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Moving with older child
Hi all, does anyone have recent experience of moving to the US with a child nearing GCSE age? My eldest child is 13 (August birthday), going into Y9 next month. My younger two are only 10 and 5, so I don’t have the same concerns about their transition. Realistically it would be early summer 2020 if we move at all, so they’d be going into Y2, Y7 and Y10 in the British system. Those who have done this, are you happy you did? How have you found the schools? The move would be to Massachusetts. Thank you. |
Re: Moving with older child
Originally Posted by familyofive
(Post 12726861)
Hi all, does anyone have recent experience of moving to the US with a child nearing GCSE age? My eldest child is 13 (August birthday), going into Y9 next month. My younger two are only 10 and 5, so I don’t have the same concerns about their transition. Realistically it would be early summer 2020 if we move at all, so they’d be going into Y2, Y7 and Y10 in the British system. Those who have done this, are you happy you did? How have you found the schools? The move would be to Massachusetts. Thank you. So, the system here has been good to him and us. I think he has a grand total of $700 in fees for the semester, and is currently working for the school as head of sound in one of their theatres, marking math papers, and mentoring guys in the first two years. Schools in the US vary from town to town very much, let alone from state to state. You need to do some research about PRECISELY where you want to go - there is none of the going to schools outside your area like there is in the UK - unless you pay something like 10 grand a year for the privilege. So pick a great school, and expect to pay for rent a rate commensurate with the fact. Schools also start earlier than the UK, so its probably a good plan to be here for the start in August. |
Re: Moving with older child
We live in MA although my kids have only ever gone to school over here. The previous poster is right in that every town/school district can be completely different to another so you need to know exactly where you would move to. However, some school districts do allow school choice so you can go to school in a neighboring town if that town allows it - the money follows the child. Your 14 year old would be a freshman (first year) in high school so it would be an opportune time to start schooling here. I’ve found the elementary schools here similar to UK schools (I was a UK teacher) but high school is a whole different system and takes some getting used to. From my experience, your child would maybe be behind in social studies (history and geography) because that’s very US specific in lower grades. Also - math seems to race ahead here compared to the UK - my daughter is going into her freshman year and because she did pre-algebra in middle school she’s now a year ahead in high school. Lastly - high school takes 4 years here (14-18) so if you’re planning to move back before then I’m not sure how it would work for you. |
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Thank you, no if we moved then it would be permanent, so college (and cost!) is also a consideration. I know that holding summer borns back a year can be done too, would you think starting my (then) 14 year old in 8th grade instead of high school would be considered in most towns? He is of average ability, so I wondered if that would help him adjust/make friends before HS. |
Re: Moving with older child
Originally Posted by familyofive
(Post 12726892)
Thank you, no if we moved then it would be permanent, so college (and cost!) is also a consideration. I know that holding summer borns back a year can be done too, would you think starting my (then) 14 year old in 8th grade instead of high school would be considered in most towns? He is of average ability, so I wondered if that would help him adjust/make friends before HS. |
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Once again, holding your son back a grade will totally be down to the school district you choose. Our town has the cut off date of September 1st. My daughter has friends who are in her grade but turned 15 in August - the difference will be that they were held back before starting Kindergarten so they’ve gone through school with their peers. As he’s coming from the UK anyway that won’t make a difference- it will totally depend on the rules of your school district. As a FYI I’m almost positive that coming in with an English accent will work in his favor, especially with the teenage girls lol! My nephew came to visit for a few summers and my daughter’s friends loved him and his accent😉 |
Re: Moving with older child
Our two had a couple of hours testing with a school counsellor to check their skill levels on admission.
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Re: Moving with older child
Much depends on the child, to be honest, and how prepared you are, as schooling over here is very different from the UK and varies from State to State. I know from friends, that Massachusetts is a very good state for schools unlike Texas. Some kids as you will see from posts on this site, do exceedingly well and others, like my middle son, struggle. Moving him at 13 was a big mistake but on reflection, he would had issues even if he had stayed in Scotland. That is his personality. If you do decide to come over, just be prepared to be a huge shoulder to lean on to, even the younger ones as they will have their moments. My youngest daughter who turned 30 yesterday, always says the best thing we did for her, was to get a good therapist for her when middle son was doing crazy stuff!
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Re: Moving with older child
Change can be both difficult and exciting for children. It may not become apparent right away that they are struggling with the relocation. To help them cope you may try to help them see the positives such as giving them an opportunity to decorate a new room or including them in the packing so that they feel like they have an important part to play. Be sure not to get rid of children's items before the move. It will be hard enough to adjust to the change, don't add on the additional emotional stress of loosing a favorite stuffed animal.
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Re: Moving with older child
Thanks all. It’s so hard to decide what to do, but I feel that we are at a crossroads of ‘go soon or wait a very long time’ as our children are quite spaced apart, so one or the other will soon be at a crucial point at school. The kids are very keen to go, which is positive, but they definitely view it with rose tinted spectacles. |
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Although my kids never went to school in the UK I do have experience as a teacher in England. I’ve found that the academic choices my high schooler has now are mind boggling and although she is pushed hard in the core subjects, her choices for electives are creative and there seems to be something for most kids to tap into their interests! And the sports, at least in our school district, are second to none. Teenagers over here seem to be kept busy either with school, school sports or local sports leagues, which I like! |
Re: Moving with older child
Originally Posted by familyofive
(Post 12727812)
Thanks all. It’s so hard to decide what to do, but I feel that we are at a crossroads of ‘go soon or wait a very long time’ as our children are quite spaced apart, so one or the other will soon be at a crucial point at school. The kids are very keen to go, which is positive, but they definitely view it with rose tinted spectacles. My two were 10 and 11 when we moved here ( 30 yrs ago) and honestly they just adjusted with little to no problems from the start. We looked for a small school district in a very small town which worked to our advantage. For a while it was me and their dad that had the hard time adjusting, they were fine! Good luck to you, it will fall into place eventually. |
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