18 yr old son
Oct 17th 2008, 12:39 pm
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Re: 18 yr old son
Yes, you've done the right thing. Our boy has said he doesn't want to come from the beginning. He wavered a couple of times but he's settled on what he's going to do next year and he knows he can come over to visit or live if he wants. As it gets closer I do worry about how he'll cope, but he's convinced he will so I have to give him the chance to try. I wonder how many phone calls we'll get to say he's run out of money!
Oct 17th 2008, 9:28 pm
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Re: 18 yr old son
He said he doesn't want to be on the visa, and will probably come over on a studant visa, that way he isn't still attatched to us so to speak he just wants to do this his own way in his own time. So it looks like i will have to grit my teeth and allow him to grow up and be the responsable adult he wants to be
So my thoughts now are to get him to move out about 6 months before we leave then i can see that yes he can cope and of course i will worry but hopefully not as much as i would have been had we just left and not seen him being responsable (if that makes sense). We have also talked about giving some money to a good friend of ours so if son does desperatly need money he can get it from there, of course he won't know the money is there untill he phones us and we inform our friend to give him only the amount he needs at least then if he doesn't use it he can use that for his student visa and flight. We will see, at least i suppose he told us now and not when our boxes are on the lorry.Thank you guys
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Oct 18th 2008, 1:19 am
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Re: 18 yr old son
Lol yes i think we'll be wondering the same thing, but these last couple of days i have noticed him doing the things he wouldn't ordinaraly do IE:getting out of bed without me yelling at him to, tidying up and so on. i guess this his his way of saying "i will prove to you i can do this"
He said he doesn't want to be on the visa, and will probably come over on a studant visa, that way he isn't still attatched to us so to speak he just wants to do this his own way in his own time. So it looks like i will have to grit my teeth and allow him to grow up and be the responsable adult he wants to beSo my thoughts now are to get him to move out about 6 months before we leave then i can see that yes he can cope and of course i will worry but hopefully not as much as i would have been had we just left and not seen him being responsable (if that makes sense). We have also talked about giving some money to a good friend of ours so if son does desperatly need money he can get it from there, of course he won't know the money is there untill he phones us and we inform our friend to give him only the amount he needs at least then if he doesn't use it he can use that for his student visa and flight. We will see, at least i suppose he told us now and not when our boxes are on the lorry.
Thank you guys
H xx
He said he doesn't want to be on the visa, and will probably come over on a studant visa, that way he isn't still attatched to us so to speak he just wants to do this his own way in his own time. So it looks like i will have to grit my teeth and allow him to grow up and be the responsable adult he wants to be
So my thoughts now are to get him to move out about 6 months before we leave then i can see that yes he can cope and of course i will worry but hopefully not as much as i would have been had we just left and not seen him being responsable (if that makes sense). We have also talked about giving some money to a good friend of ours so if son does desperatly need money he can get it from there, of course he won't know the money is there untill he phones us and we inform our friend to give him only the amount he needs at least then if he doesn't use it he can use that for his student visa and flight. We will see, at least i suppose he told us now and not when our boxes are on the lorry.Thank you guys
H xx
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