how do you handle returning again??
 

Hi, we have returned to the UK and regretted our decision as soon as Christmas was over.
My question is, had anyone else returned to Oz and how did the rest of the family handle it for the second time.
I have told most of my friends and they are OK with it as we will not be leaving for a year or two, but family, now thats different.

Just wondering if sooner is better that later and how other people handled it.

Thanks

Libby.

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Only advise is do what YOU feel is right for your family.

Good luck though
Wendy

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Thats just how i am feeling, we came back after 6months and am regretting it. The wife however feels very settled. I am trying to persude her to go back even if only for a few years and she is having a think about it. I know Oz isn't a magical place like some think, but i do beleive it holds a better lifestyle for our family, especially the kids. Where abouts was you first time round?

Matty D

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Hi Matty,

We were in Adelaide, but would return to Queensland this time. Adelaide did not suit us, but that was not the only reason we came back. It was for the rest of the family and we have decided it was the wrong reason. Their life has gone on regardless and still is. False promises ect............
Good luck with persuading your to give it another go.

Libby X

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Hi Libby:)

I've no intention leaving Aus so am unable to give advice regarding a return, however there are a few who intend coming back so they might be able to give advice. I think fishface is one and glitterbabe is another...and ABCDiamond is someone who's done the return trip..so maybe they can help:confused:

Anyways, just wanted to say "good luck" with the move back.

I know it must have been a hard decision to go back to UK...so equally as hard to return to Aus. But as others have said, you do what's best for you;)

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Can't comment on this in one way as we're in the process of going first time but as you say family have gone on with their lives and you must too, even if that means you go back.

I think you'll know what suits your family. Mine have known for a while and over time have come to accept (not necessarily like) things.

This is one life and it belongs to you and yours.....live it!

Cheers

Ginny

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That's a bit like asking how people would cope with sticking their head down the toilet; ie. it begs the question "Why would you do it in the first place?" :confused:

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Ah yes - but at least having stuck ones head down the toilet the person has the good sense to realise that the said toilet is in fact called the UK and wishes to leave the cubical in which its situated post haste and come back home to Australia.

Good call and best wishes with it. I'm sure your family will understand.

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There is a forum for people moving back to the UK they may be able to help/advise on there.
Alison

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This is about someone returning to Aus from UK.

Why would they want to go on the returning to UK forum...when they are returning to Aus:confused:


The UK forum will convince em to stay:D

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Just thought Some people might have returned & had 2nd thoughts also & would post there.No need to be so snappy! only trying to help.

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There is actually a thread on the forum I mentioned saying saying UK or OZ cant decide, that may help.
Alison

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Maybe you need to look back at my post.

Notice the smiley?

Notice I wrote in "comic" writing?

That means I was being friendly.....and also trying to help.

I don't snap. I bite:p

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Nothing needs to be foreever.

In my wifes line of work staff move country every few years - we have relocated San Francisco - London - Swindon - London - Horsham and now Melbourne.

Be selfish and look out for you and your family. Other family members may be selfish in wanting you to be nearer them.

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Thanks everyone for all your advice. much appreciated.

We will definatley be back, even typing that gives me nice butterflies in my stomach.

If there is one thing the whole experience has taught us, its that my family are myself, hubby and our 2 children. As long as we are happy, thats all that matters.

A bit selfish I know, but hey, if I stayed here, then that would be second best for us and you are only here once. Bit of a cliche, but true all the same.

I can not stay here on the off chance that we will get a family visitor once a month or twice if we are lucky, there has got to more to life than that. They had a second chance and they screwed it up!! sorry not that I am bitter or anything you understand!!

Thanks again everyone

LibbyX

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:confused:

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They call such people " Ping Pong Poms" or "Boomerang Poms", Poms that immigrate to OZ and soon return to the UK after a short period of time and then regret their decision and go back to OZ. Thats why if you go to all the trouble and expense of immigrating to OZ you should give it atleast 2 years and/ or try a different part of OZ before going back to the Uk.

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Maybe try posting this in the 'Moving back to the U.K' forum. There should be some people who have done the same as you in there :)

http://britishexpats.com/forum/forumdisplay.php?f=61

Good luck with whatever you decide :)

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Yes there are people in all sorts of stages on the UK forum, including those who cant make up their mind. :) Posters from several countries in all stages of immigration or return go there rarely with a cross word.

Some of the thougths and observations of people are very honest and thought provoking tho, especially some of the posts on how it feels to leave family. That seems to threaten some posters from the australian forum and 3/4 trolls have got in there recently :rolleyes: getting one thread closed. Normally tho its a very calm place of discussion no matter what stage your at.

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Hindsight is an amazing thing to have........if only!!!!!!!

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No mistakes are made only lessons learned,

and if you go back to the UK and enjoy your life more, the trip has been a worthwile exercise and experience, as you now recognise how good the UK really is.

Someone quoted somewhere that her husband sees the UK as a better place, to me , thats a good eye opener.

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Goodluck whatever you decide to do.
Alison

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I am one of those that returned to the UK and then came back to Australia, but I consider my family to be the ones I live with. Consequently I can't help with the "family left behind" situation.

But I do know the feelings relating to viewing the UK after being away a few years. The memories I had kept of the UK, were not, in general, the reality as I found it.

Good Luck :)

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After landing back in UK 2002 from oz we where so relieved to be back, after only 2 months i knew we had made a terrible mistake. We even bought another house in Yorkshire not far from family as before, it took me approx 18 months to persuade my husband (or so i though, he was in the same mind as me secretly but didn't want to admit it) to return to QLD. We both felt sick to the stomach when we had to tell family again!!!! a few bad things had happened at the time ie police getting shot (my hubby is a PC) and we thought enough is enough, fortunately all our family were in the same mind set. So we sold up again which is another story .....reloaded the belongings in the container and set off back to Noosa on the sunshine coast which is paradise. We have been here 16 months this second time and have built our own house, we feel really settled this time, and although costly we do not regret going back to UK it made us realise where we wanted to be and that although we come from massive families OUR family is hubby me and the two kids. Do what ever you have to and for your OWN family. :

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Nice post

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Very very true. :)

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Hi Libby,
We went to Oz in November 2004 (Gold Coast) and returned to the UK in January 2005!!!! We were there just 9 weeks. It sounds daft when you try to explain to people why you came back but to us those 9 weeks felt like 9 months at the time. We look back now and think that we were just physically and emotionally totally drained with it all and going back home was the simple choice . IT WAS NOT. We didn't want to come home, we knew it was silly, but we felt at the time that we had no other choice. We regretted it even before we had bought the return flight tickets!!! We felt that we weren't getting anywhere and had four kids in tow. Stress levels were high and arguments were a daily routine LOL. What really hit home that we had made a big mistake was actualy getting back home. Within a month of returning we were planning emigration attempt two!!! Family were all sad to see us go the first time and said how much they will miss us. One brother said that he wished he had spent more time with us in the many years previous. We had a very tearful goodbye when we went. After we got back everything slipped back into the old routine. We are not seeing anymore of family now than before we emigrated. So it is like someone has already said - everyone has their own lives to live and will continue doing so whether you are there or not. I say go back as soon as you can and give it another go. We know more now than ever that we want to live in Oz. We WILL NOT return next time unless it is for a holiday LOL. Return flights booked for July 16th. 20 weeks to go and counting. Family all ok with it and not surprised! Friends not surprised either and say go for it!!! Good luck Libby. As my moniker says "Don't dream your life.... Live your Dream".
Best wishes,
Trev xx