Originally Posted by JenJen (Post 6459434)

Thank you.

I just don't know how anyone can cope with feeling like this for any length of time, the last week and a half has dragged and been some sort of horrible emotional and physical rollercoaster :(.
I've obviously never suffered jetlag before and if this is it I never want to suffer it again, anything vaguely comfy and I sleep in the day but give me a comfy bed at night and I can't sleep, my head is probably wanting to be awake when my family and friends are thats all I can think it is.
I'm covered in bruises as since last Sunday when the tiredness kicked in i've been more than clumsy, still have some beauty bruises from fighting with the suitcases after landing in Sydney, I keep walking into things. If anyone saw me first thing in the morning they'd probably think someone had beaten me up.
I'm running on zero energy, and have dozed most of the day, been sick, dozed some more, poor kids I feel awful, i've tried to take them out, they enjoyed the Castle Hill RSL Tuesday, the ppl were nice I just found it overwhelming and exhausting.
Breathing and walking seem to be exhausting too. If I sit on the sofa i'm a gonna,dozing in minutes and when hubby's here he's the same.

It's been quite a nice day but I feel so out of control of myself we've wasted it, it would have been a great day to take kids out, I should of done shopping too but hubby is now having to do it after he's been at work all day :o
I don't know where to put myself, but I would like to put myself on a plane home.
Just had DS2 saying can we go home as he doesn't like it here and misses his friends and all the family.

Meeting up would be nice if anyone can stomach it, as I seem to get worse rather than better I can't promise a comprehensible conversation though :( :o

Originally Posted by JenJen (Post 6461764)

So nice to hear from you Arthur, i've missed our chats.

We've been told we have got the rental at Illawong, we have to go and sort through paperwork this afternoon at the agents.
I am burnt out, I have tried various things but i'm still dopey in the day and struggling not to sleep and then I have a few tears before bedtime (as well as a few through the day), then I go to bed, get to sleep fairly quickly although not compared to when I was asleep as soon as my head hit the pillow back home.
But from 3 am every morning I am wide awake and cannot go back to sleep, this is making the days very very long and I get to now and I feel yuch.

I spoke to my dad for the first time this mornign since we left home and it was lovely to chat to him, but felt a bit sad when he said he had to head for bed :(. I think he will come out for my birthday in August as he said it will give me something to look forward to, I can't wait to see him again just wishing I was seeing him in the Uk.

It's hard to adjust here when every day is just so difficult, I never went into this wanting to fail but the only thing that really keeps me going is the thought of getting on a plane and going home and begging everyone for forgiveness.
Thanks Penky it's been a while

Originally Posted by jad n rich (Post 6461807)

Its impossible to imagine before you land, just how hard and stessful the first few months are for many people. Try and take it one day at a time, set a small goal each day and achieve it then move on to the next thing.

Being alone in a new city with 3 small kids and no family back up is very hard for anyone, if you were close to family in the UK your trying to deal with those emotions too. Would knock the stuffing out of anyone.

Can remember dragging 3 kids round looking for rentals when we first arrived in melb and it was a grey drab wet winter, nothing like the fab new life I had imagined :eek: partner had work, he had family and was fine the rest of us felt like aliens:D

Then we moved to qld and went house hunting, weeks of being stuck in a car, in and out of dozens of houses, in what seemed like 100 degree heat, can remember 2 kids crying, me crying, teenager making threats of going back to UK, oh joy :rofl:

You get there tho :thumbup:

Originally Posted by JenJen (Post 6461831)

You get there ...... home????

Just out of curisoity has anyone tried to split time between the UK and Australia before? how long can you go back for before coming back out again?

I love Melbourne :(
I'm trying very hard to take it a day at a time, honest. I have friends in Melbourne and feel that would make life easier if we were much closer to them, I'm sitting here looking out to a distant view of the blue moutains which is ok and at least it's not raining...... thats about as positive as I can muster, I think our hosts are little fed up of me looking so glum, they don't come through unless hubby is here :(

Originally Posted by JenJen (Post 6461831)

You get there ...... home????

