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Mil Rant
Sorry for this rant but everyone I know in the world is asleep in bed right now and I am going insane.
My MIL followed us to Brisbane 9 days after we arrived to stay with us for 2 months! My husband even paid for her bloody ticket. She hates our son, he is 11yrs old, she had 8 children 2 girls and 6 boys and hates boys. For 3 weeks she has refereed to our son as "that child" "the boy" "stupid creature" and cackles at everything he says as if he is stupid. She doesn't like me or my daughter much either she actually said to me the other day I suppose you have let yourself go because you work and earn money, in my day you had to keep yourself nice to keep your husband. I am no scruff by the way and wash and blow dry my hair everyday and wear make up every day. I grew up in a very hostile home with a very aggressive father and I am so terrified of being like him that I suppress a lot of my feelings. BUT, I went shopping with my daughter yesterday and when we came home my husband and MIL were sitting watching TV and hadn't seen my son for 2 hours. I went out into the street to look for him and was told that he rode of on his own a while ago, I drove around like a mad woman and found him about 2 miles away standing over his bike crying, he was running away :scared: He had heard his Grandmother speaking about him horribly with his father and the dad that he adores wasn't even sticking up for him, he was bloody agreeing!!!!! My husband was pulling his hair out to me last week about his mother not liking our son and now he is sitting there agreeing with her. What is this bloody hold? My husband is a different man around her! I calmed our son down and took him home and forgot to suppress my feelings lol I went mad, I said to them he is a bloody child and she said oh for goodness sake he is nearly 12 (she talks like the queen by the way) She then said well where is the boy he is ok isn't he! He isn't the bloody boy or that child he is your bloody grandson and his name is Greg and no he isn't ok he is bloody upset, he already knew his Grandmother didnt like him but he is heartbroken to hear his father agreeing with you I didnt say this by the way I shouted it. She just replied oh that stupid child... That was it, I said right that's it I have had enough I am not willing to have someone under my roof that doesn't like my children you can both **** off. AAAAAGGGGHHHHH thing is there is no where for her to go, she has a son and DIL up the road who's son has grown up and left home but they wont have her, I have phoned them and asked twice but they say no way, they have never forgiven her for the way she treated their son. I am so angry, I knew what she was like and I made my husband promise that if she stayed with us that he would have to be loyal to us and not let this happen again and he has let me down so badly. So I am stuck in a small holiday rental with a witch of a MIL and my husband neither of whom are speaking to me or me to them, and I am feeling so pissed off its unbelievable. I havent even got a bloody car I can off for the day in. Sharon GOING MAD :( |
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Originally Posted by chattyshazza
Sorry for this rant but everyone I know in the world is asleep in bed right now and I am going insane.
My MIL followed us to Brisbane 9 days after we arrived to stay with us for 2 months! My husband even paid for her bloody ticket. She hates our son, he is 11yrs old, she had 8 children 2 girls and 6 boys and hates boys. For 3 weeks she has refereed to our son as "that child" "the boy" "stupid creature" and cackles at everything he says as if he is stupid. She doesn't like me or my daughter much either she actually said to me the other day I suppose you have let yourself go because you work and earn money, in my day you had to keep yourself nice to keep your husband. I am no scruff by the way and wash and blow dry my hair everyday and wear make up every day. I grew up in a very hostile home with a very aggressive father and I am so terrified of being like him that I suppress a lot of my feelings. BUT, I went shopping with my daughter yesterday and when we came home my husband and MIL were sitting watching TV and hadn't seen my son for 2 hours. I went out into the street to look for him and was told that he rode of on his own a while ago, I drove around like a mad woman and found him about 2 miles away standing over his bike crying, he was running away :scared: He had heard his Grandmother speaking about him horribly with his father and the dad that he adores wasn't even sticking up for him, he was bloody agreeing!!!!! My husband was pulling his hair out to me last week about his mother not liking our son and now he is sitting there agreeing with her. What is this bloody hold? My husband is a different man around her! I calmed our son down and took him home and forgot to suppress my feelings lol I went mad, I said to them he is a bloody child and she said oh for goodness sake he is nearly 12 (she talks like the queen by the way) She then said well where is the boy he is ok isn't he! He isn't the bloody boy or that child he is your bloody grandson and his name is Greg and no he isn't ok he is bloody upset, he already knew his Grandmother didnt like him but he is heartbroken to hear his father agreeing with you I didnt say this by the way I shouted it. She just replied oh that stupid child... That was it, I said right that's it I have had enough I am not willing to have someone under my roof that doesn't like my children you can both **** off. AAAAAGGGGHHHHH thing is there is no where for her to go, she has a son and DIL up the road who's son has grown up and left home but they wont have her, I have phoned them and asked twice but they say no way, they have never forgiven her for the way she treated their son. I am so angry, I knew what she was like and I made my husband promise that if she stayed with us that he would have to be loyal to us and not let this happen again and he has let me down so badly. So I am stuck in a small holiday rental with a witch of a MIL and my husband neither of whom are speaking to me or me to them, and I am feeling so pissed off its unbelievable. I havent even got a bloody car I can off for the day in. Sharon GOING MAD :( Simple tell her to **** off, noone should be allowed to upset your son like that :mad: |
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Originally Posted by chattyshazza
Sorry for this rant but everyone I know in the world is asleep in bed right now and I am going insane.
