Mil Rant
Nov 7th 2005 | 9:59 pm
#46
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Re: Mil Rant
Christ, thank god the witch has gone. As everyone else said - your son's the priority here, not your husband. If my mum spoke to my missus like that I'd make sure she never saw her grand-son again - no question. What an evil twisted cow... god I'm so angry for you! You and hub's definitely need to have words though - no ****ing way he should have sat there agreeing with the cold-blooded harpie.
Nov 7th 2005 | 10:28 pm
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Re: Mil Rant
Really feel for you, I was shocked yesterday when I saw one of your comments on another post.
I hope you and hubby can sit down and talk and repair things.
It's strange how people, especially mothers can have such a hold, but I and I'm sure others have real problems with parents and still feel the need to be there for them to some extent.
Never let this woman into your home again and let hubby know that you won't change your mind on this point.
I'm sorry that your new lives have got off to such a shitty start. Just get a bottle of something nice and have another new start !!
Good luck and sending you some hugs
Carole x
I hope you and hubby can sit down and talk and repair things.
It's strange how people, especially mothers can have such a hold, but I and I'm sure others have real problems with parents and still feel the need to be there for them to some extent.
Never let this woman into your home again and let hubby know that you won't change your mind on this point.
I'm sorry that your new lives have got off to such a shitty start. Just get a bottle of something nice and have another new start !!
Good luck and sending you some hugs
Carole x
Nov 7th 2005 | 10:30 pm
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Re: Mil Rant
Tell her to do one ...
Originally Posted by chattyshazza
Sorry for this rant but everyone I know in the world is asleep in bed right now and I am going insane.
My MIL followed us to Brisbane 9 days after we arrived to stay with us for 2 months!
My husband even paid for her bloody ticket.
She hates our son, he is 11yrs old, she had 8 children 2 girls and 6 boys and hates boys.
For 3 weeks she has refereed to our son as "that child" "the boy"
"stupid creature" and cackles at everything he says as if he is stupid.
She doesn't like me or my daughter much either she actually said to me the other day I suppose you have let yourself go because you work and earn money, in my day you had to keep yourself nice to keep your husband.
I am no scruff by the way and wash and blow dry my hair everyday and wear make up every day.
I grew up in a very hostile home with a very aggressive father and I am so terrified of being like him that I suppress a lot of my feelings.
BUT, I went shopping with my daughter yesterday and when we came home my husband and MIL were sitting watching TV and hadn't seen my son for 2 hours.
I went out into the street to look for him and was told that he rode of on his own a while ago, I drove around like a mad woman and found him about 2 miles away standing over his bike crying, he was running away :scared:
He had heard his Grandmother speaking about him horribly with his father and the dad that he adores wasn't even sticking up for him, he was bloody agreeing!!!!!
My husband was pulling his hair out to me last week about his mother not liking our son and now he is sitting there agreeing with her. What is this bloody hold? My husband is a different man around her!
I calmed our son down and took him home and forgot to suppress my feelings lol
I went mad, I said to them he is a bloody child and she said oh for goodness sake he is nearly 12 (she talks like the queen by the way)
She then said well where is the boy he is ok isn't he!
He isn't the bloody boy or that child he is your bloody grandson and his name is Greg and no he isn't ok he is bloody upset, he already knew his Grandmother didnt like him but he is heartbroken to hear his father agreeing with you I didnt say this by the way I shouted it.
She just replied oh that stupid child... That was it, I said right that's it I have had enough I am not willing to have someone under my roof that doesn't like my children you can both **** off.
AAAAAGGGGHHHHH thing is there is no where for her to go, she has a son and DIL up the road who's son has grown up and left home but they wont have her, I have phoned them and asked twice but they say no way, they have never forgiven her for the way she treated their son.
I am so angry, I knew what she was like and I made my husband promise that if she stayed with us that he would have to be loyal to us and not let this happen again and he has let me down so badly.
