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Extroverts and Introverts
Not sure how this thead will go, as he introverts might not be brave enough to reply...LOL
I think its pretty obvious which category i fall into, but what are you? Do introverts secretly wish to be extroverts and vice versa?... i know i sometimes wish i could just blend into the background and not be noticed, but it never seems to happen, and i just cant help myself. Any advice on becoming an introvert would be greatly appreciated |
Re: Extroverts and Introverts
Originally posted by podgypossum Not sure how this thead will go, as he introverts might not be brave enough to reply...LOL I think its pretty obvious which category i fall into, but what are you? Do introverts secretly wish to be extroverts and vice versa?... i know i sometimes wish i could just blend into the background and not be noticed, but it never seems to happen, and i just cant help myself. Any advice on becoming an introvert would be greatly appreciated Hi, I'm an iddy biddy introvert :) and like it that way. For one, it means I don't have to jump into a cut-and-thrust thread with my big opinions (no matter how better they are than the others) and then get trashed! I ... just keep ... very quiet/reserved/shy ... and ignored. :( :zzz: You CAN do it too! Just reply to threads with "Hi ... bye!" :D Glenda (Who really must get her head examined in her meds) |
But i cant help it Glenda... just as you prefer not to i cant help but do it...LOL
And saying that, if we all kept quiet and never said much, this site would die!! :( |
but when they die loads more step in...........
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Originally posted by podgypossum But i cant help it Glenda... just as you prefer not to i cant help but do it...LOL And saying that, if we all kept quiet and never said much, this site would die!! :( Be who you are PP..the world is a much better place for people who say what they think..I know which category I'd rather be in!;) |
oh..i nearly forgot
Hi.... Bye :) |
I know what you mean Max, but, my husband is an extreme introvert and sometimes...just sometimes, i wish i could just sit quietly and be entertained instead of being the entertainer.
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Originally posted by podgypossum oh..i nearly forgot Hi.... Bye :) Hmmm - doesn't quite have the same ring does it? |
Don't become an introvert if you are naturally an extrovert.
You'll end up becoming schizo..... Be what you are podgy possum and just love it !!!! Be loud and be proud!!!! lol booboo ;) |
Wont matter if i become schitzo as hubby is a psych nurse.. :D
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I just wanted to get some introverts views on extroverts...i had a suspicion that they dont trust us etc...but i guess because of their very nature i wont get a discussion
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I think I'm an extrovert......most of the time.....but my other half would prob disagree and say I'm just a gobby cow!! :D :rolleyes:
Note to self: stick finger in blokes eye next time he accuses me of being the slightest bit gobby...:D :D |
You are prob right podgy posum. they are all to shy and quiet to reply
lol booboo:D |
Here is a question for you podgy possum..
do you think introverts find extroverts " aggressive" and a little bit scarey booboo |
Originally posted by podgypossum I just wanted to get some introverts views on extroverts...i had a suspicion that they dont trust us etc...but i guess because of their very nature i wont get a discussion Absolutely correct PP. Bye Glenda ;) |
Originally posted by booboo Here is a question for you podgy possum.. do you think introverts find extroverts " aggressive" and a little bit scarey booboo Judging by the reply above, i'd say yes!! what are you scared of Glenda? |
Originally posted by podgypossum I just wanted to get some introverts views on extroverts...i had a suspicion that they dont trust us etc...but i guess because of their very nature i wont get a discussion |
Originally posted by DagBoy I wouldn't worry to much about us introverts, we don't.......you know,.... think any different of you, ... it's just that we never get the chance to......you know... ...oh...never mind, it wasn't important. LMAO... i guess that was an aspertion on your wifes personality.... my husband says he relates to you well ;) |
Originally posted by podgypossum LMAO... i guess that was an aspertion on your wifes personality.... my husband says he relates to you well ;) Me ..... Im just the shy retiring type ;) . |
are you trying to convince me you are an introvert Sue?... sorry... no go!! ;)
But the thread is baring out my theories already over 116 views yet only a handful of replies |
Re: Extroverts and Introverts
Originally posted by podgypossum Not sure how this thead will go, as he introverts might not be brave enough to reply...LOL I think its pretty obvious which category i fall into, but what are you? Do introverts secretly wish to be extroverts and vice versa?... i know i sometimes wish i could just blend into the background and not be noticed, but it never seems to happen, and i just cant help myself. Any advice on becoming an introvert would be greatly appreciated Another interesting related question: how does being an into/extro affect relationships? For instance, if both are introverts, do they end up leading a sad, boring life (2 gay friends of mine split up for just this reason, sadly)? Do 2 extros get competitive & fight like cats to get attention from others? Is the perfect partnership an intro & an extro? (oh, and a nice a**e helps too:) ) Anya. |
At last!!..someone who really wants to debate!!
