Originally Posted by bcworld (Post 6650388)

Well it all sounds pretty unreasonable and you have reason to be upset.

But I think your OH might see your posts, including this one as he seems to post using the same account?? :confused:

http://britishexpats.com/forum/showt...63#post6643863

Originally Posted by DinkyDi (Post 6650339)

I am not a new user,but changed my username recently as did not want OH to see my posts,this one in particular.
Briefly,we have been in Australia for just over two years.
On paper things look fine,he has a good job,although does longhours - in fact one of the many reasons we moved here was because of the long hours he was out of the home in London,three hour commute etc..We thought this would improve,in fact it is pretty much the same,he is away for usually 12 hours a day.We have two small children,they maybe see him for 30 minutes a day.That's not the problem though.
His parents have been out twice since we arrived,both the Christmases we have spent here,his brother has also visited.
My family are not in a financial position to be able to do this,and my mum would not come even if we paid her flights.
Tomorrow he is off to the UK ,on his own for a holiday.Flight was part paid for by a family member.I am so upset about this.He asked me if I minded,I said yes.He is still going.He has never been homesick,while I have struggled since we arrived.I feel so jealous,then I feel angry and then I feel like breaking something.I am trying to be reasonable about this,but it is very hard.
I feel as if this may be the last straw,as we have other problems as well.
Just feel so alone really,and can't cry or I may not stop.
Sorry.Just can't talk to anyone about this,suppose that's the beauty of the internet,nobody knows who you are.

Originally Posted by Scrawni 2 (Post 6650419)

I think you have every right to feel as you do, I would be feeling the same. You so need to try and tell him how you feel, some men seem to walk around with their heads in the sand and think that everything is ok when it clearly isn't. How would he feel if you just went a booked some tickets back to the UK even though you asked him if he minded and he said yes???

If you want to pm me for a chat feel free.

Originally Posted by Potato_potato (Post 6650437)

Yes and some women do the same. I'm not sure why you feel the need to attack men. You've obviously been watching too much Oprah and blame men for all the wrong doings in your life as well.

Originally Posted by Potato_potato (Post 6650437)

Yes and some women do the same. I'm not sure why you feel the need to attack men. You've obviously been watching too much Oprah and blame men for all the wrong doings in your life as well.

Originally Posted by Scrawni 2 (Post 6650475)

Oh behave, I said 'some' men. Some woman can act the same too, I suppose I should have said some 'people' walk around with their heads in the sand?

Originally Posted by Potato_potato (Post 6650484)

That would have saved me getting offended.

I just don't like being attacked, as a man, for merely being born with a penis.

Originally Posted by 4Margaret (Post 6650480)

I would be upset too. I would be very cross with the family member who paid for his holiday without including me and the children as well.

No offence to men but the man is out all day being talking to other people being stretched with work and using brain etc and its hard for the wife who does not have any time for herself or have family around with two small children at home and being in a new country is even harder.