So I am stuck in a small holiday rental with a witch of a MIL and my husband neither of whom are speaking to me or me to them, and I am feeling so pissed off its unbelievable. I havent even got a bloody car I can off for the day in.
Sharon
GOING MAD
My MIL followed us to Brisbane 9 days after we arrived to stay with us for 2 months!
My husband even paid for her bloody ticket.
She hates our son, he is 11yrs old, she had 8 children 2 girls and 6 boys and hates boys.
For 3 weeks she has refereed to our son as "that child" "the boy"
"stupid creature" and cackles at everything he says as if he is stupid.
She doesn't like me or my daughter much either she actually said to me the other day I suppose you have let yourself go because you work and earn money, in my day you had to keep yourself nice to keep your husband.
I am no scruff by the way and wash and blow dry my hair everyday and wear make up every day.
I grew up in a very hostile home with a very aggressive father and I am so terrified of being like him that I suppress a lot of my feelings.
BUT, I went shopping with my daughter yesterday and when we came home my husband and MIL were sitting watching TV and hadn't seen my son for 2 hours.
I went out into the street to look for him and was told that he rode of on his own a while ago, I drove around like a mad woman and found him about 2 miles away standing over his bike crying, he was running away :scared:
He had heard his Grandmother speaking about him horribly with his father and the dad that he adores wasn't even sticking up for him, he was bloody agreeing!!!!!
My husband was pulling his hair out to me last week about his mother not liking our son and now he is sitting there agreeing with her. What is this bloody hold? My husband is a different man around her!
I calmed our son down and took him home and forgot to suppress my feelings lol
I went mad, I said to them he is a bloody child and she said oh for goodness sake he is nearly 12 (she talks like the queen by the way)
She then said well where is the boy he is ok isn't he!
He isn't the bloody boy or that child he is your bloody grandson and his name is Greg and no he isn't ok he is bloody upset, he already knew his Grandmother didnt like him but he is heartbroken to hear his father agreeing with you I didnt say this by the way I shouted it.
She just replied oh that stupid child... That was it, I said right that's it I have had enough I am not willing to have someone under my roof that doesn't like my children you can both **** off.
AAAAAGGGGHHHHH thing is there is no where for her to go, she has a son and DIL up the road who's son has grown up and left home but they wont have her, I have phoned them and asked twice but they say no way, they have never forgiven her for the way she treated their son.
I am so angry, I knew what she was like and I made my husband promise that if she stayed with us that he would have to be loyal to us and not let this happen again and he has let me down so badly.
So I am stuck in a small holiday rental with a witch of a MIL and my husband neither of whom are speaking to me or me to them, and I am feeling so pissed off its unbelievable. I havent even got a bloody car I can off for the day in.
Sharon
GOING MAD
Nov 7th 2005 | 10:35 pm
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Re: Mil Rant
Originally Posted by Three Legs
Tell her to do one ...
she's done one lol
Nov 7th 2005 | 10:39 pm
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Re: Mil Rant
You've really caused a reaction with this post, Sharon! I was spitting feathers when I read it. 
Can't say too much that hasn't already been said, but I really feel for you and I hope you can sort things out with hubby. He needs to realise what his priorities are here. Have you found out the circumstances behind her leaving yet?
Am I right in thinking you went on a spouse visa and he is the Aussie? If this situation does cause a split (and I really really hope it doesn't at this early stage of your new life), you could end up up the creek without a paddle and might even be sent back home, though I don't know what the situation is if you have a permanent visa, which I assume you do if you have kids. I hope you manage to work things out together and hubby gets some strength of character to stand up to her evil ways. Though I suppose, if he paid for her ticket, he will still be going off to see her, even if she isn't staying with you, which could still cause ructions. Good luck anyway.
