No not the programme but me and the missus,
We have our state nomination for Victoria we have TRA acceptance, just need to fill out the visa forms (should be a formaility as we only need the pool mark ).

So can people tell us why we have suddenly decided after the money spent so far and really looking forward to it, that it may be too big a step with 3 young children. The thought of a hot Christmas, without family has really hit home at this time of year.


We have until March to apply for our visa to still get the state nomination should we give it a month and see if our minds change after xmas or what?
Has anyone else had these thoughts so far down the line

i think it is normal to get cold feet, i know we have a few times, but overall we know we are doing the right thing by our kids and ourselves.

I'm sure if I mumble something about a horse it will all become clear!

Doubts are only natural, if you had no doubts I would think you have an overly optimistic view of what it's going to be like. Your mind is moving from the "comfort blanket" of friends etc, to the "cold reality" of it happening

However , I always think , what would I think in ten years if I didn't now go. As they say the sadest words are "what might have been".

Enzo

PS when you said cold feet, was going to reply, "Yes is Bl@@dy cold at the moment"

lol

The smiley ... I must remember the smiley!!!




I've had the cold feet thing recently too. I guess if it fades it's normal and shows you're just thinking things through properly. if the feeling doesn't fade you shouldn't ignore it and hope it will go away.

IMHO any disruption to the kids is likely to be outweighed by the benefits of being in a happy environment that suits you and them better than here.

Cold feet ???? Nah, Get thicker socks

Might as well wear them now as you won't need them on the beach !!! Life's short enough as it is, don't grab this opportunity and no may regret it forever. You can always come back

Stick it in you dont know how your going to feel in a few months time.
If you do you have two choices , if you dont you have no choice.

Everybody gets cold feet , we have three very small children and during the whole process I went from cold feet to Frost bite.
Still have all the toes though and flights booked for Jan 04.

I was out in Sevenoaks on Sunday for a run and as it was a clear blue day, it was very cold, yet the Kent countryside looked beautiful. For a moment as we drove down in our friend's car, I noticed for the first time in ages how great it all looked.

I reflected on the backwardness of Australia, the lack of choice in the supermarkets, the shoddy education, and the mundane suburbs, should I ever be unlucky enough to live in a particularly faceless one, and thought:

"if I am ever in a bad patch in Australia then I will look back on this day as the day I should have realised I should have stayed on the UK.."

on the other hand:

a) it is normally quite mild in our maritime climate, which means we don't get the cold and crisp beautiful winter days, just drizzle and grey skies. That was unusual. Even in summer, the weather is fickle. 2003 - my last - was unusually good of course - made the wait for the visa all the more bearable(!)

b)I'm near 7oaks, and even in the nice villages I would need to be a city financier to buy a terrace.

c) Think of the times in Australia, every day, routinely, when you loved the countryside. One good day in the Uk does not an experience make.

d) for most people in this area of Kent where we live, their idea of a leisure activity is Bluewater...

Think of australians, the humour, the sports, the beaches, the outdoors, the food, think of where you want to bring up your kids..

Think of the people that think of pub lunches in the Uk, nice frosty Dickensian walks,and go back, only to return to Australia again..

Made me realise - I definitely going to Australia, and for me, picture-perfect UK will always be a distant memory.

Badge

I know exactly what you mean......I drove the 30 miles from Burgess Hill to Tunbridge Wells on Sunday morning and it was........ahem.......in best Ozzie.......a real beaut of a day.

The sky was clear, it was freezing cold but the winter country side was just lovely. If it had been covered in snow it would have been the tops.

However...........I tried the same journey on saturday via the M25, which was a mess eastbound, so I had to give up..........spent 2 hours driving round in circles............does Oz have a M25 equivalent...........you know, the sort of road that just encourages accidents to happen...........

cheers

well don't worry, I am sure that most of the people have had a touch of cold feet at sometime or another.

However, I think you should go for it as someone said earlier you might regret it one day in the future. If you dont like it you can always come back, at least you would have tried it.

Good luck with whatever you decide.

Debs

Badge and Obi you had those Rose- Tinted Uk specs on again didn't you?

I think you should wait until after the festivities are over and then re-assess your thoughts, christmas is a thoughtful time for lots of different reasons and maybe not the right time to make a life changing decision,
wishing you all the very best whatever you decide
regards
rach & family

Maybe thinking back to the reasons you decided to apply in the first case may help? Has your situation changed?
We have experienced cold feet many times along the way but now the date is set we feel much more confident in our decision, it may not work out but even then we'll have had an adventure!
Good luck

hi...same here..i think sometimes u kind of subconsciously make yourself think you don't want it so you can't get let down or you just get sick of all the paperchasing....hang in there...get some pics or some videos of OZ and.......