Rsvp
#1
Rsvp
What is it with invitations here.....or rather not replying to them?
3rd year on the trot we've sent out birthday invites for my toddlers birthday (he was 4 this year) to the kids in his "class" at "school" and his baby/toddlergroup friends. Every year, we get replies from the Europeans, Scandinavians, Asians etc, but never from the Americans - or at least we only get a reply from a small proportion - this year 1 in 6 replied that they were coming, and the rest just ignored it.
Same thing has happened with a party for our one month old daughter this weekend (its a Chinese Tradition) - we have 60 invites out and have had literally a handful of replies.
To me it seems incredibly rude, but I just wondered if people here don't recognise RSVP requests - is it just a cultural difference? Or are we being too forward with our toddlers invites inviting kids that he knows but whose parents we don't know? Or do people just plain not like us
3rd year on the trot we've sent out birthday invites for my toddlers birthday (he was 4 this year) to the kids in his "class" at "school" and his baby/toddlergroup friends. Every year, we get replies from the Europeans, Scandinavians, Asians etc, but never from the Americans - or at least we only get a reply from a small proportion - this year 1 in 6 replied that they were coming, and the rest just ignored it.
Same thing has happened with a party for our one month old daughter this weekend (its a Chinese Tradition) - we have 60 invites out and have had literally a handful of replies.
To me it seems incredibly rude, but I just wondered if people here don't recognise RSVP requests - is it just a cultural difference? Or are we being too forward with our toddlers invites inviting kids that he knows but whose parents we don't know? Or do people just plain not like us
#2
Re: Rsvp
Originally Posted by Yorkieabroad
What is it with invitations here.....or rather not replying to them?
3rd year on the trot we've sent out birthday invites for my toddlers birthday (he was 4 this year) to the kids in his "class" at "school" and his baby/toddlergroup friends. Every year, we get replies from the Europeans, Scandinavians, Asians etc, but never from the Americans - or at least we only get a reply from a small proportion - this year 1 in 6 replied that they were coming, and the rest just ignored it.
Same thing has happened with a party for our one month old daughter this weekend (its a Chinese Tradition) - we have 60 invites out and have had literally a handful of replies.
To me it seems incredibly rude, but I just wondered if people here don't recognise RSVP requests - is it just a cultural difference? Or are we being too forward with our toddlers invites inviting kids that he knows but whose parents we don't know? Or do people just plain not like us
3rd year on the trot we've sent out birthday invites for my toddlers birthday (he was 4 this year) to the kids in his "class" at "school" and his baby/toddlergroup friends. Every year, we get replies from the Europeans, Scandinavians, Asians etc, but never from the Americans - or at least we only get a reply from a small proportion - this year 1 in 6 replied that they were coming, and the rest just ignored it.
Same thing has happened with a party for our one month old daughter this weekend (its a Chinese Tradition) - we have 60 invites out and have had literally a handful of replies.
To me it seems incredibly rude, but I just wondered if people here don't recognise RSVP requests - is it just a cultural difference? Or are we being too forward with our toddlers invites inviting kids that he knows but whose parents we don't know? Or do people just plain not like us
#3
Re: Rsvp
Originally Posted by robskatie
I've noticed the same thing with thank you notes, I always write a little note to say thank you, even if it is someone I don't know that well, I have yet to recieve one from any US associates, maybe we just expect too much
On the other hand, if you want Happy Secretary Day, or Vet Tech Assistant Twice Removed Day, they'll have a ton of them.
#4
Re: Rsvp
Originally Posted by robskatie
I've noticed the same thing with thank you notes, I always write a little note to say thank you, even if it is someone I don't know that well, I have yet to recieve one from any US associates, maybe we just expect too much
#5
Re: Rsvp
Have to provide a self addressed envelope, with the reply card wedding style, or people just don't bother.....very lazy...
#6
Re: Rsvp
Originally Posted by Bob
Have to provide a self addressed envelope, with the reply card wedding style, or people just don't bother.....very lazy...
#7
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Re: Rsvp
Originally Posted by Bob
Have to provide a self addressed envelope, with the reply card wedding style, or people just don't bother.....very lazy...
don't forget the stamps. People like return envelopes to be stamped ready to just pop in the mailbox.
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Re: Rsvp
Even a phone call to say that they are coming would not cost as much as a stamp. It is very rude when they don't tell you whether or not they are coming. If they didn't reply, I would just not cater for them.
#9
Re: Rsvp
Originally Posted by Yorkieabroad
You're joking right...tell me you're joking.....
Don't know why they can't just ring or email a response though, but they don't...well it isn't the norm from what I've seen at least..
#10
Re: Rsvp
Originally Posted by sibsie
Same peeve for me. Even in the card shops there are hardly any thank you cards, and New Home cards are a real rarity.
On the other hand, if you want Happy Secretary Day, or Vet Tech Assistant Twice Removed Day, they'll have a ton of them.
On the other hand, if you want Happy Secretary Day, or Vet Tech Assistant Twice Removed Day, they'll have a ton of them.
NC Penguin
#11
Re: Rsvp
Originally Posted by NC Penguin
Not a problem finding Thank You cards in the US if you know where to look. As well as card shops, I've found them in Dollar stores, and places like Target and K-Mart.
NC Penguin
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#12
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Re: Rsvp
Originally Posted by sibsie
Still not commonplace, unless I want to hike the 20 miles to the mall.
#13
Re: Rsvp
*Some* people can be lame, no doubt about it... but most of my friends are the thank you note sending type, as am I. (all 'mericans)
As far as invites, perhaps you should try e-vite, and/or include an email address as well for the RSVP. It's the technology age, and I've found that for the more "formal" parties I've thrown like showers, etc, including an email address along with regular address and phone number on the RSVP part of the invitation insures many more replies than address and/or phone number alone. People are used to communicating via email these days, and frankly, I think it's an extremely efficient method of replying to an RSVP.
If you do do that, and people still don't reply- a "blanket" email to the lame-o's right around the RSVP date might help get additional replies.
Good luck!
As far as invites, perhaps you should try e-vite, and/or include an email address as well for the RSVP. It's the technology age, and I've found that for the more "formal" parties I've thrown like showers, etc, including an email address along with regular address and phone number on the RSVP part of the invitation insures many more replies than address and/or phone number alone. People are used to communicating via email these days, and frankly, I think it's an extremely efficient method of replying to an RSVP.
If you do do that, and people still don't reply- a "blanket" email to the lame-o's right around the RSVP date might help get additional replies.
Good luck!
#14
Re: Rsvp
Originally Posted by NC Penguin
Not a problem finding Thank You cards in the US if you know where to look. As well as card shops, I've found them in Dollar stores, and places like Target and K-Mart.
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Re: Rsvp
Originally Posted by sibsie
Same peeve for me. Even in the card shops there are hardly any thank you cards, and New Home cards are a real rarity.
On the other hand, if you want Happy Secretary Day, or Vet Tech Assistant Twice Removed Day, they'll have a ton of them.
On the other hand, if you want Happy Secretary Day, or Vet Tech Assistant Twice Removed Day, they'll have a ton of them.
Elvira