When does it get easier? Unhappy in Michigan.
May 13th 2016, 1:31 pm
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Re: When does it get easier? Unhappy in Michigan.
I've experienced hardships in my life that far outweigh homesickness. Both my wife and I have survived cancer, my wife had Ovarian cancer age 39, and went through hell as do many. My son had a near fatal motorcycle accident and it was touch and go for months and took years to near fully recover. My daughter as MS. We dealt with it.
Telling someone to pack up and leave doesn't help.
May 13th 2016, 3:07 pm
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Re: When does it get easier? Unhappy in Michigan.
You can sugar coat it any way you want. But in blunt language it comes down to deal with it or go back, those are the choices, plain and simple. Most people are saying deal with, but in more polite terms. I know plenty of people that have come here and moved back, some of them several times. Bob speaks of family, sometimes it's the Wife and some times it's the husband. If she's unhappy, he should return for her.
I hope this is a place where one can express ones point of view, whether it is popular or not. I've lived in this country long enough to have seen it all, generally if someone is unhappy here, moving back is the best solution, and works out for the best.
I hope this is a place where one can express ones point of view, whether it is popular or not. I've lived in this country long enough to have seen it all, generally if someone is unhappy here, moving back is the best solution, and works out for the best.
May 13th 2016, 3:41 pm
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Being a migrant is tough. That is why we use the euphemism "expat" - to make it seem more glamorous.
May 13th 2016, 5:22 pm
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May 13th 2016, 5:36 pm
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Re: When does it get easier? Unhappy in Michigan.
I don't believe I ever said "pack up and leave". Why try and talk her into staying when she's obviously unhappy here. Everyone is bringing up sceneries that don't apply in this case.
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May 13th 2016, 5:54 pm
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Re: When does it get easier? Unhappy in Michigan.
I didn't say it was easy, I put it in simple terms, do you have a third way?
Why should it break the family apart? Brits and others go back all the time, it doesn't break up the family. I fact I have never known where that has been the case. Ultimately it has to be dealt with, or just go on simmering below the surface.
Why should it break the family apart? Brits and others go back all the time, it doesn't break up the family. I fact I have never known where that has been the case. Ultimately it has to be dealt with, or just go on simmering below the surface.
It's not as simple as go back. Not every one is able to. People with kids, if they want to stay with their kids, can't just up sticks and move back if the spouse doesn't want to.
Not every one is in a position to afford a spouse visa for the UK, nor the expense of moving.
May 13th 2016, 6:15 pm
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May 13th 2016, 6:19 pm
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You've not been around the forums long to see the heart ache then.
It's not as simple as go back. Not every one is able to. People with kids, if they want to stay with their kids, can't just up sticks and move back if the spouse doesn't want to.
Not every one is in a position to afford a spouse visa for the UK, nor the expense of moving.
It's not as simple as go back. Not every one is able to. People with kids, if they want to stay with their kids, can't just up sticks and move back if the spouse doesn't want to.
Not every one is in a position to afford a spouse visa for the UK, nor the expense of moving.
May 13th 2016, 6:29 pm
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You've not been around the forums long to see the heart ache then.
It's not as simple as go back. Not every one is able to. People with kids, if they want to stay with their kids, can't just up sticks and move back if the spouse doesn't want to.
Not every one is in a position to afford a spouse visa for the UK, nor the expense of moving.
It's not as simple as go back. Not every one is able to. People with kids, if they want to stay with their kids, can't just up sticks and move back if the spouse doesn't want to.
Not every one is in a position to afford a spouse visa for the UK, nor the expense of moving.
50 years in the country I've seen it several many times over. Personal friends, colleagues at work. I've yet to hear of anyone that has regretted it. I know of someone recently that came back to the US from the UK, last I heard he's returned to the UK again.
As someone here said of me "he's seen it all". Well yes pretty much.
May 13th 2016, 6:44 pm
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Re: When does it get easier? Unhappy in Michigan.
I didn't say it was easy, I put it in simple terms, do you have a third way?
Why should it break the family apart? Brits and others go back all the time, it doesn't break up the family. I fact I have never known where that has been the case. Ultimately it has to be dealt with, or just go on simmering below the surface.
Why should it break the family apart? Brits and others go back all the time, it doesn't break up the family. I fact I have never known where that has been the case. Ultimately it has to be dealt with, or just go on simmering below the surface.
And obviously you don't understand how difficult it can be with a family when some want to stay and some don't.
As for breaking up families, maybe you should read some of the other threads on here so you can figure out what we are talking about. Or maybe you just like to be argumentive.
May 13th 2016, 7:27 pm
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Yes, you said GO BACK.
And obviously you don't understand how difficult it can be with a family when some want to stay and some don't.
As for breaking up families, maybe you should read some of the other threads on here so you can figure out what we are talking about. Or maybe you just like to be argumentive.
And obviously you don't understand how difficult it can be with a family when some want to stay and some don't.
As for breaking up families, maybe you should read some of the other threads on here so you can figure out what we are talking about. Or maybe you just like to be argumentive.
I get it.