My MIL followed us to Brisbane 9 days after we arrived to stay with us for 2 months! My husband even paid for her bloody ticket. She hates our son, he is 11yrs old, she had 8 children 2 girls and 6 boys and hates boys. For 3 weeks she has refereed to our son as "that child" "the boy" "stupid creature" and cackles at everything he says as if he is stupid. She doesn't like me or my daughter much either she actually said to me the other day I suppose you have let yourself go because you work and earn money, in my day you had to keep yourself nice to keep your husband. I am no scruff by the way and wash and blow dry my hair everyday and wear make up every day. I grew up in a very hostile home with a very aggressive father and I am so terrified of being like him that I suppress a lot of my feelings. BUT, I went shopping with my daughter yesterday and when we came home my husband and MIL were sitting watching TV and hadn't seen my son for 2 hours. I went out into the street to look for him and was told that he rode of on his own a while ago, I drove around like a mad woman and found him about 2 miles away standing over his bike crying, he was running away :scared: He had heard his Grandmother speaking about him horribly with his father and the dad that he adores wasn't even sticking up for him, he was bloody agreeing!!!!! My husband was pulling his hair out to me last week about his mother not liking our son and now he is sitting there agreeing with her. What is this bloody hold? My husband is a different man around her! I calmed our son down and took him home and forgot to suppress my feelings lol I went mad, I said to them he is a bloody child and she said oh for goodness sake he is nearly 12 (she talks like the queen by the way) She then said well where is the boy he is ok isn't he! He isn't the bloody boy or that child he is your bloody grandson and his name is Greg and no he isn't ok he is bloody upset, he already knew his Grandmother didnt like him but he is heartbroken to hear his father agreeing with you I didnt say this by the way I shouted it. She just replied oh that stupid child... That was it, I said right that's it I have had enough I am not willing to have someone under my roof that doesn't like my children you can both **** off. AAAAAGGGGHHHHH thing is there is no where for her to go, she has a son and DIL up the road who's son has grown up and left home but they wont have her, I have phoned them and asked twice but they say no way, they have never forgiven her for the way she treated their son. I am so angry, I knew what she was like and I made my husband promise that if she stayed with us that he would have to be loyal to us and not let this happen again and he has let me down so badly. So I am stuck in a small holiday rental with a witch of a MIL and my husband neither of whom are speaking to me or me to them, and I am feeling so pissed off its unbelievable. I havent even got a bloody car I can off for the day in. Sharon GOING MAD :( I don't know what to say really. She doesn't deserve grandkids, and daddy needs to toughen up. He's there with you - - a bit old to be too scared to contradict her. Thinking of you - -if you need to rave some more feel free to PM me. p.s - -show the c*w the post and the answers!!!! xRachx |
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Originally Posted by chattyshazza
Sorry for this rant but everyone I know in the world is asleep in bed right now and I am going insane.
