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Old Aug 7th 2023, 1:24 am
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Default Re: Moving to the Bay area - need help with public school minefield!

If they dont disclose the salary then all of this is becoming moot.

Suspect its a lowball and they are scrambling. Better to move to CA with eyes wide open, not good to be on the wrong side of the richoor divide here.
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Old Aug 7th 2023, 1:26 am
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ps no idea why the tongue emoji appeared. Meant to be rich : poor
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Old Aug 7th 2023, 2:24 am
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Default Re: Moving to the Bay area - need help with public school minefield!

Originally Posted by Lion in Winter
Perhaps they don't want to. It's a bit of personal question, and they asked for information on public schools and finding a place to live, not on whether or not they could afford the move.

In any case, they have been alerted now - if they didn't already know - that SF is an expensive place to live to varying degrees and the internet can provide the rest if they want to look at specific details and costs.
They did indicate that they requested the move, for whatever reason -- so obviously their minds were made up some time ago and all the warnings are moot.
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Old Aug 7th 2023, 3:07 am
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We can close the thread then ROFL
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Old Aug 7th 2023, 4:40 am
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Default Re: Moving to the Bay area - need help with public school minefield!

Originally Posted by Bellybratz
This is great thank you. Wow what lot of stuff they need to enroll!!! Just booked my eldest in for a chicken pox jab. They don't have to have the jab here, he caught it as a 3 year old but l can't prove it!
Yes, and you may have trouble obtaining some of it until you have a rental and maybe even have it wait for a utility bill.

To minimize disruption you may want to have your husband move and find a place and get everything in place before following.

I’m terms of an IEP you may also want to understand what paperwork if any the school/district will accept, they may want to do their own testing which may take time before they will allocate/hire additional resources. We have friends in town who weren’t thought something similar and the process was not fast….
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Default Re: Moving to the Bay area - need help with public school minefield!

Originally Posted by christmasoompa
No experience in California, but if the rental market is as hot there as it is here (Boston), then allow a LOT longer as competition for places will be fierce and unfortunately as a newcomer to the US with no credit history, you'll often be way down a landlord's list of applicants. It took us months to find a landlord that would consider us, every property we viewed had numerous applications (most had 20 or more in the first day) and frankly we just weren't desirable as tenants - and that was with my husband's company paying the rent for us, so even with a Fortune 500 company underwriting our tenancy.
Glad you found somewhere In 2017 when we rented in Boston is was hard to begin with. I had my credit history (was OK), but my wife had a ding (for a few bucks in a forgotten Macy's card....another story), it was hell for about 3 months.
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Old Aug 7th 2023, 9:13 am
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Default Re: Moving to the Bay area - need help with public school minefield!

I think it’s too funny to join a public forum to expect help anonymously yet not willing to pay it forward by sharing specifics that others could find insightful.
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Default Re: Moving to the Bay area - need help with public school minefield!

Originally Posted by destone
I think it’s too funny to join a public forum to expect help anonymously yet not willing to pay it forward by sharing specifics that others could find insightful.
Nothing 'funny' about the OP's posts at all. The OP asked specific questions about state/public schooling, and also disclosed their budget for the type of housing they're looking for. All information needed to help others decide whether or not they could answer these questions was provided. You don't need to know how much this family will be earning in order to answer those questions.

'Pay it forward'? Anyone looking for information re. enrolling children in schools that meet their children's educational needs in the Bay area will be able to read the responses on this thread. Anyone looking for information on what level of salary is required to do x, y or z in the Bay area can do a forum search for this information, or even better, start their own thread seeking information specific to their needs.

Continually asking the OP to provide unnecessary personal details, in this case salary details, and then chastising them for not doing so, is bullying behaviour. Please stop.




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Default Re: Moving to the Bay area - need help with public school minefield!

Originally Posted by PetrifiedExPat
Glad you found somewhere In 2017 when we rented in Boston is was hard to begin with. I had my credit history (was OK), but my wife had a ding (for a few bucks in a forgotten Macy's card....another story), it was hell for about 3 months.
The only reason we got somewhere was that I'd posted on a local FB group asking for any leads on off market properties at one point, and had been contacted by somebody saying they were thinking about renting their house this summer. She and I exchanged several messages and so she 'knew' me a little bit when the house went on the market and so that gave us a bit of an advantage, she and her husband then asked to interview us via Zoom and finally we had an application accepted after that! She and her husband were also originally immigrants, they'd moved from India 20 years ago, and said they remembered how tough it was. Otherwise I think we'd still be looking.

