The dream is over...
Jul 5th 2006, 3:01 pm
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The dream is over...
This will be my last post no doubt...
After getting married in Sydney 2002, the other half and I fell in love with the Aussie way of life, weather etc. etc. and decided (and agreed) that we wanted to make new lives down under. So....... I spent 3 gruelling years qualifying as an Accountant and a further year + clocking up some relevant and meaningful work experience. After all this and:-
Significant financial outlay;
Preparing friends and family;
Applying for and getting a Permanent Residents Visa (MODL);
More research than you can shake a stick at;
Doing the house up and putting it on the market;
Accepting an offer on the house.
During our rekkie trip to Melbourne my hubby tells me he doesn't want to emigrate now as he thinks it's too big a 'risk' to take.
I am devastated, crushed and bewildered but we always said that if one of us changed our minds we wouldn't go, so we are NOT going.
Just a word of warning to all you couples out there. Make sure it's what you BOTH want at every point of the process. People's lives change during the application process and so do people's minds.
After getting married in Sydney 2002, the other half and I fell in love with the Aussie way of life, weather etc. etc. and decided (and agreed) that we wanted to make new lives down under. So....... I spent 3 gruelling years qualifying as an Accountant and a further year + clocking up some relevant and meaningful work experience. After all this and:-
Significant financial outlay;
Preparing friends and family;
Applying for and getting a Permanent Residents Visa (MODL);
More research than you can shake a stick at;
Doing the house up and putting it on the market;
Accepting an offer on the house.
During our rekkie trip to Melbourne my hubby tells me he doesn't want to emigrate now as he thinks it's too big a 'risk' to take.
I am devastated, crushed and bewildered but we always said that if one of us changed our minds we wouldn't go, so we are NOT going.
Just a word of warning to all you couples out there. Make sure it's what you BOTH want at every point of the process. People's lives change during the application process and so do people's minds.
Jul 5th 2006, 3:30 pm
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Re: The dream is over...
Originally Posted by LouiseG
This will be my last post no doubt...
After getting married in Sydney 2002, the other half and I fell in love with the Aussie way of life, weather etc. etc. and decided (and agreed) that we wanted to make new lives down under. So....... I spent 3 gruelling years qualifying as an Accountant and a further year + clocking up some relevant and meaningful work experience. After all this and:-
Significant financial outlay;
Preparing friends and family;
Applying for and getting a Permanent Residents Visa (MODL);
More research than you can shake a stick at;
Doing the house up and putting it on the market;
Accepting an offer on the house.
During our rekkie trip to Melbourne my hubby tells me he doesn't want to emigrate now as he thinks it's too big a 'risk' to take.
I am devastated, crushed and bewildered but we always said that if one of us changed our minds we wouldn't go, so we are NOT going.
Just a word of warning to all you couples out there. Make sure it's what you BOTH want at every point of the process. People's lives change during the application process and so do people's minds.
After getting married in Sydney 2002, the other half and I fell in love with the Aussie way of life, weather etc. etc. and decided (and agreed) that we wanted to make new lives down under. So....... I spent 3 gruelling years qualifying as an Accountant and a further year + clocking up some relevant and meaningful work experience. After all this and:-
Significant financial outlay;
Preparing friends and family;
Applying for and getting a Permanent Residents Visa (MODL);
More research than you can shake a stick at;
Doing the house up and putting it on the market;
Accepting an offer on the house.
During our rekkie trip to Melbourne my hubby tells me he doesn't want to emigrate now as he thinks it's too big a 'risk' to take.
I am devastated, crushed and bewildered but we always said that if one of us changed our minds we wouldn't go, so we are NOT going.
Just a word of warning to all you couples out there. Make sure it's what you BOTH want at every point of the process. People's lives change during the application process and so do people's minds.
and in the mean time you have each other.
Relationships are more important than a dream.
Best of luck
Dave
Jul 5th 2006, 3:35 pm
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Re: The dream is over...
Originally Posted by LouiseG
This will be my last post no doubt...
After getting married in Sydney 2002, the other half and I fell in love with the Aussie way of life, weather etc. etc. and decided (and agreed) that we wanted to make new lives down under. So....... I spent 3 gruelling years qualifying as an Accountant and a further year + clocking up some relevant and meaningful work experience. After all this and:-
Significant financial outlay;
Preparing friends and family;
Applying for and getting a Permanent Residents Visa (MODL);
More research than you can shake a stick at;
Doing the house up and putting it on the market;
Accepting an offer on the house.
During our rekkie trip to Melbourne my hubby tells me he doesn't want to emigrate now as he thinks it's too big a 'risk' to take.
I am devastated, crushed and bewildered but we always said that if one of us changed our minds we wouldn't go, so we are NOT going.