Can't say too much that hasn't already been said, but I really feel for you and I hope you can sort things out with hubby. He needs to realise what his priorities are here. Have you found out the circumstances behind her leaving yet?Am I right in thinking you went on a spouse visa and he is the Aussie? If this situation does cause a split (and I really really hope it doesn't at this early stage of your new life), you could end up up the creek without a paddle and might even be sent back home, though I don't know what the situation is if you have a permanent visa, which I assume you do if you have kids. I hope you manage to work things out together and hubby gets some strength of character to stand up to her evil ways. Though I suppose, if he paid for her ticket, he will still be going off to see her, even if she isn't staying with you, which could still cause ructions. Good luck anyway.
Nov 7th 2005 | 10:41 pm
#51
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Re: Mil Rant
Originally Posted by chattyshazza
Thanks for the replies, some very sensible and some very very funny!
SHE HAS GONE!!!!!!
Dont know where as husband and her just walked out while I was in the bedroom with the children, but I just looked in her room and her case etc has gone.
I feel a bit sick that it came to this but it couldn't go on, when I picked the kids up from school they were consumed with talking about how much they dont like her and they wish she wasn't here. I couldn't even keep up the good mother act and tell them that she is their grandmother and that they have to show her respect, I had gone past it.
I am interested to see what my husband has to say for himself now she has gone.
SHE HAS GONE!!!!!!
Dont know where as husband and her just walked out while I was in the bedroom with the children, but I just looked in her room and her case etc has gone.
I feel a bit sick that it came to this but it couldn't go on, when I picked the kids up from school they were consumed with talking about how much they dont like her and they wish she wasn't here. I couldn't even keep up the good mother act and tell them that she is their grandmother and that they have to show her respect, I had gone past it.
I am interested to see what my husband has to say for himself now she has gone.
Best wishes to you, your husband and kids.
Nov 7th 2005 | 10:47 pm
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Re: Mil Rant
If finances are permitting, I would take your children and go to a cheap rental and leave your husband with his mum.
Untold damage can be done to children by parents slagging them off and what he did was inforgivable.
He has no right not to be speaking to you. Simple, his son comes before his mum.
So take your lovely kiddies and find somewhere else to stay until she sods off.
If this isnt an option, then I suggest a good session of confidence boosting for your little lad.
Because noone, including his father, has the right to make him feel inferior.
He is a little prince in his own home and king of his own persona.
Do not let some dried up menopausal bitch take that away from him.
And especially not his dad.
Untold damage can be done to children by parents slagging them off and what he did was inforgivable.
He has no right not to be speaking to you. Simple, his son comes before his mum.
So take your lovely kiddies and find somewhere else to stay until she sods off.
If this isnt an option, then I suggest a good session of confidence boosting for your little lad.
Because noone, including his father, has the right to make him feel inferior.
He is a little prince in his own home and king of his own persona.
Do not let some dried up menopausal bitch take that away from him.
And especially not his dad.
Nov 8th 2005 | 12:58 am
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Re: Mil Rant
Thank the lord she's gone!!! Celebrations are due - big time!!
It amazes me that she thinks she's so superior that she thinks it's okay to put down the people she is supposed to love in such a disgusting manner!!
You will all be adjusting to this new life including Greg and to think he had to listen to conversation between his father and grandmother about him just breaks my heart!!
What made her have so many children in the first place.... didn't she realise that there would always be a 50% chance of having a baby boy!!
In fact she should never have been given the priviledge of having children she does not deserve them and she certainly does not deserve grand children!!
Glad she's gone now so harmony can resume!!!
All the best and i hope you and your family are okay!!!
Michelle x x x
It amazes me that she thinks she's so superior that she thinks it's okay to put down the people she is supposed to love in such a disgusting manner!!
You will all be adjusting to this new life including Greg and to think he had to listen to conversation between his father and grandmother about him just breaks my heart!!
What made her have so many children in the first place.... didn't she realise that there would always be a 50% chance of having a baby boy!!
In fact she should never have been given the priviledge of having children she does not deserve them and she certainly does not deserve grand children!!
Glad she's gone now so harmony can resume!!!
