desperate2go

thats enough to keep me there FOREVER

vikk

So it's not just me that wakes in a panic about being lonely, isolated & jobless in the middle of the night then? Glad to know I'm not alone. Not that I wish anyone else to go through it - It's just nice to know it's perfectly normal. :scared:

desperate2go

Mine includes penniless and partnerless too

Merlot

Hey listen they have some great B & S Balls over there - Bachelor & Spinster Parties, mind you have to be into mullet head, Jimmy Barnes listening, beer swigging Aussies, and that is just the women

jjonboy

Just take a deep breath and go for it mate. You'll always wonder what if? if you don't go for it...

realestate.com.au for somewhere to live
seek.com.au for a job
and rsvp.com.au for a new partner....

Game set and match online?

Phoenixuk2oz

Actually Merlot people very rarely, if ever, have wonderful, perfect lives. I suspect the people on this site who you refer to as "up their own backsides" generally have as tougher lives as others, however they prefer to get on with things rather than wallow in self pity and moan at every opportunity. Does this make their life perfect and "up their own backside"? I think not [you maybe have been a bit harsh there Merlot ]

As for Flying dutchman: I'm sure you'll be OK. It's a daunting process this migration malarky and there's no getting away from the emotional aspect of the move whether it's a family or a single person, we all go through the waves of emotional change. The good news is....migration doesn't kill you...so you ride the rough sea's and providing you've got a strong character, are prepared to face up to challenge,willing to work hard and not expect Aus to be like your home country, then you'll do well and be fine

Good luck!

Shellfish

It's right that you are scared. Moving to a new place is a very daunting and difficult thing to do regardless of whether you are alone or not. Melbourne is a wonderful place and I love it here but as with anything in life, it has it's up and downs. Scary as it is to be here, for me, it's scarier if I think that fear would have every stopped me from trying.

Good luck with everything!

Merlot

OK a bad choice of words me thinks and naughty me for being a lady with a sweeping statement.

I am on the side of positive and determined people. We all want to read good things that are happening, there are enough bad things in this world.

I think I get tired of reading life is just fabby in Australia and if someone questions this or has something down to say, they get shot down in flames.

Sometimes the Forum lapses into what I call a bit fluffy and seems to lack balance or becomes very chatty on material and money things. These are not important to me but of course are to others.

I am learning to leave these posts be now as they don't concern me. I tend think of the others that are struggling and not going to have the great mortgage free start or excess cash to play with.

M

Shellfish

I also remembered that going it alone can have loads of advantages, not having to consult anyone on decisions would be such a bonus because along with moving countries comes huge disagreements which you can avoid

Phoenixuk2oz

Agree re wording...then again we can all make generalisations without realising

I can see why you interpret some posts as fluffy [I think others call them rose tinted posts which is equally offensive if someone is enjoying life here in Aus]. However the mortgage free lifestyle once enjoyed by so many, now seems to be enjoyed by few hence the real world living in Aus, for most, consists of same sh*t.....shinier bucket

The truth is Aus is good for some and not for others and same with UK. No right or wrong. Just different opinions, different perspectives and different "wants" ......but both are equally valid

Wanderlust

Hiya Dutchie!

I moved out here on my own in September. Well - almost - my brother lives out here and I got to stay with him for the first little while. But - regardless - I had no friends, no job, etc., and I had huge doubts about leaving behind everyone I knew and everything familiar in the UK.

My advice to you - for the first few months - keep very busy! Don't give yourself time to sit around and feel sorry for yourself. Job hunt, home hunt, be active and go out of your way to make friends. In fact - I made friends in Brisbane before I even got here! There is an excellent website called www.RSVP.com.au. Its a singles website, but it doesnt mean you have to be desperate for love to join in. I joined and had a few penpals before I got here, and when I arrived I was taken out and shown around the town, invited to different events, etc. etc. We're still friends now and I consider them part of my social circle. You can even make sure you meet people with the same interests as you and everything! One of my scuba diving buddies was someone I met on that website. They have events nearly every month. I went along to one of their cocktail evenings - turned up all on my own - and had a lovely evening meeting all kinds of people. Aussies are very friendly people!

It's just one idea. Being scared is natural - but you'll be fine! You have to be a pretty outgoing person to even attempt the move here on your own in the first place - you'll have no trouble settling in. Just hang in there!

Good luck!!

W.

Kristine

No its not you - I definately have those ups and downs. Can totally understand the 3am thing, I lie there thinking I have a really well paid job, my own house, the best of friends and I'm going to a job on far less money, nae mates, no house - have to put beloved puss into prison - sorry quarantine!!
But then I think, I'm 28 I have the rest of my life ahead of me, no ties, go have an adventure, I can always come back after a couple of years, but at least then I will have had the experience and not lie awake at 3am thinking about 'what if's'.
Good luck to you and everyone going on their own!

Professional Princess

Why do problems and worries seem absolutely huge at 3am than they do at 8am?

They really do grow in size and magnify don't they?

I dont like 3am, I think it should be banned.

Kristine

Yeah its bad enough lying awake with all these bloomin worries and churning every thought over and over - but what makes it worse is the clock ticking by and then panicking as you're only going to get 4 hours sleep!!
I'm in a permanent state of knackerdness!!!!

vikk

Next time I wake up at 3 am in a state of panic I'll try to stop & think about everyone else lying in their beds worrying about Oz too so I don't feel so scared or alone. But then at 3 am I'll probably be worrying like mad about how you'll all cope out there all by yourselves. 'If I feel like this here, how on earth will I feel at 3am over there?'

Good Luck to you all especially at 3am!