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New-and-unsure Sep 21st 2012 12:59 am

Seriously homesick - will a quick trip home help or hinder?
 
So we've been here just over 2 months now and I am struggling. We're here until Xmas 2013, and I am just feeling so incredibly homesick. My Mum has just been here to stay for 2 weeks which has been nice, but even so I've been extremely tearful. I'm 3 1/2 months pregnant, so guess my hormones aren't helping as far as tears are concerned.

We're going home for Xmas, and my Dad is here in a couple of weeks. But I am wondering whether a week home at the beginning of November might be a good idea? I feel it could go either way; either i'll get home and think 'OK, everything is still here' and take off my rose-tinted glasses as far as the UK is concerned, or i'll realise what I'm missing and coming back here will be super hard.

What do you think? I feel really pathetic but I just currently can't shake off the feeling of being where i don't belong, and it's really starting to make me properly depressed.

Weeze Sep 21st 2012 1:07 am

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Can you start going to some prenatal yoga or something. Maybe if you throw yourself into the local lifestyle a bit you'll get over the lonely feeling?

New-and-unsure Sep 21st 2012 1:13 am

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Thanks for replying Weeze.

I have actually started prenatal yoga on a Wednesday afternoon. It's nice, but the women there seem to mostly keep themselves to themselves.

I know I need to throw myself into stuff, but I've got myself into a bit of a horrid depressed 'can't get enthusiastic about anything' kind of state. :(

I've looked up classes but all the ones I like are in the evening which is a time i'm not lonely as hubby is home.

Just really really missing my family and friends.

lisa67 Sep 21st 2012 1:22 am

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When I first moved over here, many moons ago, and was very homesick, I felt it helped if I panned to go out somewhere different every day....even if it was to the library or the mall...just to force myself out of the house.
I did go home for a visit and I realized that I had had rose tinted specs on, which did help, but don't under estimate the toll transatlantic flights will take on your body, especially as you're pregnant.

Weeze Sep 21st 2012 1:49 am

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Sorry my reply was short, I was watching Downton!
I decided that the only way I was going to enjoy myself was to throw myself into it all. I had the advantage of already having a toddler, so I had to get out of the house for her. Lisa is right, if you can get some things in your calendar for the week you feel so much better. Are there any groups near you to join? Prenatal things, expats things, hobbies? You could take a class in something you are interested in (like Joann's fabric shops ones). I set myself a number of short term goals. I didn't really drive in the UK, so my first was drive to the grocery store. Then drive to a mall. Then find a group and go to an activity. Each felt like a little success.
Pregnancy hormones won't be helping. Use Skype to talk to your friends and family, but if you go out to some things you'll have more to tell them about!

Sally Redux Sep 21st 2012 2:13 pm

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I think it could make you feel worse. I have had some really bad times dealing with coming back here. You have a couple of thing lined up and you know your stay is of limited duration, look on it as an interesting place to explore until then.

Brat1 Sep 21st 2012 2:15 pm

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Oh dear, I feel for you, the first trimester of pregnancy can make you tired, weepy and just out of sorts. Add to that the fact that you're going through the transitional phase of a move and I can understand why you feel so down.

I agree with the others, the more you get out and about, the more that will fill up your day and let your thoughts focus on the positive. I miss family terribly, but I use Skype all the time, Facebook is definitely my friend for keeping in touch with everyone and sharing the good and bad days. And bear in mind, you're only here until next year, you know you're going back home after this trip is over, so try and focus on this as a bit of an adventure. You're living in a different country, different people, different weather, etc, try and embrace it and enjoy it while you're here.

I remember when I moved, which is over 2.5 years ago now, everyone told me, don't go back in the first 18 months to 2 years after you move, and we didn't. We went back last Christmas for the first time, which was just under the 2 years, and believe me, it made me realize what I don't miss about the UK. We spent the whole time, running around visiting everyone, trying to keep everyone happy, and in the end, left having fallen out seriously, with my OH's parents as they were pissed that we didn't stay with them, or spend enough time with them, so I'm in no hurry to visit again.

