Cost of nannies/maids
#61
Re: Cost of nannies/maids
Originally Posted by ACE
I have to agree with you, I have used an ironing lady for the pat 5 years and I don't see anything wrong with that. During that time I have done an Access course, a full time BSc hons degree in Computing, a Post Graduate Cert. Ed., had a baby and taken care of said babe, my 9 year old, my husband and my home. I feel proud of my achievements despite the fact that i have paid for domestic help. If it was affordable I would have employed a cleaner as well doesn't make me less of a good wife/mum though.
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Re: Cost of nannies/maids
Originally Posted by alexleeson
My wife actually has this ideal image of being an old fashioned housewife - but I just know she will be shocked with the reality of it, especially looking after our newest addition. She just hasn't experienced it.
We do live very simple lives - i.e., we are not into materialistic consumerism.. and I am thinking the only luxury would be some help for my wife in cleaning/laundry - so all she has to worry about is cooking and looking after the kids..
As for the 90k - it will be with nice allowances so it will be about 6k net a month - which I know is very comfortable. Buying a home will be after a year... when we decide to go for PR or not....
We do live very simple lives - i.e., we are not into materialistic consumerism.. and I am thinking the only luxury would be some help for my wife in cleaning/laundry - so all she has to worry about is cooking and looking after the kids..
As for the 90k - it will be with nice allowances so it will be about 6k net a month - which I know is very comfortable. Buying a home will be after a year... when we decide to go for PR or not....
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Re: Cost of nannies/maids
I grew up in South Africa where just about every household has a domestic maid. It was a HUGE culture shock to come here and start doing my own cleaning (we always cooked our own meals, but most of my friends didn't). However, 8 years on, and when I go back to South Africa, I don't like the maids cleaning for me. I actually prefer to do it myself. When it is your own house, you take more pride in it. There is a sense of satisfaction gained when you do it yourself. I love the fact that I do my own house - I do feel like a 'proper' wife and mum. I also have appreciation for what the maids do back in SA. I don't necessarily like the housework (who does) and I would like someone to do the ironing - that is one job that never gets done because I hate it - but I do feel like I am achieving something when I have done it.
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Re: Cost of nannies/maids
Originally Posted by coxfamuk
I grew up in South Africa where just about every household has a domestic maid. It was a HUGE culture shock to come here and start doing my own cleaning (we always cooked our own meals, but most of my friends didn't). However, 8 years on, and when I go back to South Africa, I don't like the maids cleaning for me. I actually prefer to do it myself. When it is your own house, you take more pride in it. There is a sense of satisfaction gained when you do it yourself. I love the fact that I do my own house - I do feel like a 'proper' wife and mum. I also have appreciation for what the maids do back in SA. I don't necessarily like the housework (who does) and I would like someone to do the ironing - that is one job that never gets done because I hate it - but I do feel like I am achieving something when I have done it.
I also grew up in South Africa and struggled when we moved to the UK. I had to do my own housework!!!!! But you do learn to take care of your house yourself and take some pride in it. Tho, having said that, with 6 children, we are now getting a part-time cleaner - My children and husband deserve my time more than the house does
I dont think the original poster asked anything offensive - it was a genuine question IMO and the moral backlash wasnt necessary. Different cultures and countries refer to things differently.
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Re: Cost of nannies/maids
Originally Posted by pitchell
I also grew up in South Africa and struggled when we moved to the UK. I had to do my own housework!!!!! But you do learn to take care of your house yourself and take some pride in it. Tho, having said that, with 6 children, we are now getting a part-time cleaner - My children and husband deserve my time more than the house does
I dont think the original poster asked anything offensive - it was a genuine question IMO and the moral backlash wasnt necessary. Different cultures and countries refer to things differently.
I dont think the original poster asked anything offensive - it was a genuine question IMO and the moral backlash wasnt necessary. Different cultures and countries refer to things differently.
It is difficult to make people understand unless you have actually lived in that environment. I have to say, when I first read the OP post, I thought he must be taking the P, but I do know saffas who have brought their maids with them. When you get used to a certain way of life, if you can afford it, sometimes it is difficult to give it up. Believe me, when we first got to the UK, I would have given my right arm to have been able to bring my maid with me. But we couldn't, so we just mucked in and got on with it. I am in favour of a better quality of life though and so would definitely hire a cleaner to help out if we could afford it.
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Re: Cost of nannies/maids
Originally Posted by coxfamuk
I grew up in South Africa where just about every household has a domestic maid. It was a HUGE culture shock to come here and start doing my own cleaning (we always cooked our own meals, but most of my friends didn't). However, 8 years on, and when I go back to South Africa, I don't like the maids cleaning for me. I actually prefer to do it myself. When it is your own house, you take more pride in it. There is a sense of satisfaction gained when you do it yourself. I love the fact that I do my own house - I do feel like a 'proper' wife and mum. I also have appreciation for what the maids do back in SA. I don't necessarily like the housework (who does) and I would like someone to do the ironing - that is one job that never gets done because I hate it - but I do feel like I am achieving something when I have done it.