My MIL followed us to Brisbane 9 days after we arrived to stay with us for 2 months! My husband even paid for her bloody ticket. She hates our son, he is 11yrs old, she had 8 children 2 girls and 6 boys and hates boys. For 3 weeks she has refereed to our son as "that child" "the boy" "stupid creature" and cackles at everything he says as if he is stupid. She doesn't like me or my daughter much either she actually said to me the other day I suppose you have let yourself go because you work and earn money, in my day you had to keep yourself nice to keep your husband. I am no scruff by the way and wash and blow dry my hair everyday and wear make up every day. I grew up in a very hostile home with a very aggressive father and I am so terrified of being like him that I suppress a lot of my feelings. BUT, I went shopping with my daughter yesterday and when we came home my husband and MIL were sitting watching TV and hadn't seen my son for 2 hours. I went out into the street to look for him and was told that he rode of on his own a while ago, I drove around like a mad woman and found him about 2 miles away standing over his bike crying, he was running away :scared: He had heard his Grandmother speaking about him horribly with his father and the dad that he adores wasn't even sticking up for him, he was bloody agreeing!!!!! My husband was pulling his hair out to me last week about his mother not liking our son and now he is sitting there agreeing with her. What is this bloody hold? My husband is a different man around her! I calmed our son down and took him home and forgot to suppress my feelings lol I went mad, I said to them he is a bloody child and she said oh for goodness sake he is nearly 12 (she talks like the queen by the way) She then said well where is the boy he is ok isn't he! He isn't the bloody boy or that child he is your bloody grandson and his name is Greg and no he isn't ok he is bloody upset, he already knew his Grandmother didnt like him but he is heartbroken to hear his father agreeing with you I didnt say this by the way I shouted it. She just replied oh that stupid child... That was it, I said right that's it I have had enough I am not willing to have someone under my roof that doesn't like my children you can both **** off. AAAAAGGGGHHHHH thing is there is no where for her to go, she has a son and DIL up the road who's son has grown up and left home but they wont have her, I have phoned them and asked twice but they say no way, they have never forgiven her for the way she treated their son. I am so angry, I knew what she was like and I made my husband promise that if she stayed with us that he would have to be loyal to us and not let this happen again and he has let me down so badly. So I am stuck in a small holiday rental with a witch of a MIL and my husband neither of whom are speaking to me or me to them, and I am feeling so pissed off its unbelievable. I havent even got a bloody car I can off for the day in. Sharon GOING MAD :( Oh Sharon, I really feel for you. It is hard enough moving to the other side of the world without any added pressure. I don't really have any advice as I can only imagine the nightmare you are in at the moment. I think the way she speaks about Greg is disgusting and I can imagine his heartache, having a grandparent who should love him unconditionally but yet doesn't even like him. It sounds like she is a controlling person and that nothing you do would ever be good enough. I don't have the answers unfortunately, but take care and I sincerely hope things improve. Amanda |
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Tell her to pack her bags and ***** off!
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A MESSAGE FOR SHARONS MIL
You are a nasty selfish witch.......if you were my mother in law I would throw you out in the bloody street, and wouldnt give a shit where you went. You dont deserve to be under the same roof as your grandson, and if he didnt hate you before i hope he bloody does now!!!!! No wonder your son doesnt want you under his roof....who would blame him!!!! Get back on yer broomstick and GO HOME!!!! (its cheaper than the plane) FFS I'm raging now lol H PS...Hubby stop bein a prick, stand up for your wife and son!!!!! |
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Originally Posted by chattyshazza
she actually said to me the other day I suppose you have let yourself go because you work and earn money, in my day you had to keep yourself nice to keep your husband.
:( First of all, I've gotta agree with Fraser. Tell her where to go. Secondly, me and the Mrs had a discussion on appearance ect yesterday in relation to MIL's because we get a hard time if our kids aren't pristine, whereas the Mrs's sister's kids are always absolutely spotless, as is the MIL and the sister. We came to the concluion that in the MIL's day, that they acquired belief in their social standing based on the simple things like appearance as they had nothing else ie. no qualifications, less money ect. Additionally the pain in the arse sister is a single Mum in a council house who prides herself on appearance because she has little else to think about or aspire to. This sounds harsh, but gone have the days when the Mrs had to slap on lipstick when the bloke was coming home. These days they're just as likely to be at work. I'm off on a complete tangent but this has been doing my head in. Paul. |
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BTW, do you want us all to come round and throw her out?
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Originally Posted by diddy
BTW, do you want us all to come round and throw her out?
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This woman has made you choose between herself and your son......no contest!! Tell her to pack her bags and find somewhere to stay where there are no boys, and if hubby doesn't like it, he can join her :rolleyes:
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Originally Posted by biggy
Thats sounds like tremendous fun lol.......you'll need to wait a few hours on me tho lol
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Originally Posted by chattyshazza
Sorry for this rant but everyone I know in the world is asleep in bed right now and I am going insane.