Just out of curisoity has anyone tried to split time between the UK and Australia before? how long can you go back for before coming back out again?

I love Melbourne :(
I'm trying very hard to take it a day at a time, honest. I have friends in Melbourne and feel that would make life easier if we were much closer to them, I'm sitting here looking out to a distant view of the blue moutains which is ok and at least it's not raining...... thats about as positive as I can muster, I think our hosts are little fed up of me looking so glum, they don't come through unless hubby is here :(

Originally Posted by JoolsB (Post 6461866)

Hi Jenjen

Sorry to read of your hard time. You can swap places with me if you like;) tho' I'm not sure you'd want to trade your 3 boys for my 2 smelly, grumpy dogs:D I am in Melbourne but all my family are in Sydney.

Like you with Melbourne I have more of a "relationship" with Sydney having been born in Blue Mountains and lived in Manly for first 4 years of my life, been back several times, got married there blah blah. I am still finding Melly rather hard going and I've been here 5 months now but I remember the 1st few weeks were the worst when OH was working and I was stuck on my own in a holiday cabin miles out.

It's only very early days for you so just try to stay as calm as possible. Remember nothing is forever and you wont always be in the situation which is currently making you feel so bad!

Take care
Jools x

Originally Posted by JenJen (Post 6461894)

Swap - tis a done deal, don't care what hubby says.

I would trade 3 children for 2 smelly dogs actually, be a bit more relaxing i'm sure, I prefer the company of pets and i'm missing my cat badly too, she is very wise and would be by my side all the time when i've been upset, animals are often quite good like that, unlike children who when you're stressed and upset just want to play you up even more.

I keep telling myself if I still hate it in a few months i'll go home with hubby or not, trouble is it's his insistants that we're staying long term that makes me feel so much worse,.

Sorry you're finding it hard too, I hate to think anyone else feels like this, it's even worse than when I was ill for 10 months after DS2 was born, and of course it's only been a week and a half.
How do you get through each day ? Will you be working ?

Originally Posted by JoolsB (Post 6462058)

Ahhh-I agree it's bad psychology for hubby to tell you "this is it". Even if he secretly feels he does want you all to stay forever some comforting words are what's needed. Chances are you could grow to love it there but you need to feel some connection with home still right now and when we are told we can never go back it certainly doesn't help.

I have applied for a number of jobs and sent CV to big recruitment agencies but to no avail-no-one even bother replying:unsure:. Trouble is as we are quite a way out (due to financial reasons & last years property boom) it limits where I can work. So I have gone from a working London wife with lots to say to a stay at home in the 'burbs wifey with nothing to report-aaaargh! The excitement of my day is a dog walk around the back streets. Still my cooking is improving!

Luckily hubby has agreed if nothing improves we will go home in a year as Aus isn't really giving him what he came for either-he has had to return to the career & long hours he thought he'd left behind for money reasons. But, we may love it in a year who knows and so might you!

BTW my dogs just run into the other room to avoid me if I'm upset-but that's probably because they're male!:sneaky:

Originally Posted by JenJen (Post 6462102)

ahh yes male dogs...... male of any species tends to be the same, hubby just puts his tail between his legs and was that desperate to get away from my tears that last night he went out into the dark and stood outside like a muppet, he said he was on the phone to someone but whatever....

If I could get a cast iron guaruntee from my hubby we'd go home in a few months or a year I would feel so much happier, but he's like Jeckyll and hyde one minute he says one thing then even an hour later he can contradict himself.......
Not a great place to be obviously when your hubby is being such a man, yours sounds a bit more supportive.
I can't imagine how you feel, in a way I do have the kids to distract me but then again thats not always a help, maybe a female dog would have been more sympathetic ?!!!!!!
Sometimes I just want to be on my own instead of having little man saying mummy mummy mummy mummy mummy mummy mummy ever 5 minutes.
I do like it when he goes to bed I can hear myself think then.

My dad is super supportive think they broke the mold when they made my dad as I couldn't ask for better, that makes it harder as when hubby is being well his usual self I can't chat to dad when I want or need to anymore :(