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Re: Cost of nannies/maids
Originally Posted by Homer
WOW just think how satisfied you would of felt if you had done it all to begin with
#68
Re: Cost of nannies/maids
Originally Posted by Phoenixuk2oz
Agree. Absolutely NOTHING wrong with paying for help. That's not the problem.
It's the terminology the OP used e.g "my wife has never lived without servants " and "maid".....and the fact he wanted to bring his "maid" with him
Sounds derogatory and degrading IMHO
It's the terminology the OP used e.g "my wife has never lived without servants " and "maid".....and the fact he wanted to bring his "maid" with him
Sounds derogatory and degrading IMHO
Slightly off topic here. There are lots of stories of employers mistreating their maids but most employers do treat them with respect. Due to the large number of domestic helpers in HK and people's increasing awareness of how to treat them right, whenever there is an abuse you will hear about it. It's not because the number of abuses is increasing but just because there are more and more foreign domestic helpers. Last I heard there are over 200,000 foreign domestic helpers in HK and more than half of them from the Philippines.
Personally I would give Alex the benefit of the doubt as I don't know him or his wife or their background. They can be just a bit naive, that's all.
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Re: Cost of nannies/maids
Originally Posted by Homer
So you say
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Re: Cost of nannies/maids
Originally Posted by pitchell
I also grew up in South Africa and struggled when we moved to the UK. I had to do my own housework!!!!! But you do learn to take care of your house yourself and take some pride in it. Tho, having said that, with 6 children, we are now getting a part-time cleaner - My children and husband deserve my time more than the house does
I dont think the original poster asked anything offensive - it was a genuine question IMO and the moral backlash wasnt necessary. Different cultures and countries refer to things differently.
I dont think the original poster asked anything offensive - it was a genuine question IMO and the moral backlash wasnt necessary. Different cultures and countries refer to things differently.
I am inspired by their example, because I think the children learn a lot from this way of life and it is really good for their character in the long term.
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Re: Cost of nannies/maids
Originally Posted by coxfamuk
I grew up in South Africa where just about every household has a domestic maid. It was a HUGE culture shock to come here and start doing my own cleaning (we always cooked our own meals, but most of my friends didn't). However, 8 years on, and when I go back to South Africa, I don't like the maids cleaning for me. I actually prefer to do it myself. When it is your own house, you take more pride in it. There is a sense of satisfaction gained when you do it yourself. I love the fact that I do my own house - I do feel like a 'proper' wife and mum. I also have appreciation for what the maids do back in SA. I don't necessarily like the housework (who does) and I would like someone to do the ironing - that is one job that never gets done because I hate it - but I do feel like I am achieving something when I have done it.
What a nightmare! I know realise how bad it was for their character to have somebody cleaning up after them. They struggle to do the smallest tasks - like make your bed, get your school clothes ready for tomorrow, put your sports togs into the washing machine. I feel as though I have been a terrible mother, I have turned them into lazy people. But - determined to turn them into self sufficient young people soon :-)
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I didn't mean to cause a great fuss. I was not taking the p*** and I certainly didn't expect five pages of threads on what to me was a simple question!
Thank you for the comments from the SA people (probably the most beautiful country I have been to!) who have experienced the transition from having help to DIY. I am sure it will be hard at first but she will cope fine in the end. She is far from a spoiled person!
Out of the two of us, I am the one that has experienced keeping house. I looked after my father (who was disabled) for five years after my mum died (all cooking, cleaning, laundry, shopping, dressing, feeding etc). So helping my wife out is not going to be a problem at all. For the first few months however we will get help for cleaning/laundry - and slowly wean off it!
As for everyone else's comments. I am actually seconded in the Philippines. 'Maid' is the normal word to describe 'domestic helper'. It is is just not so politically correct for some of you. I didn't mean to offend!
Contrary to what people may think about having maids, our two maids are as much part of the family as anything else. We certainly don't have a 'victorian attitude' towards domestic staff.
It is actually a nice life for them - they have their own room, tv, cd, bathroom, every sunday off, with money for eating out and are paid way above the local norm for maids, they don't pay for anything, (even medicines/doctors, hygiene products, toiletries etc) and we even pay their airfare to their provinces for christmas. Compare that to the otherwise poverty they would live in! We are indeed helping not only them, but their families too and the economy.
Having a maid is a privelege but it is a responsibility too, which we have always taken seriously.
Thank you for the comments from the SA people (probably the most beautiful country I have been to!) who have experienced the transition from having help to DIY. I am sure it will be hard at first but she will cope fine in the end. She is far from a spoiled person!