Originally Posted by destone
I think it’s too funny to join a public forum to expect help anonymously yet not willing to pay it forward by sharing specifics that others could find insightful.
Very personal specifics though. I wouldn't share my salary on a public forum either. I think there's a whole Bill Bryson column about how Americans are happy to talk about their salaries openly and Brits would rather gouge their own eyes out…...definitely not one to push a Brit on IMO, please respect the OP's choice if they don't wish to share that personal info.

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Old Aug 8th 2023, 5:03 am
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Originally Posted by spouse of scouse
Nothing 'funny' about the OP's posts at all. The OP asked specific questions about state/public schooling, and also disclosed their budget for the type of housing they're looking for. All information needed to help others decide whether or not they could answer these questions was provided. You don't need to know how much this family will be earning in order to answer those questions.

'Pay it forward'? Anyone looking for information re. enrolling children in schools that meet their children's educational needs in the Bay area will be able to read the responses on this thread. Anyone looking for information on what level of salary is required to do x, y or z in the Bay area can do a forum search for this information, or even better, start their own thread seeking information specific to their needs.

Continually asking the OP to provide unnecessary personal details, in this case salary details, and then chastising them for not doing so, is bullying behaviour. Please stop.
No... the OP needs to give more details. Pretty wishy washy response to be honest.
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Old Aug 8th 2023, 6:42 am
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Default Re: Moving to the Bay area - need help with public school minefield!

Originally Posted by PetrifiedExPat
No... the OP needs to give more details. Pretty wishy washy response to be honest.
The OP doesn't "need", and is not obliged to do anything more. Stop badgering them. It's unseemly
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The OP doesn't "need", and is not obliged to do anything more. Stop badgering them. It's unseemly
I think we have hit a dead end. No need to flip-flop any longer.
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Originally Posted by PetrifiedExPat
No... the OP needs to give more details. Pretty wishy washy response to be honest.
How are more details of a salary needed when all the OP asked about was schools and what ADHD support may be offered? Tbh, I'm struggling to see why it's relevant to their question, or why people are pushing the OP repeatedly on this point when it's clear they don't want to give that info. Hopefully the OP can pick out any relevant info from the responses given so far, and hopefully those with experience of schools in the areas s/he is looking at will comment and get the track back on topic.
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Default Re: Moving to the Bay area - need help with public school minefield!

Originally Posted by christmasoompa
How are more details of a salary needed when all the OP asked about was schools and what ADHD support may be offered? Tbh, I'm struggling to see why it's relevant to their question, or why people are pushing the OP repeatedly on this point when it's clear they don't want to give that info. Hopefully the OP can pick out any relevant info from the responses given so far, and hopefully those with experience of schools in the areas s/he is looking at will comment and get the track back on topic.
I think on the latter we can drop it.

For the former, you are right of course.

In terms of problem/solution I believe the salary question to be in context, but its subjective so we could argue until the cows come home about that.

Reading between the lines (I know is anecdotal BS), its a low ball offer and this thread is likely panic inducing. So I will leave it there!
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Default Re: Moving to the Bay area - need help with public school minefield!

Call the school district office and have a chat with them. I always found them extremely helpful and gave me lots of information and things to think about. Also call apartment places, property management companies etc. and just ask a lot of questions. I live near Sacramento so not the Bay area but close to it but or many years I managed people from all areas of the San Francisco region and would visit them on a regular basis and I know that their incomes were nowhere near what has been quoted here. You can get a lot of information on google and by contacting companies and can work out a pretty accurate budget. Only you know how important it is to have your nails done weekly, how often you like to eat in fancy restaurants or what car you would buy and only you can assess if your husbands salary would be sufficient. It is an expensive place to live but the people I worked with loved it although our area if full of Bay Area Transplants with more people moving here every day!

Edited to add to check the school dates before calling the school district. Our district started back on Monday so the office is manic and it is not a good time to call with more general questions.

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