Kernow1

Let me set the stage...

Spent the day enjoying the beautiful sunshine today. Did 2 loads of washing, read a magazine, had lunch and then put the ironing board up. As per the Blighty habit of having the radio on whilst ironing, I decided to listen to Terry Wogan's show from Fri morning. Hubby decided he'd have a snooze on the settee.

All of sudden I am really missing family and friends. I feel like catching the next flight home but we are committed for a year to rent this place.

It was my idea to come here so why am I feeling so awful? Hubby thinks it's going to be great (having talked him into leaving his kids behind - 27,25 & 15) but I keep thinking that we are in a beautiful place but we have no-one to share it with. We can't ring up anyone and ask them to come over for a BBQ or dinner or just a coffee! So, is it really worth being in such a lovely country but feel incredibly lonely?

Neither of us have jobs yet. As many of you have experienced, companies don't even bother sending a rejection letter! Been here since 1st June but feel like I have had enough of sitting around, going shopping and spending precious money that we can ill afford and basically I am just feeling like I want to pack up right now. I am almost jealous of people who are going back.

Is this beautiful Sat afternoon getting to me? Am I being foolish as we haven't been here that long (2nd time round though)? Feel like I just need to be with family and friends - what have I done by coming here, especially after the last failed attempt at making a go of it?

Sorry, used hubby's login by mistake....

Sam

Where abouts are you??

Your location shows UK?

Poppett44

Aaaw, its still early days yet hun,, you're bound to be missing family and friends.
Let people here know where you are and I bet you will soon have a new circle of fab mates! and every one of them will know exactly what you are going/have been through

Kernow1

We are in Sydney. Will get hubby to change the location.

Sam

Thats a shame

I was going to say we'll meet up for coffee, but its a bit far for me to go

JoolsB

It is very early days for you-psychologists reckon it takes someone an average of 4 months to settle into a new job so imagine how much longer to settle into a complete new life I grew up in Sydney til age 4 and practically all my family are there so I know it's a wonderful place and in a years time you'll probably feel completely different. Why dont you organise a get together for other new Sydneysiders in the Meet ups section?

Weirdstone

It is early days yet .... don't be so hard on yourself.
People really need to give themselves a year to find their feet completely - with jobs, friends, the emotions they have brought with them etc..

Take care, you'll be right

glittababe

I have 'moments' where I feel like that too! Its strange things that trigger it too, like today, felt very sentimental about the weather of all things! Nice, sunny, 26 degrees, sea breeze, but it reminded me of a UK summer (nooo not on a rainy day)! Have suggested to hubby we plan for a trip back to the UK next year, he doesn't want to. Kids aren't bothered either, its just me. Would just like to see my sis Katy, my nieces and nephews and catch up with friends.

turkey12903

check out these guys
http://britishexpats.com/forum/showthread.php?t=469053

moneypenny20

Central coast may not help much but go into the Meet Up forum, there is always a meet going on in Sydney both CBD and outlying suburbs.

Desire

Oh Bless............ dont worry, i still feel like that after 2 and a bit years
Here in Adelaide we didn't see much sun today.... doesn't help a?
So i have opened a bottle of red wine
Take care xx

C&R

Know exactly how you are feeling. Things have been going ok for me, I never felt homesick at all, but today I woke up feeling really sad and despondant due to not being able to find work. I even searched the internet attempting to find cheap flights so I can go home. I think the best thing is to just take each day at a time. Sorry thats the only advice I can give, but like others have said, it will get easier. We just have to deal with days like this knowing it will soon pass.

John50

Ditto

Not a day goes by that i don`t want to get on a plane and go home
I am sick and tired of sending out hundreds of C.Vs and getting nowhere not even a rejection letter....
We are staying with friends and while they are wonderfull and can`t do enough for us its not like we have our own life
But i am not giving up without a fight and sooner or later i will find a job and then a house and i know it will be easier after that......
Best of luck to you....

Poppett44

Dont give up on the job front guys,, it took my hubby 5 months and countless rejections during which time we used up most of the money we brought with us.
He now has a really good job with Siemens and despite being broke we have managed to buy a block of land and tomorrow we are putting a deposit down on a house build.
There will be days where you feel like giving up (believe me I know ) but hang in there and one day it should all start to come together.

Meet everyone and anyone who asks you, you won't click with everyone but you will end up with some good friends.
My girlfriends that I have made here through a different expat site mean the world to me, and we try to be there for each other when needed

Wendy

I put my son on the plane back to the UK yesterday. Up until that moment I've been absolutely fine. Yesterday however, I could have booked a flight back there and then.

I feel a bit better this morning, but I didn't sleep much last night and the house feels really empty.

I know it will pass, and in a few days I'll be OK again. Hang in there, even the most settled of us have bad times every now and then.