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Hi, I have not been on British Expats for a couple of months now. Me and my hubby decided to apply for Oz as we felt the U.K is just getting worse and we thought it would be a better place to start a family.
We applied at the beginning of the year and I must admit that one minute I felt really positive and then the next I just wasnt sure if I could do it. We have friends who live in Queensland and they love it so we had a few friendly faces when we arrived too. For the last couple of months I have been really emotional when I think of leaving my family and friends. We have already paid quite a bit of money out towards our application but I have decided that I just cant do it :( . It has been a really hard decision to make as I know my husband really wants to go. I am a lot closer with my family than he is and I just think that after a few weeks in Oz I will be ready for coming home (just like when you go on holiday) I think its better to decide now though instead of selling our house and leaving our jobs then getting there and me saying "can we go home now?". Our friends in Australia understand and they know I am close to my family so that helps. My husbans is very understanding but I know secretly he still wants to go. I feel bad on him but I know I have made the right choice. My family were supportive about me going but I know they are pleased that I am staying. I may regret it one day but to be honest, since I made the decision to stay I feel much better, I still want to go to Oz for a holiday but just not forever. I kept thinking, I will miss the rain, the streets that I drive down, (just general everyday things) and I was worried that if something happens to my parents and I am not here for them. Sorry to go on. I have really enjoyed coming on expats in the past and it helped me so much. I am still going to have a little look on it from time to time but I just thought I would tell people my reason for staying. I understand why people on here get so upset as it is probably one of the hardest decisions for a lot of people to make and I take my hat off to those of you who make a go of it. I am just not that brave. I have not read many threads (if any) of people saying that have decided not to go so this may help others who are worried too. :rolleyes: Seeya Julie ;) |
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Originally Posted by Jessica Rabbit
Hi, I have not been on British Expats for a couple of months now. Me and my hubby decided to apply for Oz as we felt the U.K is just getting worse and we thought it would be a better place to start a family.
We applied at the beginning of the year and I must admit that one minute I felt really positive and then the next I just wasnt sure if I could do it. We have friends who live in Queensland and they love it so we had a few friendly faces when we arrived too. For the last couple of months I have been really emotional when I think of leaving my family and friends. We have already paid quite a bit of money out towards our application but I have decided that I just cant do it :( . It has been a really hard decision to make as I know my husband really wants to go. I am a lot closer with my family than he is and I just think that after a few weeks in Oz I will be ready for coming home (just like when you go on holiday) I think its better to decide now though instead of selling our house and leaving our jobs then getting there and me saying "can we go home now?". Our friends in Australia understand and they know I am close to my family so that helps. My husbans is very understanding but I know secretly he still wants to go. I feel bad on him but I know I have made the right choice. My family were supportive about me going but I know they are pleased that I am staying. I may regret it one day but to be honest, since I made the decision to stay I feel much better, I still want to go to Oz for a holiday but just not forever. I kept thinking, I will miss the rain, the streets that I drive down, (just general everyday things) and I was worried that if something happens to my parents and I am not here for them. Sorry to go on. I have really enjoyed coming on expats in the past and it helped me so much. I am still going to have a little look on it from time to time but I just thought I would tell people my reason for staying. I understand why people on here get so upset as it is probably one of the hardest decisions for a lot of people to make and I take my hat off to those of you who make a go of it. I am just not that brave. I have not read many threads (if any) of people saying that have decided not to go so this may help others who are worried too. :rolleyes: Seeya Julie ;) If you guys are sure that this is the best decision then it is usually the right one... decisions like this never come easy. Take care hun! Claire, Steve, Jonah & Susannah xxx |
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Originally Posted by Jessica Rabbit
Hi, I have not been on British Expats for a couple of months now. Me and my hubby decided to apply for Oz as we felt the U.K is just getting worse and we thought it would be a better place to start a family.