I think you are spot on Anya... my first husband was also an extrovert and our life was a nightmare. As i said, my second husband is a real introvert but its one of the things i really love about him. He also says that me being an extrovert brings a bright spark into his life. He says he wishes he could be like me sometimes and i often want to be like him..perfect match i guess. |
Originally posted by podgypossum are you trying to convince me you are an introvert Sue?... sorry... no go!! ;) Dagboy & I are are both mostly extroverts, we get on perfectly together & very rarely fight. We certainly dont fight over attention, we just give it to each other :) Funny, in some ways we are both actually quite introverted too, we compliment each other perfectly :) |
Originally posted by podgypossum At last!!..someone who really wants to debate!! I think you are spot on Anya... my first husband was also an extrovert and our life was a nightmare. As i said, my second husband is a real introvert but its one of the things i really love about him. He also says that me being an extrovert brings a bright spark into his life. He says he wishes he could be like me sometimes and i often want to be like him..perfect match i guess. So inconclusive, & I'd be inclined to go for the cute a**e theory myself :) Actually, I think the diiference is that Mr Anya #1 hated my being an extrovert, whereas Mr Anya #2 postively encourages me. (Oh dear, I sound like that woman in 'Under Milk Wood' with all the husbands. If I don't watch it, we'll get WBB on here, quoting the bits about Polly Garter & her 'body like a wardrobe' :) ) Anya. PS: PP, shouldn't you be in bed?!!! |
I once read a book called "Why Should Extroverts Make All the Money" which reckoned the world sucks because extroverts make all the decisions without thinking them through or asking the introverts who were actually thinking about them.
The helpful suggestion to ambitious introverts was to be more extrovert. (The fact I read the book should give you a clue as to my leaning :) ) |
Originally posted by CHnJ I once read a book called "Why Should Extroverts Make All the Money" which reckoned the world sucks because extroverts make all the decisions without thinking them through or asking the introverts who were actually thinking about them. The helpful suggestion to ambitious introverts was to be more extrovert. (The fact I read the book should give you a clue as to my leaning :) ) |
I'm a mostly an introvert.... though I have extroverted tendencies now and again!