All the best and i hope you and your family are okay!!!
Michelle x x x
Nov 8th 2005 | 1:18 am
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Re: Mil Rant
Errr ... I don't want to sound like a killjoy or 'owt but has the husband returned yet ... ?
Nov 8th 2005 | 1:41 am
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Re: Mil Rant
Glad the ole b*tch has gone. Lets hope she forgot to take her aspirin for the flight and has a VERY cramped seat. 
I am so with you on this one as I have a dreadful relationship with my in laws.
What did Hubby say when he came back?
Lucy
xxx
I am so with you on this one as I have a dreadful relationship with my in laws.
What did Hubby say when he came back?
Lucy
xxx
Nov 8th 2005 | 2:01 am
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Re: Mil Rant
Originally Posted by lucyb
Glad the ole b*tch has gone. Lets hope she forgot to take her aspirin for the flight and has a VERY cramped seat.
I am so with you on this one as I have a dreadful relationship with my in laws.
What did Hubby say when he came back?
Lucy
xxx
I am so with you on this one as I have a dreadful relationship with my in laws.
What did Hubby say when he came back?
Lucy
xxx
Good luck.
Nov 8th 2005 | 3:24 am
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Re: Mil Rant
I imagine alot of these posters can relate to this story, that is why it has got us all mad.
I cant wait to hear the next instalment -
Has he come back yet?
Where has he taken her? She needs to be out of the country and far away.
I cant wait to hear the next instalment -
Has he come back yet?
Where has he taken her? She needs to be out of the country and far away.
Nov 8th 2005 | 3:33 am
#58
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From: Perth WA
Re: Mil Rant
Sharon,
You've been far too kind to your MIL. If she were mine, I'd have decked her long time before now.
I hope all goes well and that you and hubby can get through this. Karma to you and your son, you deserve it.
SG
You've been far too kind to your MIL. If she were mine, I'd have decked her long time before now.
I hope all goes well and that you and hubby can get through this. Karma to you and your son, you deserve it.
SG
Nov 8th 2005 | 3:54 am
#59
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From: Figtree, NSW
Re: Mil Rant
Originally Posted by chattyshazza
Sorry for this rant but everyone I know in the world is asleep in bed right now and I am going insane.
My MIL followed us to Brisbane 9 days after we arrived to stay with us for 2 months!
My husband even paid for her bloody ticket.
She hates our son, he is 11yrs old, she had 8 children 2 girls and 6 boys and hates boys.
For 3 weeks she has refereed to our son as "that child" "the boy"
"stupid creature" and cackles at everything he says as if he is stupid.
She doesn't like me or my daughter much either she actually said to me the other day I suppose you have let yourself go because you work and earn money, in my day you had to keep yourself nice to keep your husband.
I am no scruff by the way and wash and blow dry my hair everyday and wear make up every day.
I grew up in a very hostile home with a very aggressive father and I am so terrified of being like him that I suppress a lot of my feelings.
BUT, I went shopping with my daughter yesterday and when we came home my husband and MIL were sitting watching TV and hadn't seen my son for 2 hours.
I went out into the street to look for him and was told that he rode of on his own a while ago, I drove around like a mad woman and found him about 2 miles away standing over his bike crying, he was running away :scared:
He had heard his Grandmother speaking about him horribly with his father and the dad that he adores wasn't even sticking up for him, he was bloody agreeing!!!!!
My husband was pulling his hair out to me last week about his mother not liking our son and now he is sitting there agreeing with her. What is this bloody hold? My husband is a different man around her!
I calmed our son down and took him home and forgot to suppress my feelings lol
I went mad, I said to them he is a bloody child and she said oh for goodness sake he is nearly 12 (she talks like the queen by the way)
She then said well where is the boy he is ok isn't he!
He isn't the bloody boy or that child he is your bloody grandson and his name is Greg and no he isn't ok he is bloody upset, he already knew his Grandmother didnt like him but he is heartbroken to hear his father agreeing with you I didnt say this by the way I shouted it.