We applied at the beginning of the year and I must admit that one minute I felt really positive and then the next I just wasnt sure if I could do it. We have friends who live in Queensland and they love it so we had a few friendly faces when we arrived too. For the last couple of months I have been really emotional when I think of leaving my family and friends. We have already paid quite a bit of money out towards our application but I have decided that I just cant do it :( . It has been a really hard decision to make as I know my husband really wants to go. I am a lot closer with my family than he is and I just think that after a few weeks in Oz I will be ready for coming home (just like when you go on holiday) I think its better to decide now though instead of selling our house and leaving our jobs then getting there and me saying "can we go home now?". Our friends in Australia understand and they know I am close to my family so that helps. My husbans is very understanding but I know secretly he still wants to go. I feel bad on him but I know I have made the right choice. My family were supportive about me going but I know they are pleased that I am staying. I may regret it one day but to be honest, since I made the decision to stay I feel much better, I still want to go to Oz for a holiday but just not forever. I kept thinking, I will miss the rain, the streets that I drive down, (just general everyday things) and I was worried that if something happens to my parents and I am not here for them. Sorry to go on. I have really enjoyed coming on expats in the past and it helped me so much. I am still going to have a little look on it from time to time but I just thought I would tell people my reason for staying. I understand why people on here get so upset as it is probably one of the hardest decisions for a lot of people to make and I take my hat off to those of you who make a go of it. I am just not that brave. I have not read many threads (if any) of people saying that have decided not to go so this may help others who are worried too. :rolleyes: Seeya Julie ;) You're right this is a BIG decision and never to be taken lightly - but we are all individuals with different needs and wants. Very best of luck to you and your hubby I hope you will both be happy. I was always brought up to believe in 'what will be, will be'. :) :) Take care hoops mrs |
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Julie
You are the second person this week who has changed their minds. the other family are going to Spain instead of Australia. You know what is right for you and your family. I'd like to wish you good luck for whatever you do in the future. Best wishes suzy x |
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Originally Posted by Jonahs_mummy
Awwww babes - I was wondering where you were!
If you guys are sure that this is the best decision then it is usually the right one... decisions like this never come easy. Take care hun! Claire, Steve, Jonah & Susannah xxx Good luck to you :) Take Care xxx |
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I wish you luck too!!
If you know that you will miss home and you aren't 100% certain about going then you have made the right decision. :) |
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Better to do it now before loads of money and stress and moving. If it's not for you then it's not for you.
Good luck to you. |
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I'm sorry to hear that - it would have been nice to know somebody else going to Toowoomba. We loved it when we were there in July btw - I've got a job already and we don't get there until February :)
Good luck in the future Nicola |
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Originally Posted by Jessica Rabbit
Hi, I have not been on British Expats for a couple of months now. Me and my hubby decided to apply for Oz as we felt the U.K is just getting worse and we thought it would be a better place to start a family.
We applied at the beginning of the year and I must admit that one minute I felt really positive and then the next I just wasnt sure if I could do it. We have friends who live in Queensland and they love it so we had a few friendly faces when we arrived too. For the last couple of months I have been really emotional when I think of leaving my family and friends. We have already paid quite a bit of money out towards our application but I have decided that I just cant do it :( . It has been a really hard decision to make as I know my husband really wants to go. I am a lot closer with my family than he is and I just think that after a few weeks in Oz I will be ready for coming home (just like when you go on holiday) I think its better to decide now though instead of selling our house and leaving our jobs then getting there and me saying "can we go home now?". Our friends in Australia understand and they know I am close to my family so that helps. My husbans is very understanding but I know secretly he still wants to go. I feel bad on him but I know I have made the right choice. My family were supportive about me going but I know they are pleased that I am staying. I may regret it one day but to be honest, since I made the decision to stay I feel much better, I still want to go to Oz for a holiday but just not forever. I kept thinking, I will miss the rain, the streets that I drive down, (just general everyday things) and I was worried that if something happens to my parents and I am not here for them. Sorry to go on. I have really enjoyed coming on expats in the past and it helped me so much. I am still going to have a little look on it from time to time but I just thought I would tell people my reason for staying. I understand why people on here get so upset as it is probably one of the hardest decisions for a lot of people to make and I take my hat off to those of you who make a go of it. I am just not that brave. I have not read many threads (if any) of people saying that have decided not to go so this may help others who are worried too. :rolleyes: Seeya Julie ;) My opinion is that no-one should live life for family or friends. Yes they come into the equation but first and foremost you decide what is best for you. If you can stand up and say you have made this decision for you then it is the right one. Don't look over your shoulder wondering what might have been. Look forward and enjoy....onward and upward. Good luck to you kid. ;) |
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Originally Posted by Nicstids
I'm sorry to hear that - it would have been nice to know somebody else going to Toowoomba. We loved it when we were there in July btw - I've got a job already and we don't get there until February :)
Good luck in the future Nicola Best of luck |
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Originally Posted by Jessica Rabbit
....... I understand why people on here get so upset as it is probably one of the hardest decisions for a lot of people to make and I take my hat off to those of you who make a go of it. I am just not that brave.
Seeya Julie ;) Takes a bigger person to make the right decision .....than making a wrong decision just to suit everyone else. Good luck with your revised life in UK;) |
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"I may regret it one day ..."