Have you spoken to your husband about how you're feeling?? Sometimes just talking about it can help. I really think that you are just overwhelmed at the moment, and hopefully, moving in to your 2nd trimester, your energy levels will go up and your mood will lift. Go for short walks, fresh air, go to different stores, talk to people, try and see if there are Expat groups in your area. I don't know if you drive, but if you do, get in the car and explore the area you're living in, don't sit in the house all day, there is nothing worse.

I hope this passes and that you settle a bit better for the remainder of the time you're here. Look forward, enjoy your pregnancy and take each day as it comes, and bear in mind, this is just a temporary move. Good luck with everything and if you're feeling down, come on here and vent, always makes me feel better ;) :D

Bomjeito Sep 21st 2012 4:18 pm

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A quick trip home will not help. It will only make you feel worse, as you've already put 'home' into rose-coloured specs and if you go back you'll only keep saying to yourself, 'its so much better here, I hate there..." because its easy being a visitor and the day to day mundane life or niggles from living there in the past won't affect you at the least.

In my first overseas posting, the policy of the company was for first postings, NO return trips for one year (excepting emergencies, of course.) It was a good policy. If you are concentrating on going back, you can't concentrate on building the life (temporary or permanent) where you've landed.

We've been in the USA for over 2 years. We went back after one year and it was bittersweet. We miss Scotland tremendously. Since we are in an environment and climate so 180 degrees from Scotland, it is an acute feeling to miss Scotland. We stayed two weeks and it was so easy - everyone happy to see us, we toured around, enjoyed everything. We forget that Houston offered hubby a springboard career move, ability to use the medical facilities that allowed us to become pregnant (I'm 8 months pregnant with twins~!) and to distance ourselves from what wasn't making our life that great there. We moved here for a reason. Its different. Very different...but in good ways too.

The big thing is to get out there! The prenatal yoga class IS a great thing - I know its scary to pipe up and be a part of the ladies but trust me, they WILL want to talk to you!

First trimester is quite hard. I wasn't feeling my best and certainly felt icky to try and be all happy and sociable. Try with your husband to get away and see some things as soon you'll be less able to travel. And remember, all feelings DO pass...only you can take control to not dwell on any negative thoughts.

Your time should not be flying back so close to another flight back...your time may be better spent becoming a part of your life there!

New-and-unsure Sep 21st 2012 4:28 pm

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Thank you all. I know you're all right. And yes the more we're planning on going home, the less I am feeling really like i'm here. It's almost like I'm resisting properly settling here.

Bomjeito congrats on the pregnancy! We were having no luck on that front at home, then once we were about to leave to come here, we found out I am pregnant. So hubby keeps saying we probably wouldn't be expecting if we hadn't done this trip.

Must remember this is good for hubby's career etc and remembering it's pregnant. I've spoken to OH about it a lot - he is very understanding, but it's tough for him too and i think he just thinks i should be grateful to be pregnant, regardless of where I am (which I am, it's just hard not to think about how lovely it would have been to be pregnant at home!).

I'm now 14 1/2 weeks so hoping that the 2nd trimester happier hormones will kick in soon!

Brat1 Sep 21st 2012 4:29 pm

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Originally Posted by Bomjeito (Post 10292915)
A quick trip home will not help. It will only make you feel worse, as you've already put 'home' into rose-coloured specs and if you go back you'll only keep saying to yourself, 'its so much better here, I hate there..." because its easy being a visitor and the day to day mundane life or niggles from living there in the past won't affect you at the least.

In my first overseas posting, the policy of the company was for first postings, NO return trips for one year (excepting emergencies, of course.) It was a good policy. If you are concentrating on going back, you can't concentrate on building the life (temporary or permanent) where you've landed.

We've been in the USA for over 2 years. We went back after one year and it was bittersweet. We miss Scotland tremendously. Since we are in an environment and climate so 180 degrees from Scotland, it is an acute feeling to miss Scotland. We stayed two weeks and it was so easy - everyone happy to see us, we toured around, enjoyed everything. We forget that Houston offered hubby a springboard career move, ability to use the medical facilities that allowed us to become pregnant (I'm 8 months pregnant with twins~!) and to distance ourselves from what wasn't making our life that great there. We moved here for a reason. Its different. Very different...but in good ways too.