But being an introvert doesn't necessarily mean being shy and unconfident - the two things need to be separated out. I think introversion is more about thinking inwardly (eg finding the answer to a question yourself, instead of turning to someone else and asking them - just one example) Because the world is (supposedly) 75% extrovert, most things are designed for extroverts by extroverts - so probably more introverts are shy and unconfident because society measures confidence by extroverted guidelines.... eg in many workplaces and television extroversion is rewarded. ever see a truly introverted person on Big Brother? No the very nature of TV means extroverts are attracted to appearing on it - so introverts have relatively few successful role models. though plenty of introverts are hugely successful, you're likely to hear less about/from them..... I think introverts just wonder why extroverts are always yabbering so much and why they can't just be quiet and let us think for a few minutes! |
Oppps..sorry Mrs DB i thought your name was Sue!!....see..i done it again.. "trashed" myself.. ;)
CHnJ.. Your point is one i have thought about. Do introverts hate extroverts because they will outwardly voice what they are thinking inside, and therefore take the credit?? I think those introverts who mistrust extroverts should take another look... are they not being more honest by revealing themsleves more to those around them? ooooooh...bit deep huh? Yes i should be in bed, but i am soooo excited about something in my life tonite that i cannot contemplate bed, so i appologise... i'll be here to irritate a bit longer ;) |
Originally posted by podgypossum ... Yes i should be in bed, but i am soooo excited about something in my life tonite that i cannot contemplate bed, so i appologise... i'll be here to irritate a bit longer ;) Russell Crowe coming to stay for the w/e, in his Gladiator outfit (now there's an extrovert to reckon with!)? PP has found that smoking lemons is better than dope? PP has hotline to #10, & it's true, Tony B is resigning? PP's local shoe shop is selling Jimmy Choos @ 90% discount? wow..... Anya. |
Originally posted by jandjuk I'm a mostly an introvert.... though I have extroverted tendencies now and again! But being an introvert doesn't necessarily mean being shy and unconfident - the two things need to be separated out. I think introversion is more about thinking inwardly (eg finding the answer to a question yourself, instead of turning to someone else and asking them - just one example) Because the world is (supposedly) 75% extrovert, most things are designed for extroverts by extroverts - so probably more introverts are shy and unconfident because society measures confidence by extroverted guidelines.... eg in many workplaces and television extroversion is rewarded. ever see a truly introverted person on Big Brother? No the very nature of TV means extroverts are attracted to appearing on it - so introverts have relatively few successful role models. though plenty of introverts are hugely successful, you're likely to hear less about/from them..... I think introverts just wonder why extroverts are always yabbering so much and why they can't just be quiet and let us think for a few minutes! You put a very interesting slant on the subject J... i think one of the problems is that whilst they may want us to stop yabbering etc, how on earth do we get anywhere if we dont outwardly communicate? Example... i like to ask others for help not just for my own benefit but to make others feel good about themselves by being able to help me.... a sort of social interaction thing... intoverts could very well misconstrue that as something more sinister, but it isn't. |
Originally posted by anya4oz Intriguing! What, we ask, could this exciting thing be? Russell Crowe coming to stay for the w/e, in his Gladiator outfit (now there's an extrovert to reckon with!)? PP has found that smoking lemons is better than dope? PP has hotline to #10, & it's true, Tony B is resigning? PP's local shoe shop is selling Jimmy Choos @ 90% discount? wow..... Anya. LOL..nothing that exciting Anya... My daughter came online earlier to tell me she has tracked down a very old family friend that i have been searching for a long long time... i scoured Sydney for ages but got nowhere, so i am very excited about it...she means a lot to me and is well into her 80s now and i wanted to get to see her before its too late to thank her for all she did for me as a child |
Originally posted by podgypossum LOL..nothing that exciting Anya... My daughter came online earlier to tell me she has tracked down a very old family friend that i have been searching for a long long time... i scoured Sydney for ages but got nowhere, so i am very excited about it...she means a lot to me and is well into her 80s now and i wanted to get to see her before its too late to thank her for all she did for me as a child We managed to track down Mr Anya's long-lost Aunt last week (she's in Melbourne, where we're going) , emailed her & it turns out she has *no* wish to meet us or correspond with us - had a rather rude message back. Yikes! Mr Anya's Mom is VERY upset.... :( Anya. |
Originally posted by podgypossum Oppps..sorry Mrs DB i thought your name was Sue!!....see..i done it again.. "trashed" myself.. ;) CHnJ.. Your point is one i have thought about. Do introverts hate extroverts because they will outwardly voice what they are thinking inside, and therefore take the credit?? I think those introverts who mistrust extroverts should take another look... are they not being more honest by revealing themsleves more to those around them? ooooooh...bit deep huh? |