All the more reason to give it a go, but hey, that's not a criticism ... we all have our own individual reasons for taking the path in life that we feel is best. I'm a strong believer in fate, if you knew my circumstances you would know why ... it's a long, complicated and boring story but needless to say, the time is now right for us. My attitude to life has changed considerably since the loss of my wife's mother ... You get one shot at this world and let me tell you, I've taken aim and am about to pull the trigger. I respect your decision and I hope you are happy. ;) Three Legs |
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I double three legs comments, good luck with it, believe me further down the road of the application the harder it gets.
I am at my parents knowing they are upset I wish to go away again. No chance of a 1 Year / 6 Months stay? Some kind of career break to suit both partners? Just a thought. Youve obviously thought this through alot already. |
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Jessica
That’s is a big decision, but your not the first this month to announce your u-turn decision. You need to do what's best for you and you have obviously weighed everything up and made your decision. Good luck with everything. |
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Ultimately, when it comes right down to it, you always regret the things you didn't do more than the things you did.
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Originally Posted by Bix
Julie,
My opinion is that no-one should live life for family or friends. Yes they come into the equation but first and foremost you decide what is best for you. If you can stand up and say you have made this decision for you then it is the right one. Don't look over your shoulder wondering what might have been. Look forward and enjoy....onward and upward. Good luck to you kid. ;) The decision is for me, because I dont want to be without my family. I just think they are the most important thing in my life and I dont want to be without them. I really feel better since deciding to stay and I have a few personal reasons too, I just think family are too important for me to leave. I know some people disagree but thats just me. :D Take care of you Julie |
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Originally Posted by phoenixinoz
Actually Julie, I think you are.
Takes a bigger person to make the right decision .....than making a wrong decision just to suit everyone else. Good luck with your revised life in UK;) |
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Originally Posted by Jessica Rabbit
I have not read many threads (if any) of people saying that have decided not to go so this may help others who are worried too. :rolleyes: Seeya Julie ;) Hi Julie.. Good luck with everything, life is too short to wonder `what if,` you have made your decision and I am sure it will be the right one for you.. :) |
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Originally Posted by deba34
Hi Julie..
Good luck with everything, life is too short to wonder `what if,` you have made your decision and I am sure it will be the right one for you.. :) |
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dear member, i know how you feel i am going through the same thing.
We are moving to Geelong in May next year,and i have to leave my daughter and two young grand children behind. I can apply for them to follow after two years, as last remaining relatives.I am also leaving friends and family i dont know if i can do it.My hubby realy is looking forward to the move though,and i feel i carnt dissapoint him,the good thing is my friend has applied and will hopefully be coming over as well,and we will be nieghbours.We have to give it a try,i know that if i try and dont like it i can always come back.Maybe you should give it a try like me. Good luck. Lynne :) We applied at the beginning of the year and I must admit that one minute I felt really positive and then the next I just wasnt sure if I could do it. We have friends who live in Queensland and they love it so we had a few friendly faces when we arrived too. For the last couple of months I have been really emotional when I think of leaving my family and friends. We have already paid quite a bit of money out towards our application but I have decided that I just cant do it :( . It has been a really hard decision to make as I know my husband really wants to go. I am a lot closer with my family than he is and I just think that after a few weeks in Oz I will be ready for coming home (just like when you go on holiday) I think its better to decide now though instead of selling our house and leaving our jobs then getting there and me saying "can we go home now?". Our friends in Australia understand and they know I am close to my family so that helps. My husbans is very understanding but I know secretly he still wants to go. I feel bad on him but I know I have made the right choice. My family were supportive about me going but I know they are pleased that I am staying. I may regret it one day but to be honest, since I made the decision to stay I feel much better, I still want to go to Oz for a holiday but just not forever. I kept thinking, I will miss the rain, the streets that I drive down, (just general everyday things) and I was worried that if something happens to my parents and I am not here for them. Sorry to go on. I have really enjoyed coming on expats in the past and it helped me so much. I am still going to have a little look on it from time to time but I just thought I would tell people my reason for staying. I understand why people on here get so upset as it is probably one of the hardest decisions for a lot of people to make and I take my hat off to those of you who make a go of it. I am just not that brave. I have not read many threads (if any) of people saying that have decided not to go so this may help others who are worried too. :rolleyes: Seeya Julie ;)[/QUOTE] |
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Originally Posted by lynn59
dear member, i know how you feel i am going through the same thing.