Just a word of warning to all you couples out there. Make sure it's what you BOTH want at every point of the process. People's lives change during the application process and so do people's minds.
After getting married in Sydney 2002, the other half and I fell in love with the Aussie way of life, weather etc. etc. and decided (and agreed) that we wanted to make new lives down under. So....... I spent 3 gruelling years qualifying as an Accountant and a further year + clocking up some relevant and meaningful work experience. After all this and:-
Significant financial outlay;
Preparing friends and family;
Applying for and getting a Permanent Residents Visa (MODL);
More research than you can shake a stick at;
Doing the house up and putting it on the market;
Accepting an offer on the house.
During our rekkie trip to Melbourne my hubby tells me he doesn't want to emigrate now as he thinks it's too big a 'risk' to take.
I am devastated, crushed and bewildered but we always said that if one of us changed our minds we wouldn't go, so we are NOT going.
Just a word of warning to all you couples out there. Make sure it's what you BOTH want at every point of the process. People's lives change during the application process and so do people's minds.
Good luck, I really hope this works out for you.
Nico
Jul 5th 2006, 4:04 pm
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Re: The dream is over...
Originally Posted by LouiseG
This will be my last post no doubt...
After getting married in Sydney 2002, the other half and I fell in love with the Aussie way of life, weather etc. etc. and decided (and agreed) that we wanted to make new lives down under. So....... I spent 3 gruelling years qualifying as an Accountant and a further year + clocking up some relevant and meaningful work experience. After all this and:-
Significant financial outlay;
Preparing friends and family;
Applying for and getting a Permanent Residents Visa (MODL);
More research than you can shake a stick at;
Doing the house up and putting it on the market;
Accepting an offer on the house.
During our rekkie trip to Melbourne my hubby tells me he doesn't want to emigrate now as he thinks it's too big a 'risk' to take.
I am devastated, crushed and bewildered but we always said that if one of us changed our minds we wouldn't go, so we are NOT going.
Just a word of warning to all you couples out there. Make sure it's what you BOTH want at every point of the process. People's lives change during the application process and so do people's minds.
After getting married in Sydney 2002, the other half and I fell in love with the Aussie way of life, weather etc. etc. and decided (and agreed) that we wanted to make new lives down under. So....... I spent 3 gruelling years qualifying as an Accountant and a further year + clocking up some relevant and meaningful work experience. After all this and:-
Significant financial outlay;
Preparing friends and family;
Applying for and getting a Permanent Residents Visa (MODL);
More research than you can shake a stick at;
Doing the house up and putting it on the market;
Accepting an offer on the house.
During our rekkie trip to Melbourne my hubby tells me he doesn't want to emigrate now as he thinks it's too big a 'risk' to take.
I am devastated, crushed and bewildered but we always said that if one of us changed our minds we wouldn't go, so we are NOT going.
Just a word of warning to all you couples out there. Make sure it's what you BOTH want at every point of the process. People's lives change during the application process and so do people's minds.
Jul 5th 2006, 4:20 pm
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Re: The dream is over...
Originally Posted by LouiseG
This will be my last post no doubt...
After getting married in Sydney 2002, the other half and I fell in love with the Aussie way of life, weather etc. etc. and decided (and agreed) that we wanted to make new lives down under. So....... I spent 3 gruelling years qualifying as an Accountant and a further year + clocking up some relevant and meaningful work experience. After all this and:-
Significant financial outlay;
Preparing friends and family;
Applying for and getting a Permanent Residents Visa (MODL);
More research than you can shake a stick at;
Doing the house up and putting it on the market;
Accepting an offer on the house.
During our rekkie trip to Melbourne my hubby tells me he doesn't want to emigrate now as he thinks it's too big a 'risk' to take.
I am devastated, crushed and bewildered but we always said that if one of us changed our minds we wouldn't go, so we are NOT going.
Just a word of warning to all you couples out there. Make sure it's what you BOTH want at every point of the process. People's lives change during the application process and so do people's minds.
After getting married in Sydney 2002, the other half and I fell in love with the Aussie way of life, weather etc. etc. and decided (and agreed) that we wanted to make new lives down under. So....... I spent 3 gruelling years qualifying as an Accountant and a further year + clocking up some relevant and meaningful work experience. After all this and:-
Significant financial outlay;
Preparing friends and family;
Applying for and getting a Permanent Residents Visa (MODL);
More research than you can shake a stick at;
Doing the house up and putting it on the market;
Accepting an offer on the house.
During our rekkie trip to Melbourne my hubby tells me he doesn't want to emigrate now as he thinks it's too big a 'risk' to take.
I am devastated, crushed and bewildered but we always said that if one of us changed our minds we wouldn't go, so we are NOT going.
Just a word of warning to all you couples out there. Make sure it's what you BOTH want at every point of the process. People's lives change during the application process and so do people's minds.
