Partystar

*Warning - impending vent!*

I usually get the odd day when I'm down about living here, but this 'down in the dumps' feeling has been going on for over a week! I'm absolutely hating it here right now. All my 'friends' here having been getting on my nerves. I belong to a playgroup & have stopped going to their play dates recently. Although I have to go to one this afternoon as it's a 1st birthday party & I know it's important to them for us to go.

Everything they say makes me roll my eyes, they seem so petty & I can't stand it anymore. I'd give anything just to be able to pop round & see my old friends back home. At least when I talk to them I can speak my mind without getting funny looks. I hate the fact that most people here seem to be so PC about everything. I'm just not like that & I say what I mean & I mean what I say, which doesn't seem to go over well here.

Arrrrgggghhhhhh!!!

Thanx a lot for letting me get that out.

CarlM

err.. pleasure!?

robskatie

Sorry to hear your feeling down PS, how long have you been in the US now?
This is also the way I feel sometimes with regards to american friends, it's very hard to be yourself when you are met with looks of horror!!!
I have been very lucky and have a great English mate who I met over here, do you have any other Brits near you that you could get together with?
I also feel that in some ways this "feeling down" is part and parcel of homesickness and will pass, good days and bad days you know?
Keep your chin up luv , gonna try and send you some karma

TruBrit

know what yer mean kiddo...has your mum gone back? maybe that's affecting you....me being a northerner i'm known for not mixing my words but here well, i just keep shtumm eg..yesterday a neighbour stopped and asked for a cutting of a plant i had in the front garden and i said 'oh you mean the wandering jew' well she said 'shhhh don't say that'...so i give up best i say nowt my advice would be have a few

Chorlton

Buy a gun - thats what I'm going to do
Alternatively some german lager or chianti works for me too
Seriously, I think most of us understand.

peacelover

We all do understand Partystar, it is normal to feel this way at times and a week isn't too long in my book. I get these feeling periodically and they are sometimes short lived and others are a long time hanging around.
Don't feel bad just vent away, we are all here for you.

Celtic_Angel

Been there done that..you'll get out of your funk pretty soon..they'll still be talking garbage but it'll be water off a ducks back...oh and buy a bottle of wine on your way home..you'll be glad you did

Partystar

Cheers mate!

I've lived here for 15 months now, just got my greencard, so I plan to go back in May for a holiday. I have a few Brits living close by, FatBrit & BrandonBrit are close by & we try to meet up once a month, which helps to keep me sane, along with everyone else on BE!!!

I think it's more to do with the fact that I know my friends are still back home, it's just that I'm over here now. I miss them all so much & know they miss me too. I'm trying to look at the good things, I have my husband & son here with me & they love me very much!

TruBrit

that's been me for the last FOUR yrs..i spend most mornings on the dog 'n bone either they call me or i call them...my life goes on over there and i have down days when i want to join in with them...i understand completely think we all do
i know that nothing lasts forever and so tomorrow will be better you'll see

Chick Flick

Tell the women in your group, exactly how you feel, If you make any true friends thats great if you don't what have you lost?. NOTHING. You never know there may be one or two who think just like you.

robskatie

You need to organise a big girls night out when you go home
I always wonder how the war brides managed when they came over here, communication and ease of travel was so much harder back then, they must have been truly miserable, we are fortunate in a way that home is only a phone call away and t'internet is a wonderful thing

robskatie

She still has her little boy to think about though, he still has to socialise

robskatie

Partystar, clear your PM box!!!!!!!!

britvic

Your not alone Partystar. Gave up trying to look for some sort of friend long ago, so now I'm a sad case of Billy no mates I've only got 1 more year left to do, so thats now a piece of piss being as I've done 3 already. Chin up girl your get though it

Partystar

Yeah, Mum went back on Monday, but that wasn't too bad, cuz I know I'll see her again soon. I was actually feeling this way before she even got here & I think I now know why. I was trying to think what was going on around the time I started to get homesick. It was right after I received a letter from a friend back home in England. She wrote a 5 page letter, sent me a teddy bear, a 'best friends' keyring, an 'I miss you card' & loads of photos.

The letter told me she was getting married & wanted me to be at her wedding, because I was the best friend she's ever had & she's thought about me everyday since I left & is really missing me. She also said she wants her fiancee to meet the person that made her what she is today, of course I was balling after I read that.

I think that is what really affected me & has made me feel this way, because I know now more than ever, what I really left behind to come here. It really doesn't help when our situation here is much worse than the one we left behind.