Removing Children from the uk
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Hi Hoping theres someone out there who can help. Ive just started this process and would be grateful for any advise anyone can offer. My ex is refusing permission to take the children out of the country. I divorced him on the grounds of Domestic violence five years ago. Ive since remarried a Kiwi and looking to emmigrate next year. Im worried even if the court grants an order it will be with an undertaking to return the children to the UK into his care. Is there any way I can restrict this? Can anyone give me an idea of what im really going into with the courts. Solicitors seem to be giving me conflicting advise. Any advise really apprieciated.
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Originally Posted by Chubbs
Hi Hoping theres someone out there who can help. Ive just started this process and would be grateful for any advise anyone can offer. My ex is refusing permission to take the children out of the country. I divorced him on the grounds of Domestic violence five years ago. Ive since remarried a Kiwi and looking to emmigrate next year. Im worried even if the court grants an order it will be with an undertaking to return the children to the UK into his care. Is there any way I can restrict this? Can anyone give me an idea of what im really going into with the courts. Solicitors seem to be giving me conflicting advise. Any advise really apprieciated. ![Embarrassment](https://britishexpats.com/forum/images/smilies/redface.gif)
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Good luck anyway
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Originally Posted by Mandyisere
I got a court order to bring my children to Oz but their father has had no contact for 10 yrs and I didn't know where he was. I'm not sure of your situation but if the domestic vioence was ever aimed to the kids that may sway the judge.
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Good luck anyway
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Originally Posted by Chubbs
Thanks. Wish mine had just disappeared! The kids were never involved physically just bear the emotional scars! Were any conditions put on you when the court agreed to allow you to take the children? How long did the process take? Did you have to deal with a CASCAFF Officer? Sorry so many questions! Its just nice to hear from someone who has gone through it and Im not alone!
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The only condition that was put on the order was that I inform the court of my address in Oz which I must say 14 months down the line I still haven't done it. I didn't have any CASCAFF officer with me.
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Originally Posted by Mandyisere
It only took about 3 weeks altogether and I was in court for aout 10 minutes, I took with my a copy of offer of employment to show that I could support them, he asked about schools which I just replied that I was doing research on the net.
The only condition that was put on the order was that I inform the court of my address in Oz which I must say 14 months down the line I still haven't done it. I didn't have any CASCAFF officer with me.
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The only condition that was put on the order was that I inform the court of my address in Oz which I must say 14 months down the line I still haven't done it. I didn't have any CASCAFF officer with me.
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Hello,
I think you really need to talk to your kids & ask what they want to do? harsh as it sounds.
I have been in your situation & im glad my ex has never dared show his face since the last memory he left me & my son & daughter with.(12yrs ago) & yes, even now i still had that fear he may show one day,but once i step on that plane i know i have more of a chance to rid of him forever, than the chance i have here, he may turn up one day.
My eldest daughter is not coming with us(16) she moved out a year ago,long story,we have been through hell this last few years with her,but she has chosen to live with her dads parents,even though i have raised her for 15yrs,kick in the guts & yes it breaks my heart so much & only as a parent you would know.
If your kids are happy,leave them where they are,if not fight hell on earth to have them with you x
Goodluck,wishing you all the best x
Donna.
I think you really need to talk to your kids & ask what they want to do? harsh as it sounds.
I have been in your situation & im glad my ex has never dared show his face since the last memory he left me & my son & daughter with.(12yrs ago) & yes, even now i still had that fear he may show one day,but once i step on that plane i know i have more of a chance to rid of him forever, than the chance i have here, he may turn up one day.
My eldest daughter is not coming with us(16) she moved out a year ago,long story,we have been through hell this last few years with her,but she has chosen to live with her dads parents,even though i have raised her for 15yrs,kick in the guts & yes it breaks my heart so much & only as a parent you would know.
If your kids are happy,leave them where they are,if not fight hell on earth to have them with you x
Goodluck,wishing you all the best x
Donna.
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Originally Posted by Chubbs
Hi Hoping theres someone out there who can help. Ive just started this process and would be grateful for any advise anyone can offer. My ex is refusing permission to take the children out of the country. I divorced him on the grounds of Domestic violence five years ago. Ive since remarried a Kiwi and looking to emmigrate next year. Im worried even if the court grants an order it will be with an undertaking to return the children to the UK into his care. Is there any way I can restrict this? Can anyone give me an idea of what im really going into with the courts. Solicitors seem to be giving me conflicting advise. Any advise really apprieciated. ![Embarrassment](https://britishexpats.com/forum/images/smilies/redface.gif)
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I had near exactly the same problem.