Jul 5th 2006, 5:06 pm
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Re: The dream is over...
Thanks for your kind words all.
We have validated but he won't change his mind - who know's what will happen.
We have validated but he won't change his mind - who know's what will happen.
Jul 5th 2006, 7:05 pm
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Re: The dream is over...
On Wed, 05 Jul 2006 15:01:20 +0000, LouiseG
<member25036@british_expats.com> wrote:
>This will be my last post no doubt...
>After getting married in Sydney 2002, the other half and I fell in love
>with the Aussie way of life, weather etc. etc. and decided (and agreed)
>that we wanted to make new lives down under. So....... I spent 3
>gruelling years qualifying as an Accountant and a further year +
>clocking up some relevant and meaningful work experience. After all
>this and:-
>Significant financial outlay;
>Preparing friends and family;
>Applying for and getting a Permanent Residents Visa (MODL);
>More research than you can shake a stick at;
>Doing the house up and putting it on the market;
>Accepting an offer on the house.
>During our rekkie trip to Melbourne my hubby tells me he doesn't want to
>emigrate now as he thinks it's too big a 'risk' to take.
My immediate thought is: if you get pregnant, is he then going to say
he does not want the child because it's too big a risk to take
[bringing one up]?
>I am devastated, crushed and bewildered but we always said that if one
>of us changed our minds we wouldn't go, so we are NOT going.
>Just a word of warning to all you couples out there. Make sure it's
>what you BOTH want at every point of the process. People's lives change
>during the application process and so do people's minds.
Kick him to the curb and go for it girl!
Make a new life for yourself.
If you don't follow your dream which you have worked so bloody hard at
doing, you will only live to regret it later in life.
Cath
<member25036@british_expats.com> wrote:
>This will be my last post no doubt...
>After getting married in Sydney 2002, the other half and I fell in love
>with the Aussie way of life, weather etc. etc. and decided (and agreed)
>that we wanted to make new lives down under. So....... I spent 3
>gruelling years qualifying as an Accountant and a further year +
>clocking up some relevant and meaningful work experience. After all
>this and:-
>Significant financial outlay;
>Preparing friends and family;
>Applying for and getting a Permanent Residents Visa (MODL);
>More research than you can shake a stick at;
>Doing the house up and putting it on the market;
>Accepting an offer on the house.
>During our rekkie trip to Melbourne my hubby tells me he doesn't want to
>emigrate now as he thinks it's too big a 'risk' to take.
My immediate thought is: if you get pregnant, is he then going to say
he does not want the child because it's too big a risk to take
[bringing one up]?
>I am devastated, crushed and bewildered but we always said that if one
>of us changed our minds we wouldn't go, so we are NOT going.
>Just a word of warning to all you couples out there. Make sure it's
>what you BOTH want at every point of the process. People's lives change
>during the application process and so do people's minds.
Kick him to the curb and go for it girl!
Make a new life for yourself.
If you don't follow your dream which you have worked so bloody hard at
doing, you will only live to regret it later in life.
Cath
Jul 5th 2006, 7:06 pm
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Re: The dream is over...
LouiseG wrote:
> > gutted for you. my wife and i have the same agreement.....
> Thanks for your kind words all.
> We have validated but he won't change his mind - who know's what
> will happen.
> --
> Posted via http://britishexpats.com
I'm so sorry to hear your news................ I sometimes have the
"are we doing the right thing" feeling but i only have to look at my
children (different boat to yours i know) to know that we are doing the
right thing for them.
I really hope that both of you can work this out and like you say - who
know's what will happen - miracles sometimes do happen!!!!
Mark & Diane
> > gutted for you. my wife and i have the same agreement.....
> Thanks for your kind words all.
> We have validated but he won't change his mind - who know's what
> will happen.
> --
> Posted via http://britishexpats.com
I'm so sorry to hear your news................ I sometimes have the
"are we doing the right thing" feeling but i only have to look at my
children (different boat to yours i know) to know that we are doing the
right thing for them.
I really hope that both of you can work this out and like you say - who
know's what will happen - miracles sometimes do happen!!!!
Mark & Diane
Jul 5th 2006, 7:13 pm
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Re: The dream is over...
I read your post over and over and I cant stop thinking about it and how you must feel now.......
You focused for years with such efforts on that dream to come true and it eventually did. And your husband just says it´s a too big a risk to take........to be honest I am speechless.
What I can see is you took all the risk so far......Why on earth he kept watching you going through all that hassle and didnt say it earlier ?
Can you imagine staying where you are and do you see yourself happy there in a few years ahead?
All the best to you!
You focused for years with such efforts on that dream to come true and it eventually did. And your husband just says it´s a too big a risk to take........to be honest I am speechless.
What I can see is you took all the risk so far......Why on earth he kept watching you going through all that hassle and didnt say it earlier ?
