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:eek: Is this natural.......!!!!

I keep asking myself is this the right thing to do. First OH didnt want to go, now i am having doubts ( what's bloody wrong with me). To be given the opportunity to emigrate to Australia is fantastic and most people would cut off their arm to beable to go, so why am i feeling this way i should be ecstatic!!

I need YOUR help guys !!!!!..... :)

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Always known that ;)

Sounds pretty normal to me

Good luck

G

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What G said :)

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Cant help you there, I feel exactly the same today! Tomorrow Ill be fine. I hope!

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You'll be fine Lucy, it's completly natural to feel the way you do, good luck :)

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Ditto to all of the above. I've never had any doubts about what we're doing until our visa was granted and then, BAM.....I expected to be over the moon but after a day or so, I spent the following two weeks just bursting into tears about the thought of leaving, and started to have serious doubts about whether emigrating is the right thing to do.

Some posters on here are extremely lucky and don't seem to have any doubts about the move to Oz, but I think the majority of us on here probably go through what you and I are going through at some point during the process.

Emigrating is a life-changing move - for me, it's one of the most important decisions of my life and I figure that it's probably pretty normal to question what you're going, whether it's the right thing, etc.

I'm dealing with how I'm feeling by focusing on all the positive things that Oz has to offer - not what I'm leaving behind in the UK. Don't know what else to say except you're not alone......hang in there!

Nicky

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Go for it, nothing ventured nothing gained. I was in the same situation a couple of months ago. Our visa came through after waiting nearly 16 months and we thought help, do we still really want to go.

We bit the bullet and arrived in mid October and to be honest at the mo we are loving it,and wish we had done it years ago. It has'nt been plain sailing we have had our moments of doubt. Finding a job was harder than I thought it would be,so after a month I went temping to pay the bills and luckily kept plugging away trying to get a job and finally found one that I started today.

Just look at it as an adventure, nothing is forever and if you don't like it you can always go back home. However if you stay put, you will spend the rest of your days saying what if? I won't pretend and tell you it's easy, but being away from the uk I have found that I speak to my family more than if I was there, and am kept more up to date with what is going on. It is so cheap with phone cards available to phone home costing less than a penny a minute.

Keep us in touch with how you are doing and good luck.

Cheers
Ady :)

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yes i feel like that at times, but if you really think about it is scary but the reward for the adventure that you could have i think will be worth it .
at the least you can come back, which wasn't an option in the past the world is getting smaller:scared:

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It's hard isn't it ?
Oops....are we live ? :o
Trouble with the missus again :rolleyes:

The whole emmigration package can be a very tiring and emotional time.
It's quite natural for you to have doubts.
Without doubts you don't sanity check things.
Doubts enable you to put a perspective on things.

Don't worry about doubts............worry if you don't have them. :)

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We are exactly the same. House sold, no job now and we leave on the 24th January for Sydney North Shore. The cars are being sold but now we are getting worried and asking why??? Some mornings we feel sick, but it it just natural. I think we would feel the same if we were moving anywhere. Giving up all you know for the unknown is tough. Add in the distance from family and it is even harder.

BUT....

my mum summed it up over Christmas. She said you only live once so go for it because if you turn back now you will always be asking what if...

We are treating it as an adventure - the kids love that - and have no plans for the long term. If we love it we stay, if we hate it we come back. Simple!

Good Luck

Cam

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An adventure it will be Cam. :)

Difficult as it is try not to anticipate too much.
Be prepared as best you can but don't "expect".

And when shite happens try to keep a smile and find the positive in the situation. There is usually one even if small.

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Thank you all for some great replies.......i shed a tear at a couple ( see i'm off again)......I am glad to see i am not alone and there have and will be others like me.

I will keep you in touch , we have a long way to go yet but our agent has said it's going to be a pretty straight forward application :rolleyes: ( will see)

Bix...you still make me laugh ;)

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Exact same feelings on the process, i'm sure it's entirely normal human feelings/ emotions....stick to your guns.

Dave

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It gets better . Get to where your going, make some friends, sit in the sun and drink a glass of cold beer . AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH :beer:

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I hope i can Dave.... :)

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I was and am in the same state as you and we've been here less than a week and still feel so bad with the odd bit in between that's ok....there are planes back if you really don't like it but how long do you leave it. Furniture is on its way......Happy pills don't really work either, Don;t know what to say to help apart from the fact that I feel the same!

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Hi Issie, I think most of us go through the rollercoaster of emotions. Just think about it the other way, if you dont go you'll regret it and wish you had gone. Grab the chance while you have it and live it. Good luck :D

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I've been in your position - some days I still am, I take a look around at what is familiar and what we take for granted - not just friends and family, but everything that I have grown up with, and how the hell will I cope!!!! :eek:
But then I take a step back and think about living in Australia and we will cope with the change - with a different lifestyle and culture, how we will adapt and get on (hopefully) and how it will enrichen our boys lives. and I hope that if it doesn't work out we will have the courage to come back and say at least we tried. :D

I'm sending you some karma, keep your chin up

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Issie,
I, like others on here, am going through exactly the same feelings as you are right now.
I go to bed at night thinking "I don't want to go", then wake up in the morning with my positive head on.
But what's really keeping me going is the fact that my husband and 3 teenage kids are all so desperate to go, and I don't really want to disappoint them by saying "Forget it". I know that sometimes I should be thinking of myself too, and I do really want to go aswell, but I'm the one with the huge circle of mates and the close knit family and therefore have much more to lose, but to be honest my family come first, as I'm sure yours do, and their happiness means so much more to me than my feelings. Hubby is in a job he detests and struggles to get the enthusiasm to go in every day. I know he will have to work in Oz but this gives him a good chance to find something else to do.
I've booked my meds today for next month, so that is something else to focus on.
Go for it girl. :) We can always come back if things don't work out. Nothing is forever. Who knows what the future holds, but as least we can say that we've been there, done that. How many people really get the chance to say the same.
Good Luck to you and for the future.
Julie. x

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Thanks Deb.......it's so hard isnt it. I wish someone could look it to the future for me and tell me i am doing the right thing. But i am going..........i hope they will still except me when i am a raving lunatic, alcoholic smoking 60 fags a day ( oops forgot i dont smoke), i hope Hubby doesnt change his mind again too!

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Julie ....that is so like me i go to bed not wanting to go and then wake up and think......Yes i do. I am so glad it isnt just me, i hope i can cope with it all at the same time.

Thank you for your reply i have great comfort knowing i am supported on here by so many people...... :)

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Me too was starting to think i was going through early menopause :scared: :scared:

same as Juliecabs huraah i must be normal :confused: :rolleyes

Just think this time next year we could all be there thinking so glad we did it and not imagining ever feeling like this!! :)

Kris xx

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Not really sure I was ever normal :D :o

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:D :D


Kris xx