've thought about this kind of thing,aswell as missing good friends.

Stay posted on this site and im sure you will get help from all..

Take care:wub:

Originally Posted by handbagmad (Post 5818105)

Thanks for your concern, I'm doing ok, still get odd days when I have a few tears, but I have learnt to let it out and get on with life. Had more bad news this weekend when my best friend's Mum died on Saturday, we grew up together and her mum was like a 2nd mum to me. Can't say I'm looking forward to the funeral later this week as it is the same place as my Mum's funeral. But I have to go for my friend as she hasn't got any family left now only her husband and son.

My OH has had his blood tests done, but should be able to have his medical in 4 weeks time for the RAN - so still going ahead with it. Hopefully going to Sydney and Perth for a holiday in September, can't book it yet until his summer leave is sorted out.
Hope everyone is still going forward with their RAN applications and all going well:D

Originally Posted by handbagmad (Post 5818183)

Yes I know how your feel about your Mum's birthday, it is my mum's birthday and wedding anniversary on 9 Feb, we have decided to go out for a nice meal and for a few drinks afterwards to the club my Mum and Dad used to go to. It's weird how it affects you at different times, I was talking about my mum in work - nothing sad, when a colleague burst into tears as it brought back memories of when she lost her mum 14 years ago.

Keep in touch to let me know how your application is going, do you know yet where you will be going? :)

Originally Posted by handbagmad (Post 5818105)

Thanks for your concern, I'm doing ok, still get odd days when I have a few tears, but I have learnt to let it out and get on with life. Had more bad news this weekend when my best friend's Mum died on Saturday, we grew up together and her mum was like a 2nd mum to me. Can't say I'm looking forward to the funeral later this week as it is the same place as my Mum's funeral. But I have to go for my friend as she hasn't got any family left now only her husband and son.

My OH has had his blood tests done, but should be able to have his medical in 4 weeks time for the RAN - so still going ahead with it. Hopefully going to Sydney and Perth for a holiday in September, can't book it yet until his summer leave is sorted out.
Hope everyone is still going forward with their RAN applications and all going well:D

Originally Posted by handbagmad (Post 5822352)

Hey thats weird, my OH was also a pongo for 7 years before he joined as a submariner 10 years ago.

Originally Posted by handbagmad (Post 5823928)

Once an army man always an army man! My OH and his ex army mates still reminisce about the army, oh and if we watch anything military on TV, I get - ' they are not holding that gun correctly, or they would never go into a building like that I reply 'if only they had consulted you first!' :D