We are moving to Geelong in May next year,and i have to leave my daughter and two young grand children behind. I can apply for them to follow after two years, as last remaining relatives.I am also leaving friends and family i dont know if i can do it.My hubby realy is looking forward to the move though,and i feel i carnt dissapoint him,the good thing is my friend has applied and will hopefully be coming over as well,and we will be nieghbours.We have to give it a try,i know that if i try and dont like it i can always come back.Maybe you should give it a try like me. Good luck. Lynne :) Hi Lynn, You are braver than me. I dont think I will try it now I have made up my mind. Good luck to you and I hope you really enjoy Oz :D We applied at the beginning of the year and I must admit that one minute I felt really positive and then the next I just wasnt sure if I could do it. We have friends who live in Queensland and they love it so we had a few friendly faces when we arrived too. For the last couple of months I have been really emotional when I think of leaving my family and friends. We have already paid quite a bit of money out towards our application but I have decided that I just cant do it :( . It has been a really hard decision to make as I know my husband really wants to go. I am a lot closer with my family than he is and I just think that after a few weeks in Oz I will be ready for coming home (just like when you go on holiday) I think its better to decide now though instead of selling our house and leaving our jobs then getting there and me saying "can we go home now?". Our friends in Australia understand and they know I am close to my family so that helps. My husbans is very understanding but I know secretly he still wants to go. I feel bad on him but I know I have made the right choice. My family were supportive about me going but I know they are pleased that I am staying. I may regret it one day but to be honest, since I made the decision to stay I feel much better, I still want to go to Oz for a holiday but just not forever. I kept thinking, I will miss the rain, the streets that I drive down, (just general everyday things) and I was worried that if something happens to my parents and I am not here for them. Sorry to go on. I have really enjoyed coming on expats in the past and it helped me so much. I am still going to have a little look on it from time to time but I just thought I would tell people my reason for staying. I understand why people on here get so upset as it is probably one of the hardest decisions for a lot of people to make and I take my hat off to those of you who make a go of it. I am just not that brave. I have not read many threads (if any) of people saying that have decided not to go so this may help others who are worried too. :rolleyes: Seeya Julie ;) |
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Originally Posted by wargod
Why not continue with the application - if you have already paid out a few quid, why not get the visa if things change in the future at least you'll have the option to go for the next few years?
Hi Wargod, I hear what you are saying but in the long run it is just too much money to pay out if we decide not to go and to be honest I dont think I will change my mind. We have paid £800 so far which is a lot but it could be a lot more and we just dont have that kind of money to give if we decide not to go. Thanks Julie |
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Originally Posted by Jessica Rabbit
Hi Bix, How are you doing? I will miss your posts coz they always make me laugh.
The decision is for me, because I dont want to be without my family. I just think they are the most important thing in my life and I dont want to be without them. I really feel better since deciding to stay and I have a few personal reasons too, I just think family are too important for me to leave. I know some people disagree but thats just me. :D Take care of you Julie Exactly what I'd hoped you would follow up with. You've put the doubts in my mind to rest that you have indeed made the decision for you and for your reasons rather than because of "pressure" from others. I shall miss our banter too but wish you and yours a very happy new life in the UK. :) |
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Originally Posted by Jessica Rabbit
Hi Bix, How are you doing? I will miss your posts coz they always make me laugh.
The decision is for me, because I dont want to be without my family. I just think they are the most important thing in my life and I dont want to be without them. I really feel better since deciding to stay and I have a few personal reasons too, I just think family are too important for me to leave. I know some people disagree but thats just me. :D Take care of you Julie I know exactly how you are feeling, as this is the only thing that might stop me from going to Oz. I am very close to my Mother, and although she tells me 'you've got to give it a go' and 'it's your life, you've got to make the most of it' and 'you might regret it for the rest of your life if we don't' I still get upset talking about it, as I know she's only putting a brave face on, as we've both had a few tears. It's certainly a tough one :( Good luck in whatever you do Julie, Ange x |
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Originally Posted by Bix
Julie,
Exactly what I'd hoped you would follow up with. You've put the doubts in my mind to rest that you have indeed made the decision for you and for your reasons rather than because of "pressure" from others. I shall miss our banter too but wish you and yours a very happy new life in the UK. :) Take care of yourself. I will say hi to you every now and them. ;) :D Julie |
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Wow Julie. You must be a very special lady to have the guts to stand up and say no, you've changed your mind. I admire you immensely for standing by what you feel in your heart of hearts to be right. I truly hope that life will be good to you and that you find the inner peace that you deserve.
Anne |
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If it feels right, then it is the right thing to do. Good luck for the future. Andy
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Hi Julie
Good luck to you both, remember it is the difficulties in life that make us stronger people. Wishing you both all the best for your future carole |
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