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Re: My current Dilemma?!
I'm with the 'don't tell your mum at her 60th birthday' lot :) it is HER day, let her enjoy it.
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Re: My current Dilemma?!
I agree with the others that it would be best not to do it at your mum's birthday party, let her be the centre of attention. I have decided not to tell my mum any more until I've actually got the visa in my hands. We have had meds and PC done and just waiting. I feel it's best not to stress her more when it might all go pear-shaped. Hope you feel you make the right decision.
Best wishes Nicola |
Re: My current Dilemma?!
Originally Posted by Jim2004
After reading up on the 'Family Encouragement' thread, it has triggered me to post this as I didn't want to highjack it!
Similar, but as I say I have a dilemma. Basically BOTH sides of our families have shown little enthusiasm towards our plans to go to Oz. We meet up, mention it, and the subject gets changed asap. If we dig our heels in, they get all defensive and in turn just get all negative about it all :( Now I fell out with my mother & one of my brothers about a year ago and with all of the arguing that went on then, my partner was accused by them of 'taking me away' from them. This is rubbish as it was my idea in the first place, but whatever. Due to something that happened recently, me, my mum & brother made up, and EVERYTHING in now good :) but because of the situation then, we told everyone that Oz was probably off, and everyone agreed it was the best thing for us ....... handy that! ..... :rolleyes: Thing is tho, Oz is now back on! My mum is having a 60th party in July. All my relatives (from all over the country) who I haven't seen for years will be there. I see this as a perfect opportunity to 'say goodbye' to them all face to face instead of with a phone call when we go. But!! ....... altho I know most will wish us luck, my mum won't be too happy. I had a good chat with her not long ago about why we ALL want to go to Oz, but she kept saying we was trying to 'run away from our probs' ...lol, and basically won't accept it! Now my dilemma is do I mention to my mum that Oz is back on and have the chance to 'say goodbye' to everyone properly, or do I go to her 60th, pretend going to Oz is 'an idea of the past', say nothing and tell them all after July? Any thoughts? Cheers If it was me i would wait untill after your mums party........ She wont thank you for it if you drop that in at her party, she will see it as you are just trying to take the lime light But dont you find it amazing that the most supporting people are your friends and not your family, this is something we are experiencing. My sister wont even enter a discussion about australia. I have 2 pictures of sydney opera house in my dining room, the first time my sister saw them she claimed we had only hung them up because i am home sick!!!!!!!! Needless to say it ended in an argument. JEALOUS because these people wont get up off there backsides and do something with there lives, but dont want any one else to either. But this is not how i imagined i would spend my possible last few months with my family. :confused: |
Re: My current Dilemma?!
British Expat has spoke! ........ I have listened! ........ and I think you are all right! :)
My mum is terrible for attention, she even ditched the idea of having a joint 40th with my brother so it could be 'HER' day! I didn't make my OP as clear as intended. What I was considering was telling my mum before the party, so I then could in turn tell others at the party! At the end of the day tho, it's not too long away so I guess I could still cause a distruption so I'm gonna go with BE and say nowt! ............ for now! For the best I reckon. Will be a pitty tho as like I say I have many nice cousins who I know would 'wish me all the best' but I DO have to take me mam into account really. Like Sam says, maybe wait till I have 'concrete' evidence that we are off. As I speak I'm 96.4% (lol) sure this is all gonna happen (as in Oz) but true, nothing is set in concrete yet! As to mentioning the holiday and leaving it at that, well with previously them all knowing we are gonna 'run away from our probs' ...lol, well they'll simply put 2 & 2 together! End up with 5, but you know what I'm sayin! Thanks for the replies :) |
Re: My current Dilemma?!
This is a difficult one. You have to do what is right for you and other people hve to lump or like it. Don't tell at the part though as this may spoil the evening and your mum can use that t throw at you in the future. The way i see it there are two otions.
1- tell your mum before the party and then tell everyone else at the party ( with your mums agreement) 2- tell everyone after the party. Good luck. |
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