My MIL followed us to Brisbane 9 days after we arrived to stay with us for 2 months! My husband even paid for her bloody ticket. She hates our son, he is 11yrs old, she had 8 children 2 girls and 6 boys and hates boys. For 3 weeks she has refereed to our son as "that child" "the boy" "stupid creature" and cackles at everything he says as if he is stupid. She doesn't like me or my daughter much either she actually said to me the other day I suppose you have let yourself go because you work and earn money, in my day you had to keep yourself nice to keep your husband. I am no scruff by the way and wash and blow dry my hair everyday and wear make up every day. I grew up in a very hostile home with a very aggressive father and I am so terrified of being like him that I suppress a lot of my feelings. BUT, I went shopping with my daughter yesterday and when we came home my husband and MIL were sitting watching TV and hadn't seen my son for 2 hours. I went out into the street to look for him and was told that he rode of on his own a while ago, I drove around like a mad woman and found him about 2 miles away standing over his bike crying, he was running away :scared: He had heard his Grandmother speaking about him horribly with his father and the dad that he adores wasn't even sticking up for him, he was bloody agreeing!!!!! My husband was pulling his hair out to me last week about his mother not liking our son and now he is sitting there agreeing with her. What is this bloody hold? My husband is a different man around her! I calmed our son down and took him home and forgot to suppress my feelings lol I went mad, I said to them he is a bloody child and she said oh for goodness sake he is nearly 12 (she talks like the queen by the way) She then said well where is the boy he is ok isn't he! He isn't the bloody boy or that child he is your bloody grandson and his name is Greg and no he isn't ok he is bloody upset, he already knew his Grandmother didnt like him but he is heartbroken to hear his father agreeing with you I didnt say this by the way I shouted it. She just replied oh that stupid child... That was it, I said right that's it I have had enough I am not willing to have someone under my roof that doesn't like my children you can both **** off. AAAAAGGGGHHHHH thing is there is no where for her to go, she has a son and DIL up the road who's son has grown up and left home but they wont have her, I have phoned them and asked twice but they say no way, they have never forgiven her for the way she treated their son. I am so angry, I knew what she was like and I made my husband promise that if she stayed with us that he would have to be loyal to us and not let this happen again and he has let me down so badly. So I am stuck in a small holiday rental with a witch of a MIL and my husband neither of whom are speaking to me or me to them, and I am feeling so pissed off its unbelievable. I havent even got a bloody car I can off for the day in. Sharon GOING MAD :( |
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Originally Posted by diddy
We probably need four of us. One for each leg and arm. Now we just need to figure out where to throw her.
we could stick her broomstick up her arse and swing her round...be able to throw her further hehe |
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What a wicked bitch,i have the same but mine is FIL,the arguments they have caused between me and hubby is unbelievable.He agrees with me but lets it wash over his head,i cant and fail to understand why someone should be allowed to be rude to me in my own home.many a times have i called hubby a spineless bastard for not sticking up for me,but in all honesty when he did his father took no notice.I really feel for you,kick her out ,its not your responsibility to find her somewhere else to live,let her F#@&* off back to the UK,she can hook up with my inlaws.Make a voodoo doll ,it wont do much but will make you feel better,oh and clean the loo with her toothbrush.
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Pack the old witch's suitcase yourself and throw it out on the street!
Then throw the yellow pages at her and tell her to look for a hotel...!!:mad: Who the hell does she think she is?? Considering all the crap with bullies & their knuckle dragging parents, that you guys went through before you got to Oz, she wins the prize for unfeeling, selfish old bag of the year!!! Hotel is is! No questions asked!!! Get her to f#ck out of your house!! And as Biggy said to Sharon's husband... Get a bloody grip mate, & stand up for your wife and kids!:mad: |
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Im soo angry on your behalf,where is she now?? perhaps you could PM me your phone number and i could have a word.
Kick her out and deal with the aftermath later. donna |
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Originally Posted by Scossie
Pack the old witch's suitcase yourself and throw it out on the street!
Then throw the yellow pages at her and tell her to look for a hotel...!!:mad: Who the hell does she think she is?? Considering all the crap with bullies & their knuckle dragging parents, that you guys went through before you got to Oz, she wins the prize for unfeeling, selfish old bag of the year!!! Hotel is is! No questions asked!!! Get her to f#ck out of your house!! And as Biggy said to Sharon's husband... Get a bloody grip mate, & stand up for your wife and kids!:mad: |
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[QUOTE=arkon]My sympathies, I know what parents can be like, I divorced mine. QUOTE]
R U serious? |
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Originally Posted by chattyshazza
Sorry for this rant but everyone I know in the world is asleep in bed right now and I am going insane.