The big thing is to get out there! The prenatal yoga class IS a great thing - I know its scary to pipe up and be a part of the ladies but trust me, they WILL want to talk to you!

First trimester is quite hard. I wasn't feeling my best and certainly felt icky to try and be all happy and sociable. Try with your husband to get away and see some things as soon you'll be less able to travel. And remember, all feelings DO pass...only you can take control to not dwell on any negative thoughts.

Your time should not be flying back so close to another flight back...your time may be better spent becoming a part of your life there!

+1 :)

Bomjeito Sep 21st 2012 7:11 pm

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Originally Posted by New-and-unsure (Post 10292930)
Thank you all. I know you're all right. And yes the more we're planning on going home, the less I am feeling really like i'm here. It's almost like I'm resisting properly settling here.

Bomjeito congrats on the pregnancy! We were having no luck on that front at home, then once we were about to leave to come here, we found out I am pregnant. So hubby keeps saying we probably wouldn't be expecting if we hadn't done this trip.

Must remember this is good for hubby's career etc and remembering it's pregnant. I've spoken to OH about it a lot - he is very understanding, but it's tough for him too and i think he just thinks i should be grateful to be pregnant, regardless of where I am (which I am, it's just hard not to think about how lovely it would have been to be pregnant at home!).

I'm now 14 1/2 weeks so hoping that the 2nd trimester happier hormones will kick in soon!

My husband says the same. If we didn't move, we'd not have the babies. If we didn't move, he'd be in the same job and not moving career-wise.

It IS harder to be at home (I don't work) in a new place. Even though I'm American, I'm thousands of miles away from family, and don't really like Houston. It IS hard to make the effort - to approach folks, to introduce myself..try to integrate. Our neighbors have been nice, which helps.

Then I got pregnant and the first trimester was awful - morning, noon and night sickness! 2nd did get easier and 3rd has been a bear. End of second trimester, hubby had to go back for 2 weeks for business (he'd been kind to not accept any travel back, as to leave me behind so he could go...) - and I sure was bummed as I couldn't go.

As I've said, we've been here over two years but came permanently. We sold our home in Scotland, as well. We do sometimes wonder if we made the right decision, but here we are and do make the best of it as we can.

Talk to your husband....go away for a long weekend or at least take a vacation while you can!! I wish I took more before I got to this stage!

Enjoy your pregnancy and keep posting. Time will take care of a lot of the emotions. :fingerscrossed:

CAdreaming Sep 21st 2012 10:22 pm

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I was homesick when i first got here - strangly talking to friends a lot from back home made it worse! I was in a bit of a cycle of moaning about being here and how different it was and all in all it didnt help - in a way i feel some of them were quite pleased to hear that

Life got easier when i started to settle and accept that i was here - and i started making friends - I joined a British group of women who had been here many years so got my Brit fix but also slowly met a lovely group of American ladies who have now become really close friends

Ive been back and forth to the UK for the past year (only been in US 18 months but mother was ill) so this now is the longest time ive been here - and im not going back to the UK till next April - this will be the longest time ive been in the US without a visit to the UK and im starting to feel it a bit...so do understand a little of how you are feeling

I would say hang with it - christmas is soon here and you are seeing your dad soon
Good luck to you!!!

Sugarmooma Sep 22nd 2012 1:20 am

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And if you take a wander around all the big stores you will be thinking Christmas IS really almost here.:D

Having something to look forward to (your dad, your Christmas trip) will help somewhat to curb the homesickness but it hits everyone at certain points, very strange feeling. Try not to wish the time away, stay as busy as you can and hopefully the hormones will straighten out fairly soon.

