Want to move back to the USA but my girlfriend's perspective differs than mine.
May 2nd 2016, 7:18 pm
#151
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Re: Want to move back to the USA but my girlfriend's perspective differs than mine.
San Diego is dirty, pokey shithole. Nice climate but I'd hate to live there.
May 2nd 2016, 11:00 pm
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Re: Want to move back to the USA but my girlfriend's perspective differs than mine.
Market street has expensive hotels along it's stretch. 3, 4, 5 hundred dollars a night for a room. I'm sure the hotels are very nice inside but once out of the lobby onto the street you're in stinky paradise.
May 3rd 2016, 2:26 am
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Re: Want to move back to the USA but my girlfriend's perspective differs than mine.
I've been numerous times and don't care for it at all. San Diegans are very snooty too.
I've never found them different from any place else
May 3rd 2016, 3:03 pm
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Re: Want to move back to the USA but my girlfriend's perspective differs than mine.
Yes, San Diego and San Francisco are both "shitholes". La Jolla, what a dump. Tiburon, yuck.
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May 3rd 2016, 7:10 pm
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Re: Want to move back to the USA but my girlfriend's perspective differs than mine.
I guess there must be plenty of dumb rich people around who pay premium prices for a home in the "La Jolla dump"
Talking of shitholes what's the run up of murders to date this year in Chicago. ?
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May 3rd 2016, 7:27 pm
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Re: Want to move back to the USA but my girlfriend's perspective differs than mine.
May 5th 2016, 12:42 am
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Re: Want to move back to the USA but my girlfriend's perspective differs than mine.
The American gf had this weird stereotyped view of the UK and the Brit had a weird stereotyped view of N America.
They are different places with different cultures and the conclusion I reached is that you can take the person out of X country but you can't take X country out of the person.
I see it on this forum with people who moved as a family and then they don't make any friends where they moved to except on this forum.
So they sort of reinforce each other's "Britishness" and don't adapt to the local culture.
Frankly I see it with loads of immigrants living in the local neighbourhood too.
Disliking the UK to a very great degree enabled me to adapt more than most immigrants do, imho.
The key point is they've got to want to do it. And when I say that, I mean they've got to want to do it to a substantial degree. If they're ambivalent about it, you're just setting yourself up for a load of stress and arguments because moving countries is stressful enough as it is. To cope with that stress, they've got to really want to do it.
People are very territorial, the way you get over it is to stress the positives over the negatives. Even if you start to convince yourself that you sound like Goebbels. The fear of moving is a somewhat irrational instinct.
I've moved so many times now it doesn't bother me much anymore other than the practical PITA of moving, but I'm always amazed at people who say to me: "I could never move to X because of Y reason." And Y reason is usually something stupid or exaggerated. It's fear of change.