My MIL followed us to Brisbane 9 days after we arrived to stay with us for 2 months! My husband even paid for her bloody ticket. She hates our son, he is 11yrs old, she had 8 children 2 girls and 6 boys and hates boys. For 3 weeks she has refereed to our son as "that child" "the boy" "stupid creature" and cackles at everything he says as if he is stupid. She doesn't like me or my daughter much either she actually said to me the other day I suppose you have let yourself go because you work and earn money, in my day you had to keep yourself nice to keep your husband. I am no scruff by the way and wash and blow dry my hair everyday and wear make up every day. OH MY GOD, its my MIL sister, the wicked witch of the south. you poor thing, tell her to sod off, i did, we stayed with mine 5 months, of hell i might add. She was the dame with 2 of my kids but the youngest could do no wrong I grew up in a very hostile home with a very aggressive father and I am so terrified of being like him that I suppress a lot of my feelings. BUT, I went shopping with my daughter yesterday and when we came home my husband and MIL were sitting watching TV and hadn't seen my son for 2 hours. I went out into the street to look for him and was told that he rode of on his own a while ago, I drove around like a mad woman and found him about 2 miles away standing over his bike crying, he was running away :scared: He had heard his Grandmother speaking about him horribly with his father and the dad that he adores wasn't even sticking up for him, he was bloody agreeing!!!!! My husband was pulling his hair out to me last week about his mother not liking our son and now he is sitting there agreeing with her. What is this bloody hold? My husband is a different man around her! I calmed our son down and took him home and forgot to suppress my feelings lol I went mad, I said to them he is a bloody child and she said oh for goodness sake he is nearly 12 (she talks like the queen by the way) She then said well where is the boy he is ok isn't he! He isn't the bloody boy or that child he is your bloody grandson and his name is Greg and no he isn't ok he is bloody upset, he already knew his Grandmother didnt like him but he is heartbroken to hear his father agreeing with you I didnt say this by the way I shouted it. She just replied oh that stupid child... That was it, I said right that's it I have had enough I am not willing to have someone under my roof that doesn't like my children you can both **** off. AAAAAGGGGHHHHH thing is there is no where for her to go, she has a son and DIL up the road who's son has grown up and left home but they wont have her, I have phoned them and asked twice but they say no way, they have never forgiven her for the way she treated their son. I am so angry, I knew what she was like and I made my husband promise that if she stayed with us that he would have to be loyal to us and not let this happen again and he has let me down so badly. So I am stuck in a small holiday rental with a witch of a MIL and my husband neither of whom are speaking to me or me to them, and I am feeling so pissed off its unbelievable. I havent even got a bloody car I can off for the day in. Sharon GOING MAD :( Book her into a motel, i would, is there anywhere you and the kids could stay, dont let them suffer any more. God she sounds nearly as bad as mine, we stayed with her before we came here, she was just awful to us, demanded her t on table at 5, no chance of that, she was nasty to 2 of my kids, and the youngest spoilt him rotten in front of them, and she slagged off my family all the time, and my friends. Anyway when we leftwe did not tell her and she still does not know where we live hooooray hip hip hoooray. And my hubby cant stand her either, she was cruel to them when they where kids. 12000 miles is not far enough. DONT put up with any more, DEnise |
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Thanks everyone for the replies, Its amazing how a few words of empathy can go, you have given me the strength to demand that she leaves this afternoon.
Some of the replies made me laugh out loud, bet they were wondering what I was finding funny sitting in the kids room on my own. They have both gone out now, dont know where and dont care as long as they remember that I haven't got transport to pick the children up at 3oclk. And totally agree, although found it hard to slag of hubby on an open forum I really feel let down. She bloody left him when he was 12 and came to live in Australia for 4 years, she didnt even tell him she was going, he came home from school and she was gone, that's the kind of mother she was and I cannot and will never understand him being so loyal to her over us. |
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Originally Posted by chattyshazza
Thanks everyone for the replies, Its amazing how a few words of empathy can go, you have given me the strength to demand that she leaves this afternoon.
Some of the replies made me laugh out loud, bet they were wondering what I was finding funny sitting in the kids room on my own. They have both gone out now, dont know where and dont care as long as they remember that I haven't got transport to pick the children up at 3oclk. And totally agree, although found it hard to slag of hubby on an open forum I really feel let down. She bloody left him when he was 12 and came to live in Australia for 4 years, she didnt even tell him she was going, he came home from school and she was gone, that's the kind of mother she was and I cannot and will never understand him being so loyal to her over us. Im so glad my hubby was with me , as he would have found it hard to believe, we escaped her clutches, she made our lives hell. Be strong. and put your foot down now, today. |
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Originally Posted by chattyshazza
Thanks everyone for the replies, Its amazing how a few words of empathy can go, you have given me the strength to demand that she leaves this afternoon.
Some of the replies made me laugh out loud, bet they were wondering what I was finding funny sitting in the kids room on my own. They have both gone out now, dont know where and dont care as long as they remember that I haven't got transport to pick the children up at 3oclk. And totally agree, although found it hard to slag of hubby on an open forum I really feel let down. She bloody left him when he was 12 and came to live in Australia for 4 years, she didnt even tell him she was going, he came home from school and she was gone, that's the kind of mother she was and I cannot and will never understand him being so loyal to her over us. |
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You have to think of your kids in this, the old bag is poison to your son, you wouldnt make him drink weedkiller so don't make him have to stay under the same roof as her.