You may find in your last months of pregnancy that the nesting instinct will kick in and you wont want to go anywhere;)

Adnams Sep 22nd 2012 2:04 am

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If i was you I would defo go back for a brit / family kick before the baby arrives. Life is going to get a lot more complicated, and i hate to say it less free when the baby arrives. So, go beforehand and hopefully that will give you a cure to see you through until 2013. And good luck with the baby. Had both of mine (22 months and 4) here and had a really positive experience of US ob / gyn's.

lisa67 Sep 22nd 2012 11:52 am

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Originally Posted by Adnams (Post 10293498)
If i was you I would defo go back for a brit / family kick before the baby arrives. Life is going to get a lot more complicated, and i hate to say it less free when the baby arrives. So, go beforehand and hopefully that will give you a cure to see you through until 2013. And good luck with the baby. Had both of mine (22 months and 4) here and had a really positive experience of US ob / gyn's.

The OP mentioned at the beginning that she's going home for Christmas :)

N1cky Sep 23rd 2012 1:02 am

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I too would try throw myself into living here. It really is a short period of your life (although being pregnant a very important one.) You have plenty to look forward to with family coming out, and a baby to plan for. Maybe you could plan days out on a weekend with your husband to new places that you wouldn't have got the chance to visit otherwise.

What part of CA are you in? Does it have plenty of activities/meet ups that could keep you busy?

New-and-unsure Sep 23rd 2012 6:02 pm

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Thanks all for the replies. I just have good days and bad days really, though more of the latter. Thursday was really a very bad day.

We're near San Jose in CA. We've done a lot of sightseeing cause of my Mum being here, but as far as day trips I'm sure there's probably more to see.

OH suggested a weekend in Disneyland to help my mood - I am a big Disneyworld/land fan so assuming we can afford it (money side of things is so complicated with allowances and reimbursements - can't quite work out how much we have) we might well do that in 2 weeks time.

So yes in all am pretty sure i won't do an extra trip home in November, but guess its nice to think that's a possibility (although with OH trying to work out our finances, maybe it's not). I just seem to have a lot of 'i'm not cut out for this' moments. Guess it's probably not a particularly good reason, but a big part of my reason for wanting to come here was that at home, we were getting nowhere on the baby front, I was bored at work, and so I kind of thought 's*d it, get's just get a total change of scenery, rather than waiting for something to happen'.

I've managed to book something in for each day this coming week so that's good - at least I have a reason to get out of the apartment every day. One week at a time I suppose!

Thanks for all your advice :)

Sugarmooma Sep 23rd 2012 6:09 pm

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Originally Posted by New-and-unsure (Post 10295874)
Thanks all for the replies. I just have good days and bad days really, though more of the latter. Thursday was really a very bad day.

We're near San Jose in CA. We've done a lot of sightseeing cause of my Mum being here, but as far as day trips I'm sure there's probably more to see.

OH suggested a weekend in Disneyland to help my mood - I am a big Disneyworld/land fan so assuming we can afford it (money side of things is so complicated with allowances and reimbursements - can't quite work out how much we have) we might well do that in 2 weeks time.

So yes in all am pretty sure i won't do an extra trip home in November, but guess its nice to think that's a possibility (although with OH trying to work out our finances, maybe it's not). I just seem to have a lot of 'i'm not cut out for this' moments. Guess it's probably not a particularly good reason, but a big part of my reason for wanting to come here was that at home, we were getting nowhere on the baby front, I was bored at work, and so I kind of thought 's*d it, get's just get a total change of scenery, rather than waiting for something to happen'.

I've managed to book something in for each day this coming week so that's good - at least I have a reason to get out of the apartment every day. One week at a time I suppose!