Originally posted by podgypossum You put a very interesting slant on the subject J... i think one of the problems is that whilst they may want us to stop yabbering etc, how on earth do we get anywhere if we dont outwardly communicate? Example... i like to ask others for help not just for my own benefit but to make others feel good about themselves by being able to help me.... a sort of social interaction thing... intoverts could very well misconstrue that as something more sinister, but it isn't. ahhh but you see that's an extroverted viewpoint. an introvert still communicates but just takes longer to think about what they're going to say - to an extrovert that seems as if they're being unresponsive, but to an introvert they have to do that to formulate their thoughts. I wouldn't get too bogged down in these examples, but another one: say an extrovert as idea - often they would tell as many people as possible and bounce ideas around and get feedback etc etc - outward communication is how they think. an introvert would probably go away with the idea, analyse it, formulate it, mull on it some more, break it down and anaylse some more, and then tell someone about it. that's how introverts tend to think... (my understanding of it anyway..) I don't know if introverts mistrust extroverts - some probably do - but it's more that introverts by and large can't understand the way extroverts are and vice versa.... |
Originally posted by CHnJ It's not so much about someone else taking credit for ideas as a perception that the need to be heard and think out loud doesn't lend itself to considered decisions. This is especially true if the extrovert is someone that others respect and listen to. What some introverts never get is that sitting thinking doesn't always get a better answer, and it's much harder to "grease the wheels" and bring people over to your point of view if all the "complexities" of what you're thinking about don't get heard by others - they just hear your thought or proposal in isolation. |
Originally posted by jandjuk ahhh but you see that's an extroverted viewpoint. an introvert still communicates but just takes longer to think about what they're going to say - to an extrovert that seems as if they're being unresponsive, but to an introvert they have to do that to formulate their thoughts. I wouldn't get too bogged down in these examples, but another one: say an extrovert as idea - often they would tell as many people as possible and bounce ideas around and get feedback etc etc - outward communication is how they think. an introvert would probably go away with the idea, analyse it, formulate it, mull on it some more, break it down and anaylse some more, and then tell someone about it. that's how introverts tend to think... (my understanding of it anyway..) I don't know if introverts mistrust extroverts - some probably do - but it's more that introverts by and large can't understand the way extroverts are and vice versa.... Brilliant analysis..........with my work I am extrovert, in life I play extrovert, truely I am introvert totally I am possibly up my own a$%^ But I really enjoyed and related to your reponse Cheers I even edited my own posting cause I was worried about spelling! |
So are you saying Sandra that you take on an extrovert exterior in public, but feel naturally introvert?
Maybe we need to get some definitions of what people perceive is extrovert and introvert. I often feel the need to withdraw and be on my own, but i still dont see that as predominantly introvert. |
Introvert bashing !
Good grief!
Has some 'introvert' on this forum said they distrust 'extroverts'? Where did the idea come that introverts don't like extroverts? Is this just a generally feeling amongst extroverts? I thought this thread was (perhaps) a light-hearted deviation from some of the testosterone-fuelled debates on other threads. Away from the them and us situation. :confused: Those still awake down under should go to bed - I've got more important things to do - the school run. :D :D :D |
janjuk gave the textbook definition of introvert versus extrovert and put it far better than I did. An introvert spends a lot more time inside their head and may or may not be a true good and useful person. The issue is that no-one else gets to see their mental processes.
An extrovert is the opposite, everyone knows what they are thinking and can feed into it or be persuaded or amused by it. They can also be bored or annoyed by it. If we had a world of telepaths, everyone would have equal opportunity. As we don't, extroverts have a distinct edge over introverts. |
In "real life" Im an extrovert - talk non-stop, talk to complete strangers, open my mouth before my brain is in gear can be a bit loud at times especially after a few vinos Im very cheeky according to my friends and family - in a nice way! obviously.
However on expats Im a bit of an introvert as I havent yet got the hang of "speaking" by posting things on the forum. This is the first forum I have ever joined = however I am also on go matilda as well and find it strange to post things and join in the chats - I think cos it happens so slowly in that by the time I have typed a response and about to post it my brain has actually got into gear and decided its better if I dont respond!! I prefer being an extrovert to being an introvert as I get to say things I shouldnt cos Im not sensible - my mottos in life are "see it, like it, buy it" or "if you dont ask you dont get" and "life's to short" - please note how all apply to shopping!! and my other favourite is "glass is half full - its about time you topped it up" :D |
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