She should never have come near you just after you made the biggest move of your life, you need space, time and each other, not some evil piece of work there to criticise and belittle everyone. Even if she was a nice MIL she wouldn't be welcome just now. I'm sorry to bad mouth your husband, but, no matter what he feels about her he has to think of his son, no doubt he was juts agreeing with the witch to keep the peace, but that is no excuse, his little boy (he ay be 11 but he is still his little boy) must be devastated by his words, he needs to do one hell of a lot of explaining and making up. Have a couple of bags packed when they get back, for her and for you, if she doesnt go then you and the kids have to, your husband will come to his sences quickly enough when you 3 are out of the house. This is such a stressful time for you, the last thing you need is some interfering old hag living with you, trying to make everyone else seem a bad parent so her style of loveless parenting never comes into question. Be strong for yourself and your kids, even after the anger has worn off, that will be when it gets hard. Good Luck with the exorcism :D Lynn |
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Originally Posted by cranni
OMG its my MIL sister, the wicked witch of the south.
Book her into a motel, i would, is there anywhere you and the kids could stay, dont let them suffer any more. God she sounds nearly as bad as mine, we stayed with her before we came here, she was just awful to us, demanded her t on table at 5, no chance of that, she was nasty to 2 of my kids, and the youngest spoilt him rotten in front of them, and she slagged off my family all the time, and my friends. Anyway when we leftwe did not tell her and she still does not know where we live hooooray hip hip hoooray. And my hubby cant stand her either, she was cruel to them when they where kids. 12000 miles is not far enough. DONT put up with any more, DEnise |
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Originally Posted by chattyshazza
Thanks everyone for the replies, Its amazing how a few words of empathy can go, you have given me the strength to demand that she leaves this afternoon.
Some of the replies made me laugh out loud, bet they were wondering what I was finding funny sitting in the kids room on my own. They have both gone out now, dont know where and dont care as long as they remember that I haven't got transport to pick the children up at 3oclk. And totally agree, although found it hard to slag of hubby on an open forum I really feel let down. She bloody left him when he was 12 and came to live in Australia for 4 years, she didnt even tell him she was going, he came home from school and she was gone, that's the kind of mother she was and I cannot and will never understand him being so loyal to her over us. What a horrible situation.....she deserves to be a very lonely lady.....and she probably will be soon. As for hubbie....he needs to grow up....mothers can have the strongest hold over their sons-my brother is a prime example of that! Stay firm and stand your ground, at the end of the day there is absolutely no justification for how she is behaving. As calmly as you can tell her how vile she is and invite her to leave....life is too short, and you've been through an awful time prior to leaving the UK. Be firm!! Philx |
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Originally Posted by chattyshazza
Thanks everyone for the replies, Its amazing how a few words of empathy can go, you have given me the strength to demand that she leaves this afternoon.
Some of the replies made me laugh out loud, bet they were wondering what I was finding funny sitting in the kids room on my own. They have both gone out now, dont know where and dont care as long as they remember that I haven't got transport to pick the children up at 3oclk. And totally agree, although found it hard to slag of hubby on an open forum I really feel let down. She bloody left him when he was 12 and came to live in Australia for 4 years, she didnt even tell him she was going, he came home from school and she was gone, that's the kind of mother she was and I cannot and will never understand him being so loyal to her over us. donna |
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When you get your car, take the old battle axe out to a rough as guts suburb and dump here there for a day, if shes so keen on how people look a day in a Feral town could quite possibly finish her off :D
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How horrible for you. Please speak to your husband privately before you go "nuclear" though. If nothing else explain to him that you are about to leave until she has or he supports you. Please dont do it in front of your kid or the witchlady. Then you can speak to the nasty old woman and explain that you, like every other member of her family, find her intolerable, rude and she must leave before she breaks up your family which you will not allow. Dont discuss it, the whys wherefores or anything else.
I always find the trick is to remain calm, focused, refuse to raise your voice, let the other person drone on if need be without interrupting and then simply carrying on. Your not the bad person in all of this - but you will have to make sure that it doesn't split your family any more than it has already. Dont give her any ammo. From the sounds of things you've been a saint already. Please please just make sure that she doest hurt your family anymore than she has. My sincerest best wishes and luck to you. Alternatively my Doberman arrives tomorrow and your welcome to bring the old bat around here for him to have a munch. Save me buying a bone ;) |
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Originally Posted by jad n rich
When you get your car, take the old battle axe out to a rough as guts suburb and dump here there for a day, if shes so keen on how people look a day in a Feral town could quite possibly finish her off :D
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Re: Mil Rant
Originally Posted by jad n rich
When you get your car, take the old battle axe out to a rough as guts suburb and dump here there for a day, if shes so keen on how people look a day in a Feral town could quite possibly finish her off :D
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Re: Mil Rant
Originally Posted by chattyshazza
Sorry for this rant but everyone I know in the world is asleep in bed right now and I am going insane.