Thanks for all your advice :)


Well done you, sounds like a great attitude;)

Just remember you are never alone, you are now officially in the Expat Homesick Club. The members come and go as and when the sickness hits:nod:

Enjoy your week honey:starsmile:

Brat1 Sep 23rd 2012 9:27 pm

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Originally Posted by Sugarmooma (Post 10295880)
Well done you, sounds like a great attitude;)

Just remember you are never alone, you are now officially in the Expat Homesick Club. The members come and go as and when the sickness hits:nod:

Enjoy your week honey:starsmile:

+1 on that one. Try and enjoy it and remember to yourself, this is a temporary move, explore and experience something different, and don't beat yourself up about feeling the way you do, everyone's different. The pregnancy is new to you and a move to a different country is huge. I think you're doing the right thing this week, get out there and enjoy and remember..... you're not alone :D

N1cky Sep 23rd 2012 10:31 pm

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Originally Posted by New-and-unsure (Post 10295874)
Thanks all for the replies. I just have good days and bad days really, though more of the latter. Thursday was really a very bad day.

We're near San Jose in CA. We've done a lot of sightseeing cause of my Mum being here, but as far as day trips I'm sure there's probably more to see.

OH suggested a weekend in Disneyland to help my mood - I am a big Disneyworld/land fan so assuming we can afford it (money side of things is so complicated with allowances and reimbursements - can't quite work out how much we have) we might well do that in 2 weeks time.

So yes in all am pretty sure i won't do an extra trip home in November, but guess its nice to think that's a possibility (although with OH trying to work out our finances, maybe it's not). I just seem to have a lot of 'i'm not cut out for this' moments. Guess it's probably not a particularly good reason, but a big part of my reason for wanting to come here was that at home, we were getting nowhere on the baby front, I was bored at work, and so I kind of thought 's*d it, get's just get a total change of scenery, rather than waiting for something to happen'.

I've managed to book something in for each day this coming week so that's good - at least I have a reason to get out of the apartment every day. One week at a time I suppose!

Thanks for all your advice :)

That sounds positive then:)

Have you been to the Walt Disney museum in San Francisco? It's really interesting especially for a Disney fan.

escudier Sep 23rd 2012 10:50 pm

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Hi There, i know where u are coming from. I have been in NZ FOR 8 YEARS and i still get very demotivated a lot of the time, best to keep busy and positive and focus on the baby. We are also going home 4 xmas to Hampshire UK where abouts are you? The thing is Hampshire is a beautiful part of the Uk who wouldnt miss it? Keep in touch eh.

CAdreaming Sep 24th 2012 1:39 am

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Originally Posted by Sugarmooma (Post 10295880)
Well done you, sounds like a great attitude;)

Just remember you are never alone, you are now officially in the Expat Homesick Club. The members come and go as and when the sickness hits:nod:Enjoy your week honey:starsmile:

Im joining as well now please :lol: Serious home sickness
Good luck to the OP - Im told it hits then gets better......ride with the tide - go with the flow - as they say up here in hippy Northern CA!!!

New-and-unsure Sep 24th 2012 1:45 am

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Aw it is good to know I'm not the only one.

Bad day today but think that's cause the nausea seems to have reappeared. Getting highlights done tomorrow, so that should cheer me up!

I realised this evening that actually this is normally my favourite time of year at home - I love it when the nights draw in and it gets colder and Saturday night tv starts back again (X Factor etc - I know I know, I probably shouldn't admit to that). So, this is probably not helping the homesickness! Maybe it'll be better in Jan when it's miserable at home and it'll be considerably warmer here. We'll see. At least by then I will well and truly be on baby countdown.

Ah this website is quite the godsend.

Sugarmooma Sep 24th 2012 1:45 am

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Originally Posted by CAdreaming (Post 10296248)
Im joining as well now please :lol: Serious home sickness
Good luck to the OP - Im told it hits then gets better......ride with the tide - go with the flow - as they say up here in hippy Northern CA!!!

24 years and counting and sometimes it still hits me as well, not often but I usually make M take me out for a long ride on the Harley. Soon blows the dooldrums away;)


Hope yours passes soon mate:fingerscrossed:

New-and-unsure Sep 24th 2012 1:47 am

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Originally Posted by N1cky (Post 10296098)
That sounds positive then:)

Have you been to the Walt Disney museum in San Francisco? It's really interesting especially for a Disney fan.