Out of the two of us, I am the one that has experienced keeping house. I looked after my father (who was disabled) for five years after my mum died (all cooking, cleaning, laundry, shopping, dressing, feeding etc). So helping my wife out is not going to be a problem at all. For the first few months however we will get help for cleaning/laundry - and slowly wean off it!
As for everyone else's comments. I am actually seconded in the Philippines. 'Maid' is the normal word to describe 'domestic helper'. It is is just not so politically correct for some of you. I didn't mean to offend!
Contrary to what people may think about having maids, our two maids are as much part of the family as anything else. We certainly don't have a 'victorian attitude' towards domestic staff.
It is actually a nice life for them - they have their own room, tv, cd, bathroom, every sunday off, with money for eating out and are paid way above the local norm for maids, they don't pay for anything, (even medicines/doctors, hygiene products, toiletries etc) and we even pay their airfare to their provinces for christmas. Compare that to the otherwise poverty they would live in! We are indeed helping not only them, but their families too and the economy.
Having a maid is a privelege but it is a responsibility too, which we have always taken seriously.
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Re: Cost of nannies/maids
Originally Posted by alexleeson
I didn't mean to cause a great fuss. I was not taking the p*** and I certainly didn't expect five pages of threads on what to me was a simple question!
Thank you for the comments from the SA people (probably the most beautiful country I have been to!) who have experienced the transition from having help to DIY. I am sure it will be hard at first but she will cope fine in the end. She is far from a spoiled person!
Out of the two of us, I am the one that has experienced keeping house. I looked after my father (who was disabled) for five years after my mum died (all cooking, cleaning, laundry, shopping, dressing, feeding etc). So helping my wife out is not going to be a problem at all. For the first few months however we will get help for cleaning/laundry - and slowly wean off it!
As for everyone else's comments. I am actually seconded in the Philippines. 'Maid' is the normal word to describe 'domestic helper'. It is is just not so politically correct for some of you. I didn't mean to offend!
Contrary to what people may think about having maids, our two maids are as much part of the family as anything else. We certainly don't have a 'victorian attitude' towards domestic staff.
It is actually a nice life for them - they have their own room, tv, cd, bathroom, every sunday off, with money for eating out and are paid way above the local norm for maids, they don't pay for anything, (even medicines/doctors, hygiene products, toiletries etc) and we even pay their airfare to their provinces for christmas. Compare that to the otherwise poverty they would live in! We are indeed helping not only them, but their families too and the economy.
Having a maid is a privelege but it is a responsibility too, which we have always taken seriously.
Thank you for the comments from the SA people (probably the most beautiful country I have been to!) who have experienced the transition from having help to DIY. I am sure it will be hard at first but she will cope fine in the end. She is far from a spoiled person!
Out of the two of us, I am the one that has experienced keeping house. I looked after my father (who was disabled) for five years after my mum died (all cooking, cleaning, laundry, shopping, dressing, feeding etc). So helping my wife out is not going to be a problem at all. For the first few months however we will get help for cleaning/laundry - and slowly wean off it!
As for everyone else's comments. I am actually seconded in the Philippines. 'Maid' is the normal word to describe 'domestic helper'. It is is just not so politically correct for some of you. I didn't mean to offend!
Contrary to what people may think about having maids, our two maids are as much part of the family as anything else. We certainly don't have a 'victorian attitude' towards domestic staff.
It is actually a nice life for them - they have their own room, tv, cd, bathroom, every sunday off, with money for eating out and are paid way above the local norm for maids, they don't pay for anything, (even medicines/doctors, hygiene products, toiletries etc) and we even pay their airfare to their provinces for christmas. Compare that to the otherwise poverty they would live in! We are indeed helping not only them, but their families too and the economy.
Having a maid is a privelege but it is a responsibility too, which we have always taken seriously.
I apologise. Seems I got it wrong. You are not a troll.
In that case, you will be able to find home help of all sorts here in Aus. As for the cost of those services I would imagine they vary depending on what you want, where you live etc. As others have said before, it may be prudent for you to check out the internet sites as these may provide some good indication.
Good luck with your search....and your new life in Aus.
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Re: Cost of nannies/maids
Originally Posted by alexleeson
I didn't mean to cause a great fuss. I was not taking the p*** and I certainly didn't expect five pages of threads on what to me was a simple question!
Thank you for the comments from the SA people (probably the most beautiful country I have been to!) who have experienced the transition from having help to DIY. I am sure it will be hard at first but she will cope fine in the end. She is far from a spoiled person!
Out of the two of us, I am the one that has experienced keeping house. I looked after my father (who was disabled) for five years after my mum died (all cooking, cleaning, laundry, shopping, dressing, feeding etc). So helping my wife out is not going to be a problem at all. For the first few months however we will get help for cleaning/laundry - and slowly wean off it!
