Shouldn't go against her at all.

We have decided to tell our families that we are going for a couple of years then returning. We feel it will be easier for them if they don't think it's forever.
If we do decide to stay after that then they will be used to us being away.

Thats a relief, we thought that because she will need some if only a little healthcare when we have only just arrived in the country it might go against her/us.

Nope - lots of parents bring children needing healthcare into this country. Do a search on the threads.

No. It only goes against you if it is going to cost the healthcare system a certain amount of money a year, think it's $20,000 or something like that.
Tracie

This day just gets better and better... thankyou.

Never heard of any children dieing from heat exhaustion except the ones where the stupid parents accidently lock them in the car on a hot day.
Sounds like the usual intellligent comments from someone whose never been to OZ along with " you will get eaten alive by spiders in your sleep and the hole in the ozone layer will give you radiation poisoning"

what's even more fun is when you have been once - returned to UK and survived endless upheavel and then you tell them you are going back to Aus.

Just done this and am getting very strange looks and negative comments from some. Also keep being told I am brave (think they really mean stupid!!).

Am v v nervous but hope all works this time.

Keep positive.................

we told family and friends right at the beginning, alot of tears.
At the time i wished that we had not told anyone until 3-4 months before we are due to leave, the anger, emotional blackmail and general horribleness (is that a word?) was very difficult, but we never doubted that we had made the right decision, that was about 15 months ago, we now have our visas, its all very real and most of the family have had time to come round to the idea, which they wouldnt have been able to do if we had told them just before we left, we leave in september and hopefully the few stragglers that are yet to come round will have done by then!!!
its a very difficult time and i suppose there is no easy way round it, people surprise you, some are unexpectedly supportive whilst others who you have been close to forever want you hung out to dry!
Good luck and get a crash helmet!

Beth

I agree with the post above. My parens have not reacted well at all to my wish to move to Perth. Emotional blackmail, blame, is terrible, but they'll have to get used to thei idea. I know I've got a long way to go, but parents should realise that times are different and that their kids' happiness and future counts for something.

I really have a fight on my hands now.But if it's a choice btw being with my fiance and my folks...I'll book my ticket first thing tomorrow morning.

There is no real easy way to do it, just choose the day a bit better than me. I told my mum on mothers day did not go down well at all. It was a real rollercoaster ride first she would not speak to me then the blackmail after a few chats she just began to accept it.
She came over for a holiday with her sister for 4 weeks and has started saving again for the next trip.

Good luck guys...ours are still trying to get us to change our minds

Was only issues with outlaws when we told everyone of our plans. Couldn't understnd why though seeing how they intend to move to Malta in a few years!

The way things are going, mine are only going to let me leave in a coffin.

Hi there, my hubbies family were fantastic (we told them right from the start) they think it's the best thing we could do, but they live over 100 miles away and we never see them so that was easy. My mum was a completely different story, when we first told her we were thinking about it she has a hairy fit - she dumped her poor boyfriend, gave my brother dogs abuse and wouldnt speak to me for ages , so we just went ahead and applied without telling her, we didnt hide it just didnt say anything, we got our visa in May last year then validated in October, telling her it was just a wee holiday to check it out (not a lie really), so now we had to tell her or else we would be having to hide the for sale sign every time she came to visit , so now she knows she is devastated and says we are making a huge mistake.

So a word of advice this is not how you should go about telling your mum!
Clairex