We have indeed, went a few weeks ago. I loved the model of Disneyland!

halfmoon Sep 24th 2012 5:37 pm

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Originally Posted by New-and-unsure (Post 10296252)
I realised this evening that actually this is normally my favourite time of year at home - I love it when the nights draw in and it gets colder and Saturday night tv starts back again (X Factor etc - I know I know, I probably shouldn't admit to that).

You don't have to miss the X Factor...!

I have only been here a week but setting up a VPN for British tv was a priority. My secret fix is Downton Abbey and Coronation St :thumbsup:

Jerseygirl Sep 24th 2012 5:46 pm

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Originally Posted by halfmoon (Post 10297624)
You don't have to miss the X Factor...!

I have only been here a week but setting up a VPN for British tv was a priority. My secret fix is Downton Abbey and Coronation St :thumbsup:

I do find watching UK TV helps tremendously. Although I enjoy many US programs...they just do not do dramas like Brits do. I find many of the US non comedy programs very funny in places...but it's not the same as the British sense of humour.

When I moved here in '96 there was no Skype/FaceTime...no BE...no watching UK TV programs...I didn't know where to look for British goodies. Now I can watch Corrie while enjoying a bar of Cadbury's...then speak to my daughter in Canada using FaceTime or my sister in the UK using Skype. I can even walk down the streets of old haunts using Google Earch. For me that connection really helps...it's my little link with home and my loved ones.

CAdreaming Sep 24th 2012 10:51 pm

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Originally Posted by Sugarmooma (Post 10296253)
24 years and counting and sometimes it still hits me as well, not often but I usually make M take me out for a long ride on the Harley. Soon blows the dooldrums away;)


Hope yours passes soon mate::

:thumbsup:

chilwell Sep 26th 2012 7:36 am

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OK I can totally sympathise, I moved to Istanbul in 2008 and absolutely HATED it, wanted to move back home so badly. However I went back to the UK for a visit 9 months after I moved and realised it wasn't so great after all and the grass wasn't greener on the other side. Try to get out and meet people, I know it's so hard, talk to the other ladies in your group, I'm sure they will talk to you, tell them you are new in town and you need some help settling in. What I have found about Americans here is that they are warm people who will help you.

We are going to move again next summer, this time to Michigan which brings me to a new post with a whole heap of questions!!

Take care of yourself, I wouldn't go back to the UK in November I don't recommend you do that, 14 months is such a short time. We've had 4 years here and it's flown by!

joto Sep 26th 2012 5:35 pm

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For the first 6 months I would have been on the first plane back if I could have done. We were living in an apartment and I felt trapped, as we had been in a house before moving over. The different way of life did take a lot of getting used to, but I told myself, it's only for 2 years, so the light was at the end of the tunnel. The time will fly by when the new baby arrives, and "going home time" will be there before you know it.

Steve_ Sep 26th 2012 5:42 pm

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My advice (and what I do) is if for any reason I feel homesick towards the UK I go to Vancouver, which is pretty much the same except people drive on the other side of the road and there aren't as many roundabouts. Much easier to get to.

After being sat in crushing traffic on the Trans-Canada while it is pissing with rain, or paying outrageous prices for things, I find myself rapidly "cured".

New-and-unsure Sep 26th 2012 8:06 pm

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Thank you! These replies really do make me feel better. Having a better couple of days, probably because I have had things booked in (or at least, plans in my head). Need to start thinking about how I can fill up next week!

Some days I'm like 'we only have 14.5 months left, that's nothing' which cheers me up, then other days I think 'geez, even this time next year we'll still be here'.

Have my 20 week scan at the end of Oct so after that I'm going to allow myself to start properly baby shopping (plus hopefully we'll know what we're having). That should make me happy!

I really take my hat off to those of you who got arrived here on an indefinite basis but wanted to go home a lot in the first few months. At one point we were talking about coming here for 3 years. Pretty sure i'd have been throwing the towel in if that had been the case. As it is I think well we'd look silly if we went home before 6 months, then after that it's pretty much baby time, then by the time baby is old enough to fly we'll be kind of on the home stretch.

Anyway, thank you all again you lovely people!


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