Originally Posted by Snap Shot

In which case, if that's true, I've fallen for another 'just joined' troll. I don't believe that all 'just joined' contributors are trolls.

It's interesting that the original poster has not made any further postings. If they are a troll I suppose they're just enjoying kicking over the ants nest and watching the fun.

Originally Posted by Dreamy

Seriously mate, you need to put your foot down and tell her to stop messing you about by giving up all her family and friends and moving to the other side of the world so that YOU don't have to give up anything and jeez, she can't decide if this is for her?

How very selfish of her.

Originally Posted by Bermudashorts

No don't giver her an ultimatum. Very cowardly putting it all onto her, if you want a decision then make it yourself.

Originally Posted by rickjohnson

Remember, you're asking her to do what you are not prepared to do - leave family and friends on the other side of the World, possibly forever.

Originally Posted by quoll

With an attitude like that she'd be a wise girl to kiss you goodbye and get on with her own life. I'm surprised that you havent suggested getting her pregnant then you can force her to stay in Aus with your child.

Nah, this has to be a joke, surely?

Originally Posted by spouse of scouse

You're the one who's moved the goalposts, not your girlfriend. Your comment that you 'feel like you're wasting your time' says it all. Say goodbye - then neither of you will be wasting your time.

Originally Posted by jackieh23

Wasting time from the perspective of wanting something more permanent i.e. kids methinks?
My BIL & his wife were in the same situation. She is Irish, he is Aus. They met in England, married within a few months of meeting. (rebound for her, age issues for him) Immediately moved to NI to be close to her family and start one for themselves. They lived in NI for 4 years but he wanted a "better life" for his kids and couldn't stand the cold. So she said Yes to moving here, leaving a very close family environment for a not so close one here. They have been (back) here 10 years now and she goes back every 2 years, taking the kids. He doesn't go. They are the definitive "only together for the sake of the kids" couple.
A hard choice but I agree with OP, one that needs to be made sooner rather than later.

Originally Posted by Pint of Lager please

Thanks for your thoughtful reply. I thought that I would thank you for answering honestly and constructively (there were a few spiteful replies).

I was flipping out when I posted here but thankfully I think has ended better for all now we have ended our relationship.

I am sure I will always miss her but it is better than her or myself being tortured for the rest of our lives by missing our families.

Thanks

Originally Posted by Pint of Lager please

Thanks for your thoughtful reply. I thought that I would thank you for answering honestly and constructively (there were a few spiteful replies).

I was flipping out when I posted here but thankfully I think has ended better for all now we have ended our relationship.

I am sure I will always miss her but it is better than her or myself being tortured for the rest of our lives by missing our families.

Thanks