Took me a year of Court battles but I won in the end.
The most important thing in my case that helped concrete the victory was that my ex had not bothered to see my child in 3.5 years prior to me applying. Of course, once I applied she insisted on visiting again and YES, an undertaking was made to fly her over once a year to see my child and on the other alterantive year, my child goes with me to see her in London (all at my expense as she is unemployed). Needless to say, trying to schedule her first trip over here at easter, she is refusing to come. Only the child suffers...........
CAFCASS not involved but went to family court then referred to high court! Cost a small fortune!
Any more help? let me know. Glad to help. You may want to do by PM.
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Originally Posted by madsad
Hello,
I think you really need to talk to your kids & ask what they want to do? harsh as it sounds.
I have been in your situation & im glad my ex has never dared show his face since the last memory he left me & my son & daughter with.(12yrs ago) & yes, even now i still had that fear he may show one day,but once i step on that plane i know i have more of a chance to rid of him forever, than the chance i have here, he may turn up one day.
My eldest daughter is not coming with us(16) she moved out a year ago,long story,we have been through hell this last few years with her,but she has chosen to live with her dads parents,even though i have raised her for 15yrs,kick in the guts & yes it breaks my heart so much & only as a parent you would know.
If your kids are happy,leave them where they are,if not fight hell on earth to have them with you x
Goodluck,wishing you all the best x
Donna.
I think you really need to talk to your kids & ask what they want to do? harsh as it sounds.
I have been in your situation & im glad my ex has never dared show his face since the last memory he left me & my son & daughter with.(12yrs ago) & yes, even now i still had that fear he may show one day,but once i step on that plane i know i have more of a chance to rid of him forever, than the chance i have here, he may turn up one day.
My eldest daughter is not coming with us(16) she moved out a year ago,long story,we have been through hell this last few years with her,but she has chosen to live with her dads parents,even though i have raised her for 15yrs,kick in the guts & yes it breaks my heart so much & only as a parent you would know.
If your kids are happy,leave them where they are,if not fight hell on earth to have them with you x
Goodluck,wishing you all the best x
Donna.
Feels like we are being torn apart. Im sorry your daughter chose that route. One day she may see and understand why you wanted to offer her a new start. Good Luck x
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Originally Posted by andrew63
Hi Chubbs
I had near exactly the same problem.
Took me a year of Court battles but I won in the end.
The most important thing in my case that helped concrete the victory was that my ex had not bothered to see my child in 3.5 years prior to me applying. Of course, once I applied she insisted on visiting again and YES, an undertaking was made to fly her over once a year to see my child and on the other alterantive year, my child goes with me to see her in London (all at my expense as she is unemployed). Needless to say, trying to schedule her first trip over here at easter, she is refusing to come. Only the child suffers...........
CAFCASS not involved but went to family court then referred to high court! Cost a small fortune!
Any more help? let me know. Glad to help. You may want to do by PM.
Andrew
I had near exactly the same problem.
Took me a year of Court battles but I won in the end.
The most important thing in my case that helped concrete the victory was that my ex had not bothered to see my child in 3.5 years prior to me applying. Of course, once I applied she insisted on visiting again and YES, an undertaking was made to fly her over once a year to see my child and on the other alterantive year, my child goes with me to see her in London (all at my expense as she is unemployed). Needless to say, trying to schedule her first trip over here at easter, she is refusing to come. Only the child suffers...........
CAFCASS not involved but went to family court then referred to high court! Cost a small fortune!
Any more help? let me know. Glad to help. You may want to do by PM.
Andrew
Is there a standard period of time that the children would be expected to return to the UK. My ex wants 4 weeks every summer holiday. This would mean spending nearly all their NZ summer holidays here freezing and very little family time for us! Hear I go again lots of questions.... I'll log in PM and talk to you later. Going to brave the Christmas shops and weather now! Thanks again!
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Originally Posted by Chubbs
Hi Hoping theres someone out there who can help. Ive just started this process and would be grateful for any advise anyone can offer. My ex is refusing permission to take the children out of the country. I divorced him on the grounds of Domestic violence five years ago. Ive since remarried a Kiwi and looking to emmigrate next year. Im worried even if the court grants an order it will be with an undertaking to return the children to the UK into his care. Is there any way I can restrict this? Can anyone give me an idea of what im really going into with the courts. Solicitors seem to be giving me conflicting advise. Any advise really apprieciated. ![Embarrassment](https://britishexpats.com/forum/images/smilies/redface.gif)
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