My MIL followed us to Brisbane 9 days after we arrived to stay with us for 2 months! My husband even paid for her bloody ticket. She hates our son, he is 11yrs old, she had 8 children 2 girls and 6 boys and hates boys. For 3 weeks she has refereed to our son as "that child" "the boy" "stupid creature" and cackles at everything he says as if he is stupid. She doesn't like me or my daughter much either she actually said to me the other day I suppose you have let yourself go because you work and earn money, in my day you had to keep yourself nice to keep your husband. I am no scruff by the way and wash and blow dry my hair everyday and wear make up every day. I grew up in a very hostile home with a very aggressive father and I am so terrified of being like him that I suppress a lot of my feelings. BUT, I went shopping with my daughter yesterday and when we came home my husband and MIL were sitting watching TV and hadn't seen my son for 2 hours. I went out into the street to look for him and was told that he rode of on his own a while ago, I drove around like a mad woman and found him about 2 miles away standing over his bike crying, he was running away :scared: He had heard his Grandmother speaking about him horribly with his father and the dad that he adores wasn't even sticking up for him, he was bloody agreeing!!!!! My husband was pulling his hair out to me last week about his mother not liking our son and now he is sitting there agreeing with her. What is this bloody hold? My husband is a different man around her! I calmed our son down and took him home and forgot to suppress my feelings lol I went mad, I said to them he is a bloody child and she said oh for goodness sake he is nearly 12 (she talks like the queen by the way) She then said well where is the boy he is ok isn't he! He isn't the bloody boy or that child he is your bloody grandson and his name is Greg and no he isn't ok he is bloody upset, he already knew his Grandmother didnt like him but he is heartbroken to hear his father agreeing with you I didnt say this by the way I shouted it. She just replied oh that stupid child... That was it, I said right that's it I have had enough I am not willing to have someone under my roof that doesn't like my children you can both **** off. AAAAAGGGGHHHHH thing is there is no where for her to go, she has a son and DIL up the road who's son has grown up and left home but they wont have her, I have phoned them and asked twice but they say no way, they have never forgiven her for the way she treated their son. I am so angry, I knew what she was like and I made my husband promise that if she stayed with us that he would have to be loyal to us and not let this happen again and he has let me down so badly. So I am stuck in a small holiday rental with a witch of a MIL and my husband neither of whom are speaking to me or me to them, and I am feeling so pissed off its unbelievable. I havent even got a bloody car I can off for the day in. Sharon GOING MAD :( Main thing is get that interfering old witch out of your childrens lives immediately, children need positive influences and good role models, not worthless pieces of shit like your MIL. |
Re: Mil Rant
Originally Posted by Centurion
How horrible for you. Please speak to your husband privately before you go "nuclear" though. If nothing else explain to him that you are about to leave until she has or he supports you. Please dont do it in front of your kid or the witchlady. Then you can speak to the nasty old woman and explain that you, like every other member of her family, find her intolerable, rude and she must leave before she breaks up your family which you will not allow. Dont discuss it, the whys wherefores or anything else.
I always find the trick is to remain calm, focused, refuse to raise your voice, let the other person drone on if need be without interrupting and then simply carrying on. Your not the bad person in all of this - but you will have to make sure that it doesn't split your family any more than it has already. Dont give her any ammo. From the sounds of things you've been a saint already. Please please just make sure that she doest hurt your family anymore than she has. My sincerest best wishes and luck to you. Alternatively my Doberman arrives tomorrow and your welcome to bring the old bat around here for him to have a munch. Save me buying a bone ;) Although i would go about it like a bull in a china shop i agree with first thoughts,well done. donna |
Re: Mil Rant
Originally Posted by cranni
H e might just be waiting for you to get rid of her. He does not have the guts to do it. [under the patio]
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try throwing a bucket of water over her.........hopefully she will melt!!!
well it did work for the witch in Wizard of Oz :D Then it would be Shazza....aka Dorothy |
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I think we might all learn something from this.
I imagine everyone is stressed and anxious when they first arrive in Aus. Job hunting, house hunting, missing friends, new country etc., so the last thing we need is visitors straight away. I think people should give themselves time to settle down, get the kids settled, get their emotions settled, which would probably be at least 6 months and then agree to have visitors. i cant think of anything worse than to have people staying within the first 2 weeks of arriving, let alone the mother in law. You have gone over there to start a new and better life - and she has spoiled everything. It will take alot of guts to throw someone out. If you leave with your son, saying you willl only return when she has gone, and your husband is as weak as he sounds, I would imagine he will let you go. Then it will be you that is homeless and upset - why give her the satisfaction. I dont know what the answer is, but shouting and arguing doesnt usually solve anything. You need to get her out of there, but dont know how strong you are to do it. The sooner she goes, then you can start your new life as you had planned - without her! |
Re: Mil Rant
Originally Posted by chattyshazza
Sorry for this rant but everyone I know in the world is asleep in bed right now and I am going insane.
