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Old Jan 5th 2008, 4:42 pm
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Just wondered if any one else had had to make the decision to split up the family for a while. Partner is due to go to Adelaide next week and our four year old daughter and myself will follow mid-end Feb. I need to remain in the U.K. to tie up loose ends etc. Only been apart for three days in thirteen years. Hope things will be o.k
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Hi everyone,

Just wondered if any one else had had to make the decision to split up the family for a while. Partner is due to go to Adelaide next week and our four year old daughter and myself will follow mid-end Feb. I need to remain in the U.K. to tie up loose ends etc. Only been apart for three days in thirteen years. Hope things will be o.k
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I am sure it will be fine, we will probably have to do the same, we have only just put the house on the market and Jason is due to start work at the beginning of March in Melbourne, can't imagine we will have sold and completed by then, so I will follow with our 3 children. Not ideal but needs must at the moment.

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I am sure it will be fine - in some ways you get the easy bit - finding accommodation and getting set up can be incredibly challenging! With all the improvements in communication these days it wont be too hard for you to be in touch all the time!
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Hiya,

As the other guys said, it will be fine so don't worry

I think I would prefer to go on my to be honest, you've only got yourself to sort out, it must be really tricky with little ones in tow !!

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Originally Posted by Cant rain all the time View Post
Hi everyone,

Just wondered if any one else had had to make the decision to split up the family for a while. Partner is due to go to Adelaide next week and our four year old daughter and myself will follow mid-end Feb. I need to remain in the U.K. to tie up loose ends etc. Only been apart for three days in thirteen years. Hope things will be o.k


That's similar to what we plan to do if we can't sell the house in time, the only difference is that it will be me and the two kids staying and hubby coming back (mid October), so i can get the kids settled into school (my eldest is 16 in May, so i want her to start school asap) Hubby will continue working in the UK and will follow when the house is sold - not ideal and hopefully we won't need to, but it's good to have a plan b just in case.
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Old Jan 5th 2008, 8:59 pm
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Hi everyone,

Just wondered if any one else had had to make the decision to split up the family for a while. Partner is due to go to Adelaide next week and our four year old daughter and myself will follow mid-end Feb. I need to remain in the U.K. to tie up loose ends etc. Only been apart for three days in thirteen years. Hope things will be o.k
Yes we did this, and for 2.5 years. Initially me and my 17yr old and 10yr old came over. My hubby came to help us find somewhere to live and then he went back to the UK. Our then 15yr old wanted to stay till she finished school (she went to a school for the deaf so I could understand this), and our 19yr old was working in France. We had to make the move when we did due to visas etc and they both said that they wanted us to go. Fortunately my husband has customers in Sydney so he made the trip over a few times a year anyway. It all worked out and everyone is here now and all very happy.
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Hi everyone,

Just wondered if any one else had had to make the decision to split up the family for a while. Partner is due to go to Adelaide next week and our four year old daughter and myself will follow mid-end Feb. I need to remain in the U.K. to tie up loose ends etc. Only been apart for three days in thirteen years. Hope things will be o.k
We have done this every move we have ever made. It gave my husband the chance to find a rental, buy a car with no distractions and I tied things up back in the UK. I can't imagine landing all together and trailing kids around to do these things.

Good luck.
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Yup. My husband's job transferred him from Adelaide to Perth. The kids and I stayed in Adelaide for a couple of months while he lived in Perth. It gave him a chance to see if he actually liked the city and job before we all made the move.
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We have done this every move we have ever made. It gave my husband the chance to find a rental, buy a car with no distractions and I tied things up back in the UK. I can't imagine landing all together and trailing kids around to do these things.

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I was about to mention you and Dorothy as people who had done this successfully.
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We did this for 6 weeks when we moved interstate to the Gold Coast from Adelaide. I stayed behind, living in our sold house keeping life normal...kids at school etc... whilst hubby settled into new job and started looking at possible places to live.

It was hard, but made me realise that I was capable of doing alot more than I gave myself credit for....We have 4 kids plus a geriatric dog and a young pup.

Trouble was when we got back together I had become very self sufficient and I got niggled very easily by my Husbands' way of doing everything LOL! This period of readjustment was actually harder than being apart

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Yes we did this, and for 2.5 years. Initially me and my 17yr old and 10yr old came over. My hubby came to help us find somewhere to live and then he went back to the UK. Our then 15yr old wanted to stay till she finished school (she went to a school for the deaf so I could understand this), and our 19yr old was working in France. We had to make the move when we did due to visas etc and they both said that they wanted us to go. Fortunately my husband has customers in Sydney so he made the trip over a few times a year anyway. It all worked out and everyone is here now and all very happy.
I see what you are all saying. It will give Darran chance to settle into his new job. I've already told him he has got plenty to do when he is out there. Find a nice place to live with good schools, shops, doctor's, dentist's, Vet's etc. Suppose this is all easier without our 4 year old in tow. Will be better to get there and things be organised to some extent for our arrival. Cheers for all the encouraging words. Think Friday and yesterday were my worst days yet. Everything just got on top of me and frazzled my brain ha ha !!!!!
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I see what you are all saying. It will give Darran chance to settle into his new job. I've already told him he has got plenty to do when he is out there. Find a nice place to live with good schools, shops, doctor's, dentist's, Vet's etc. Suppose this is all easier without our 4 year old in tow. Will be better to get there and things be organised to some extent for our arrival. Cheers for all the encouraging words. Think Friday and yesterday were my worst days yet. Everything just got on top of me and frazzled my brain ha ha !!!!!
I am sure you will be fine.......not sure I could have trusted my husband to find us somewhere to live though lol.
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I am sure you will be fine.......not sure I could have trusted my husband to find us somewhere to live though lol.
Don't worry he isn't making any decisions like that ha ha! He's just looking. The company are providing accommodation for the first six weeks so he's got somewhere to live. Just want him to tour the suburbs and choose a few favorites so it makes it easier when we arrive.
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Don't worry he isn't making any decisions like that ha ha! He's just looking. The company are providing accommodation for the first six weeks so he's got somewhere to live. Just want him to tour the suburbs and choose a few favorites so it makes it easier when we arrive.
Much better to let him do the legwork on his own! Just come on BE if you're struggling with it. Lots of shoulders, tea and hugs on here.
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I am sure you will be fine.......not sure I could have trusted my husband to find us somewhere to live though lol.
I am quite lucky really as my husband chose every house I have ever lived in without me seeing it.
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