Can you imagine staying where you are and do you see yourself happy there in a few years ahead?
All the best to you!
Jul 5th 2006, 7:23 pm
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Re: The dream is over...
Originally Posted by greentreefrog
I read your post over and over and I cant stop thinking about it and how you must feel now.......
You focused for years with such efforts on that dream to come true and it eventually did. And your husband just says it´s a too big a risk to take........to be honest I am speechless.
What I can see is you took all the risk so far......Why on earth he kept watching you going through all that hassle and didnt say it earlier ?
Can you imagine staying where you are and do you see yourself happy there in a few years ahead?
All the best to you!
You focused for years with such efforts on that dream to come true and it eventually did. And your husband just says it´s a too big a risk to take........to be honest I am speechless.
What I can see is you took all the risk so far......Why on earth he kept watching you going through all that hassle and didnt say it earlier ?
Can you imagine staying where you are and do you see yourself happy there in a few years ahead?
All the best to you!
I wonder at what point he changed his mind?
I also wonder how he will be able to expect things to go back to normal after such a rollercoaster ride of emotions and see his wifes face every day, knowing it was his decision to end her dream.
No disrespect to your husband at all, but I do find his decision rather cruel to you. Even just going for a couple of years to test the waters would have been a halfway compromise.
Good luck in whatever you do and don't give up. Situations in life have a way of making us change our mind about things.
Jul 5th 2006, 7:23 pm
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Re: The dream is over...
Originally Posted by LouiseG
Thanks for your kind words all.
We have validated but he won't change his mind - who know's what will happen.
We have validated but he won't change his mind - who know's what will happen.
Good luck Louise x
Jul 5th 2006, 8:07 pm
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Re: The dream is over...
Originally Posted by Issie
Que Serra !!!
Good luck Louise x
Good luck Louise x
Would he consider another part of Australia ?
Don't give up on him it may only be cold feet and panic
Sunshine23
Jul 5th 2006, 8:37 pm
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Re: The dream is over...
Originally Posted by LouiseG
This will be my last post no doubt...
After getting married in Sydney 2002, the other half and I fell in love with the Aussie way of life, weather etc. etc. and decided (and agreed) that we wanted to make new lives down under. So....... I spent 3 gruelling years qualifying as an Accountant and a further year + clocking up some relevant and meaningful work experience. After all this and:-
Significant financial outlay;
Preparing friends and family;
Applying for and getting a Permanent Residents Visa (MODL);
More research than you can shake a stick at;
Doing the house up and putting it on the market;
Accepting an offer on the house.
During our rekkie trip to Melbourne my hubby tells me he doesn't want to emigrate now as he thinks it's too big a 'risk' to take.
I am devastated, crushed and bewildered but we always said that if one of us changed our minds we wouldn't go, so we are NOT going.
Just a word of warning to all you couples out there. Make sure it's what you BOTH want at every point of the process. People's lives change during the application process and so do people's minds.
After getting married in Sydney 2002, the other half and I fell in love with the Aussie way of life, weather etc. etc. and decided (and agreed) that we wanted to make new lives down under. So....... I spent 3 gruelling years qualifying as an Accountant and a further year + clocking up some relevant and meaningful work experience. After all this and:-
Significant financial outlay;
Preparing friends and family;
Applying for and getting a Permanent Residents Visa (MODL);
More research than you can shake a stick at;
Doing the house up and putting it on the market;
Accepting an offer on the house.
During our rekkie trip to Melbourne my hubby tells me he doesn't want to emigrate now as he thinks it's too big a 'risk' to take.
I am devastated, crushed and bewildered but we always said that if one of us changed our minds we wouldn't go, so we are NOT going.
Just a word of warning to all you couples out there. Make sure it's what you BOTH want at every point of the process. People's lives change during the application process and so do people's minds.
Visa sorted
House sale sorted
Work sorted (being an accountant)
Jul 5th 2006, 8:45 pm
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Re: The dream is over...
Hi Louise
Im gutted for ya
. After all the hard work and effort you've put in its a shame that your hubbie wont at least give it a go. Dont give up on your dream. Anything could happen in the next few years.
All the best, whatever you decide to do.
Joex
Im gutted for ya
. After all the hard work and effort you've put in its a shame that your hubbie wont at least give it a go. Dont give up on your dream. Anything could happen in the next few years.All the best, whatever you decide to do.
Joex
Jul 5th 2006, 8:46 pm
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Re: The dream is over...
I don't get it...where's the risk? You go, you like it, you stay, or, you go, you don't like it, you go back.
Is he worried about his career? His family/friends?
Maybe I'm not very sympathetic but I just don't get it.
Is he worried about his career? His family/friends?
Maybe I'm not very sympathetic but I just don't get it.