My MIL followed us to Brisbane 9 days after we arrived to stay with us for 2 months! My husband even paid for her bloody ticket. She hates our son, he is 11yrs old, she had 8 children 2 girls and 6 boys and hates boys. For 3 weeks she has refereed to our son as "that child" "the boy" "stupid creature" and cackles at everything he says as if he is stupid. She doesn't like me or my daughter much either she actually said to me the other day I suppose you have let yourself go because you work and earn money, in my day you had to keep yourself nice to keep your husband. I am no scruff by the way and wash and blow dry my hair everyday and wear make up every day. I grew up in a very hostile home with a very aggressive father and I am so terrified of being like him that I suppress a lot of my feelings. BUT, I went shopping with my daughter yesterday and when we came home my husband and MIL were sitting watching TV and hadn't seen my son for 2 hours. I went out into the street to look for him and was told that he rode of on his own a while ago, I drove around like a mad woman and found him about 2 miles away standing over his bike crying, he was running away :scared: He had heard his Grandmother speaking about him horribly with his father and the dad that he adores wasn't even sticking up for him, he was bloody agreeing!!!!! My husband was pulling his hair out to me last week about his mother not liking our son and now he is sitting there agreeing with her. What is this bloody hold? My husband is a different man around her! I calmed our son down and took him home and forgot to suppress my feelings lol I went mad, I said to them he is a bloody child and she said oh for goodness sake he is nearly 12 (she talks like the queen by the way) She then said well where is the boy he is ok isn't he! He isn't the bloody boy or that child he is your bloody grandson and his name is Greg and no he isn't ok he is bloody upset, he already knew his Grandmother didnt like him but he is heartbroken to hear his father agreeing with you I didnt say this by the way I shouted it. She just replied oh that stupid child... That was it, I said right that's it I have had enough I am not willing to have someone under my roof that doesn't like my children you can both **** off. AAAAAGGGGHHHHH thing is there is no where for her to go, she has a son and DIL up the road who's son has grown up and left home but they wont have her, I have phoned them and asked twice but they say no way, they have never forgiven her for the way she treated their son. I am so angry, I knew what she was like and I made my husband promise that if she stayed with us that he would have to be loyal to us and not let this happen again and he has let me down so badly. So I am stuck in a small holiday rental with a witch of a MIL and my husband neither of whom are speaking to me or me to them, and I am feeling so pissed off its unbelievable. I havent even got a bloody car I can off for the day in. Sharon GOING MAD :( Anything like this makes me so :mad: if she wont F... off then I think I'd make a stand a take the kids to a hotel for a few nights.....how you've not got her by the scruff of the neck and kicked her out :mad: I take my hat of to ya :) Really hope you get things sorted, really not needed in the early days of emigrating. Is there no way of you and the kids taking your husband out on you own and all of you talking about the situation? She has got to go!! Sue x |
Re: Mil Rant
Originally Posted by diddy
We probably need four of us. One for each leg and arm. Now we just need to figure out where to throw her.
That's her type of place. :eek: She could even get treatment there LOL :D :D Alternatively when nature forgets remember laxettes!! Then pinch the loo paper! Good luck with it all, this is not a good start out here. WW |
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Thanks for the replies, some very sensible and some very very funny!
SHE HAS GONE!!!!!! Dont know where as husband and her just walked out while I was in the bedroom with the children, but I just looked in her room and her case etc has gone. I feel a bit sick that it came to this but it couldn't go on, when I picked the kids up from school they were consumed with talking about how much they dont like her and they wish she wasn't here. I couldn't even keep up the good mother act and tell them that she is their grandmother and that they have to show her respect, I had gone past it. I am interested to see what my husband has to say for himself now she has gone. |
Re: Mil Rant
Originally Posted by chattyshazza
Thanks for the replies, some very sensible and some very very funny!
SHE HAS GONE!!!!!! Dont know where as husband and her just walked out while I was in the bedroom with the children, but I just looked in her room and her case etc has gone. I feel a bit sick that it came to this but it couldn't go on, when I picked the kids up from school they were consumed with talking about how much they dont like her and they wish she wasn't here. I couldn't even keep up the good mother act and tell them that she is their grandmother and that they have to show her respect, I had gone past it. I am interested to see what my husband has to say for himself now she has gone. FANTASTIC!!!!! :beer: Has she always been like that? what a bloody nightmare! and lets hope she's on her way back to the UK :D Good luck with chatting to your husband Sue x |
Re: Mil Rant
Are your husbands things still there? Lets hope so.
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