She just replied oh that stupid child... That was it, I said right that's it I have had enough I am not willing to have someone under my roof that doesn't like my children you can both **** off.
AAAAAGGGGHHHHH thing is there is no where for her to go, she has a son and DIL up the road who's son has grown up and left home but they wont have her, I have phoned them and asked twice but they say no way, they have never forgiven her for the way she treated their son.
I am so angry, I knew what she was like and I made my husband promise that if she stayed with us that he would have to be loyal to us and not let this happen again and he has let me down so badly.
So I am stuck in a small holiday rental with a witch of a MIL and my husband neither of whom are speaking to me or me to them, and I am feeling so pissed off its unbelievable. I havent even got a bloody car I can off for the day in.
Sharon
GOING MAD
My MIL followed us to Brisbane 9 days after we arrived to stay with us for 2 months!
My husband even paid for her bloody ticket.
She hates our son, he is 11yrs old, she had 8 children 2 girls and 6 boys and hates boys.
For 3 weeks she has refereed to our son as "that child" "the boy"
"stupid creature" and cackles at everything he says as if he is stupid.
She doesn't like me or my daughter much either she actually said to me the other day I suppose you have let yourself go because you work and earn money, in my day you had to keep yourself nice to keep your husband.
I am no scruff by the way and wash and blow dry my hair everyday and wear make up every day.
I grew up in a very hostile home with a very aggressive father and I am so terrified of being like him that I suppress a lot of my feelings.
BUT, I went shopping with my daughter yesterday and when we came home my husband and MIL were sitting watching TV and hadn't seen my son for 2 hours.
I went out into the street to look for him and was told that he rode of on his own a while ago, I drove around like a mad woman and found him about 2 miles away standing over his bike crying, he was running away :scared:
He had heard his Grandmother speaking about him horribly with his father and the dad that he adores wasn't even sticking up for him, he was bloody agreeing!!!!!
My husband was pulling his hair out to me last week about his mother not liking our son and now he is sitting there agreeing with her. What is this bloody hold? My husband is a different man around her!
I calmed our son down and took him home and forgot to suppress my feelings lol
I went mad, I said to them he is a bloody child and she said oh for goodness sake he is nearly 12 (she talks like the queen by the way)
She then said well where is the boy he is ok isn't he!
He isn't the bloody boy or that child he is your bloody grandson and his name is Greg and no he isn't ok he is bloody upset, he already knew his Grandmother didnt like him but he is heartbroken to hear his father agreeing with you I didnt say this by the way I shouted it.
She just replied oh that stupid child... That was it, I said right that's it I have had enough I am not willing to have someone under my roof that doesn't like my children you can both **** off.
AAAAAGGGGHHHHH thing is there is no where for her to go, she has a son and DIL up the road who's son has grown up and left home but they wont have her, I have phoned them and asked twice but they say no way, they have never forgiven her for the way she treated their son.
I am so angry, I knew what she was like and I made my husband promise that if she stayed with us that he would have to be loyal to us and not let this happen again and he has let me down so badly.
So I am stuck in a small holiday rental with a witch of a MIL and my husband neither of whom are speaking to me or me to them, and I am feeling so pissed off its unbelievable. I havent even got a bloody car I can off for the day in.
Sharon
GOING MAD
I would not tolerate that under my roof....and while your at it ya husband needs to sort his priorties out!
Simple as!!
Grrrrrrrrrrrrr Hope you get it all sorted
Nov 8th 2005 | 3:58 am
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From: Figtree, NSW
Re: Mil Rant
Originally Posted by chattyshazza
Thanks for the replies, some very sensible and some very very funny!
SHE HAS GONE!!!!!!
SHE HAS GONE!!!!!!
good....it's for the best!
ding dong the witch has gone!
Don't worry yourself about it - its the best thing for you and your children.
How's the hubby?