As for everyone else's comments. I am actually seconded in the Philippines. 'Maid' is the normal word to describe 'domestic helper'. It is is just not so politically correct for some of you. I didn't mean to offend!
Contrary to what people may think about having maids, our two maids are as much part of the family as anything else. We certainly don't have a 'victorian attitude' towards domestic staff.
It is actually a nice life for them - they have their own room, tv, cd, bathroom, every sunday off, with money for eating out and are paid way above the local norm for maids, they don't pay for anything, (even medicines/doctors, hygiene products, toiletries etc) and we even pay their airfare to their provinces for christmas. Compare that to the otherwise poverty they would live in! We are indeed helping not only them, but their families too and the economy.
Having a maid is a privelege but it is a responsibility too, which we have always taken seriously.
Thank you for the comments from the SA people (probably the most beautiful country I have been to!) who have experienced the transition from having help to DIY. I am sure it will be hard at first but she will cope fine in the end. She is far from a spoiled person!
Out of the two of us, I am the one that has experienced keeping house. I looked after my father (who was disabled) for five years after my mum died (all cooking, cleaning, laundry, shopping, dressing, feeding etc). So helping my wife out is not going to be a problem at all. For the first few months however we will get help for cleaning/laundry - and slowly wean off it!
As for everyone else's comments. I am actually seconded in the Philippines. 'Maid' is the normal word to describe 'domestic helper'. It is is just not so politically correct for some of you. I didn't mean to offend!
Contrary to what people may think about having maids, our two maids are as much part of the family as anything else. We certainly don't have a 'victorian attitude' towards domestic staff.
It is actually a nice life for them - they have their own room, tv, cd, bathroom, every sunday off, with money for eating out and are paid way above the local norm for maids, they don't pay for anything, (even medicines/doctors, hygiene products, toiletries etc) and we even pay their airfare to their provinces for christmas. Compare that to the otherwise poverty they would live in! We are indeed helping not only them, but their families too and the economy.
Having a maid is a privelege but it is a responsibility too, which we have always taken seriously.
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Re: Cost of nannies/maids
Originally Posted by alexleeson
I didn't mean to cause a great fuss. I was not taking the p*** and I certainly didn't expect five pages of threads on what to me was a simple question!
Thank you for the comments from the SA people (probably the most beautiful country I have been to!) who have experienced the transition from having help to DIY. I am sure it will be hard at first but she will cope fine in the end. She is far from a spoiled person!
Out of the two of us, I am the one that has experienced keeping house. I looked after my father (who was disabled) for five years after my mum died (all cooking, cleaning, laundry, shopping, dressing, feeding etc). So helping my wife out is not going to be a problem at all. For the first few months however we will get help for cleaning/laundry - and slowly wean off it!
As for everyone else's comments. I am actually seconded in the Philippines. 'Maid' is the normal word to describe 'domestic helper'. It is is just not so politically correct for some of you. I didn't mean to offend!
Contrary to what people may think about having maids, our two maids are as much part of the family as anything else. We certainly don't have a 'victorian attitude' towards domestic staff.
It is actually a nice life for them - they have their own room, tv, cd, bathroom, every sunday off, with money for eating out and are paid way above the local norm for maids, they don't pay for anything, (even medicines/doctors, hygiene products, toiletries etc) and we even pay their airfare to their provinces for christmas. Compare that to the otherwise poverty they would live in! We are indeed helping not only them, but their families too and the economy.
Having a maid is a privelege but it is a responsibility too, which we have always taken seriously.
Thank you for the comments from the SA people (probably the most beautiful country I have been to!) who have experienced the transition from having help to DIY. I am sure it will be hard at first but she will cope fine in the end. She is far from a spoiled person!
Out of the two of us, I am the one that has experienced keeping house. I looked after my father (who was disabled) for five years after my mum died (all cooking, cleaning, laundry, shopping, dressing, feeding etc). So helping my wife out is not going to be a problem at all. For the first few months however we will get help for cleaning/laundry - and slowly wean off it!
As for everyone else's comments. I am actually seconded in the Philippines. 'Maid' is the normal word to describe 'domestic helper'. It is is just not so politically correct for some of you. I didn't mean to offend!
Contrary to what people may think about having maids, our two maids are as much part of the family as anything else. We certainly don't have a 'victorian attitude' towards domestic staff.
It is actually a nice life for them - they have their own room, tv, cd, bathroom, every sunday off, with money for eating out and are paid way above the local norm for maids, they don't pay for anything, (even medicines/doctors, hygiene products, toiletries etc) and we even pay their airfare to their provinces for christmas. Compare that to the otherwise poverty they would live in! We are indeed helping not only them, but their families too and the economy.
Having a maid is a privelege but it is a responsibility too, which we have always taken seriously.
I'm glad I live in a country with minimum wages and workers rights.